I think if they did high-top sneakers with knotted laces it would probably work perfectly
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I call Casey Stickle the oracle because anytime someone asks a question she
Jumps in with an answer. She thinks she is an authority on everything maass related. I once asked her if she was related to them as she was answering all the questions. She is the first to jump to their defence as well. When the other child of Asa’s was mentioned she could hardly contain herself. She was having none of it.
this sums up so much about them!!
A isn't a grown man. He can't hold a real job, dresses like a teenage boy, and can't take criticism.
Oh I completely agree. Bare feet in general are gross. Abbie walks in other people's homes bare feet too. She is bare feet in the car which is probably filthy and then sits on the furniture at home. So gross. Her feet sweat when in shoes, especially in Florida.
Do they at least wash her feet when she gets home? Yuck.
I've noticed they don't make her wear socks with her slip on sneakers.... not only is that asking for blisters but it's going to smell SO bad unless they're replacing them like once a month....
YESSS!!!!!!!!! It drives me insane!!
How does she know right from left foot?
Pretty sure she doesn't know. She puts them on the wrong feet all the time.
Sorry, I'm with the family on this one, surprisingly! Putting on her own shoes is something she can do independently with slip-ons. She doesn't have the manual dexterity to put socks on properly and take them off on her own. This is a girl who can barely use the bathroom on her own; being able to manage her own shoes is a small victory that I would hold onto. Is it annoying that she takes her shoes off so much? Maybe, but I don't think it's that big of a deal most of a time (out at a restaurant they absolutely need to force her to keep the shoes on, though).
I completely agree.. It is a small victory that she does put on her own shoes, independently.. Also, yes, I have heard several times "Abbie, wrong foot" and she will switch to the other foot... I also agree that when they go out to eat, may she does either need to learn not to take them off OR she wears shoes that she can't take off so easily.. Either way, to reinforce the "we don't take our shoes off at restaurants or wherever we wear __ shoes..."
Those poor parents. They are better people, than me. They lived with the non stop screaming for 4 years? I would have packed my bag and left by day 2.
My brother has sensory issues with shirts and anything touching his knees clothing wise. He also hates the feel of socks. Whole other thing with because he can and does talk to us about it. The rule, when we take him, out, is that he has to dress for the weather (no shorts in winter, no going shirtless, shoes and socks must be worn). He hates it and says if we make him wear stuff like that he won't go with us. And he'll try about once every few times to take something off in the car. He does that, the car gets turned around.
Abbie doesn't seem to have any limits like that. Anywhere she goes the shoes come right off. I can see going barefoot at home since it is warm enough. But away from home? I don't think she takes them off at school. At least I didn't see them off in the few times they filmed her there. The school seems to get her to do these basic things pretty well. If A & P are such experts why aren't they able to follow through with what the school does? Small children learn this, why can't she?
Abbie doesn't seem to have any limits like that. Anywhere she goes the shoes come right off. I can see going barefoot at home since it is warm enough. But away from home? I don't think she takes them off at school. At least I didn't see them off in the few times they filmed her there. The school seems to get her to do these basic things pretty well. If A & P are such experts why aren't they able to follow through with what the school does? Small children learn this, why can't she?
Because they aren’t experts. It’s been hard for me to even pay attention to what they do/say after they let her jump in that mucky water in an unfamiliar place.
Because they don't have a clue.. They are just now trying to implement things that ABA has been doing for YEARS with Abbie, from home therapy to school but sadly, Asa doesn't do them enough and she know's P is a push over.. Also, yes, she should know from school, that taking shoes off anywhere is a big no-no and I am surprised the school hasn't addressed it, in the morning, when she holds up pick up line, putting her shoes on...
Also, can we get a shout-out on how AWESOME Abbie's workers are, at the school, that wait for Abbie each morning and bring her out every afternoon.. Especially the aid that is usually with her every day! I seriously love her! She is so patient with Abbie and her whole family!! I wished I remembered her name..
I've always thought that, as well. It seems to overwhelm Abbie having multiple people telling her what to do and telling her good job at the same time. Asa is always preaching about Abbie's sensory processing issues, well HELLO. Three different people prompting her and praising her simultaneously is definitely sensory overload. Then they don't seem to understand why Abbie starts to get upset and doesn't want to complete the task. I recall Brandi saying a few times to do the least amount of verbal prompting and use hand signals/signing. I think this is not only so that Abbie will begin to do more tasks without help but also so that she doesn't get so overwhelmed.
I've noticed when they talk with her they also use a lot of junk filler phrases instead of keeping things simple and clear. Instead of "Abbie, would you like this? or this?" they'll say things like "we gotta make a decision!" "Let's decide what you want!" "Come on you like these!" All sorts of phrases that aren't clear about what is being asked of her and aren't helpful. That's just one example but they do it a LOT. I sometimes want to yell at them to just STFU and let her process. Talking at her more using phrases she hasn't learned well is going to make her so confused.
And then when they ask her to make a decision they NEVER LET HER ACTUALLY MAKE THE DECISION. It's always "Oh you don't want that!" "You'd like this better!" Like how is she supposed to understand choosing if they never let her actually do it??
It was sad watching Abbie hiding in the corner of the dark laundry room. Something was bothering her and unfortunately she couldn’t express it. I don’t know if it was the filming or she didn’t feel well. Many times, I feel so sorry for her.
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