Yes like when they took her to the convenience store and asked her to pick out an item but then said “no, choose something else”. Isn’t the point of the task to show her she has the freedom to pick her own item?
Yes like when they took her to the convenience store and asked her to pick out an item but then said “no, choose something else”. Isn’t the point of the task to show her she has the freedom to pick her own item?I've noticed when they talk with her they also use a lot of junk filler phrases instead of keeping things simple and clear. Instead of "Abbie, would you like this? or this?" they'll say things like "we gotta make a decision!" "Let's decide what you want!" "Come on you like these!" All sorts of phrases that aren't clear about what is being asked of her and aren't helpful. That's just one example but they do it a LOT. I sometimes want to yell at them to just STFU and let her process. Talking at her more using phrases she hasn't learned well is going to make her so confused.
And then when they ask her to make a decision they NEVER LET HER ACTUALLY MAKE THE DECISION. It's always "Oh you don't want that!" "You'd like this better!" Like how is she supposed to understand choosing if they never let her actually do it??
Also like.... so what if she picks something she doesn't like? Honestly that would probably enforce her learning the importance of choice. She's not gonna starve because she didn't get the flavor of cookies or chips she normally does. The girl gets to make very few choices and have very little autonomy, let her fucking live a little.Yes like when they took her to the convenience store and asked her to pick out an item but then said “no, choose something else”. That might be confusing for her when she doesn’t know WHY she’s being told no. Isn’t the point of the task to show her she has the freedom to pick her own item? Then you have Priscilla, Summer and Becca all trying to tell her to pick something. That must be confusing.
yeah I felt so bad for that poor person behind the counter. she seemed very kind and patient, but I can't imagine how irritating and stressful it must have been to have three adults and one child all talking over each other about how to pick out one item, with one of them brandishing a camera about.Also like.... so what if she picks something she doesn't like? Honestly that would probably enforce her learning the importance of choice. She's not gonna starve because she didn't get the flavor of cookies or chips she normally does. The girl gets to make very few choices and have very little autonomy, let her fucking live a little.
This also comes down to them being poor planners. They all went into that dessert place with ZERO gameplan. Brandy needs to tell them to STFU while she works. They need to not talk. They should have decided beforehand how they were going to let her choose. Are we going to let her point to the case? Or are we going to buy two desserts and let her pick from those two? Instead, they end up crowding the register, yelling over each other, and stressing out the poor retail worker who doesn't know how to help. Such a mess and a waste of time.
Especially uncomfortable for the worker because they obviously are trying to teach Abbie to choose and communicate that to the woman behind the counter, but the woman behind the counter doesn't know if she should be just paying attention to what Abbie wants or checking with the adults! It puts her in such an awkward position where she could be accused of not respecting Abbie or not going with what the parents/therapist say. Before they start the process, one of them should have stepped ahead and briefly told the person behind the counter what they're doing and how to make it easy for her.yeah I felt so bad for that poor person behind the counter. she seemed very kind and patient, but I can't imagine how irritating and stressful it must have been to have three adults and one child all talking over each other about how to pick out one item, with one of them brandishing a camera about.
Exactly! Even when she picked an Almond Joy at the convenience store Priscilla says “I don’t know if you’re going to eat an Almond Joy, you’ve never had one”. And she makes her put it back.Also like.... so what if she picks something she doesn't like? Honestly that would probably enforce her learning the importance of choice. She's not gonna starve because she didn't get the flavor of cookies or chips she normally does. The girl gets to make very few choices and have very little autonomy, let her fucking live a little.
This also comes down to them being poor planners. They all went into that dessert place with ZERO gameplan. Brandy needs to tell them to STFU while she works. They need to not talk. They should have decided beforehand how they were going to let her choose. Are we going to let her point to the case? Or are we going to buy two desserts and let her pick from those two? Instead, they end up crowding the register, yelling over each other, and stressing out the poor retail worker who doesn't know how to help. Such a mess and a waste of time.
This pisses me off to no end, when they do this!!! They "give her a choice" but then take the choice away because it doesn't fit them or something they would have chosen.. It is completely giving her mixed signals..Exactly! Even when she picked an Almond Joy at the convenience store Priscilla says “I don’t know if you’re going to eat an Almond Joy, you’ve never had one”. And she makes her put it back.
I also feel like this might seem a bit of a stretch, but I also thing it sets a dangerous precedent for Abbie. Your choices don't matter. If you say no, someone can choose to do something anyway. You choose one thing, someone will just choose something else for you anyway. Autonomy is SO important. You're even supposed to start practicing it with babies before they can talk or understand. She may not consciously understand exactly what's going on but in the end she will learn "What I want for myself doesn't matter" and that's very scary.This pisses me off to no end, when they do this!!! They "give her a choice" but then take the choice away because it doesn't fit them or something they would have chosen.. It is completely giving her mixed signals..
I would be concerned if my child’s therapist allowed me to talk all over her and our visits looked like that, personally.. I first would never be taping their visits, interrupting the therapist all the time, nor acting the way they do..And after all that chaos and BS with A&P not letting Brandi do her job, A says "If you're ABA therapy doesn't look like this, you should be concerned."
Before pigcill gets too much credit, we saw the mayo trick on a cooking ch yrs ago & it’s even better w/ sourdough bread & then swiss or whatever you choose. Mayo is so much better than butter.I love Pricilla's grilled cheese, I make it that way all the time now. The one with mayo instead of butter on the outside, either Muenster or Fontina cheese and red pepper jelly, it's delicious.
And not to mention that he sounds like a gay arse man!I cringe when I hear Asa say “ super cute “ like today he referred to Abbys sneakers as “ super cute “ I’m sorry what grown man says that ? He says it constantly !!!
Just another example of Asa being a control freakIt's yet another example of saying one thing and doing another. One of Asa's major (and oftentimes unrealistic) goals for Abbie is for her to be as independent as possible. By not letting her choose a frickin candy bar or making her keep choosing until she selects they one THEY want her to have is robbing her of what very little autonomy she has (as was previously mentioned).
So what if she chooses something and doesn't end up eating it? It's a cpl of dollars and with the amount of Dunkin and Chick-Fil-A they get every day, I think they can swing $1.50 on candy. Not to mention if she doesn't end up eating it, I'm sure someone else will. It's not like it would go to waste.
He is a soy boy, rememberBefore pigcill gets too much credit, we saw the mayo trick on a cooking ch yrs ago & it’s even better w/ sourdough bread & then swiss or whatever you choose. Mayo is so much better than butter.
When accidents happen most so close to home, they are really living on the edge driving that open air “buggy” on the roads w/ distracted drivers everywhere! They can do it anytime, but not fair to Abbie.
Also, god forbid they get in an accident in the car, her feet would be unprotected w/o her shoes on. I think of that anytime I take my shoes off in a car. In any case, the smelly shoes on/off & hence, dirty hands thing gets old. Why not edit that out? lol.
Why do i always sense they’re trying to get Abbie to go for the biggest & fattiest treat like the brownie? And notice no clip of her eating the cookie like a feral child this time. I must’ve paused & played the choc covered pretzel clip back several times just to see that feral expression & how fast she was. Many said she looked feral. Must’ve been why he didn’t show it today. And good going Summer...teaching these sugar addicted parents it’s OK to cut back on the treats by only offering 1/2 the cookie. Abbie won’t miss it!
And not to mention that he sounds like a gay arse man!
When I watched it the first time, it sounded like she said "I do wanna eat." I replayed it at least 3 times. She doesn't usually make those noisesi Would suggest some Egyptian sandals or some kind of footwear that she can’t take off to change that behavior. I still say she understands more than they give her credit for.
Ps maybe if they Tried some sneakers and double knotted them it would be much more difficult to take them off in public
And who is this Casey stickle? Could it be one of their dummy accounts I’m starting to wonder at 11:11 of today’s video someone commented it sounded like Abby said I give up I went back to that video replayed it three times and it most certainly said that yet this Casey girl says that’s just one of her sounds. Wow
Maybe she is trying her best...almost a frantic attempt to get someone in that dysfunctional house (IMO) to pay attention to her!!When I watched it the first time, it sounded like she said "I do wanna eat." I replayed it at least 3 times. She doesn't usually make those noises
I do not understand why the ABA therapists of the world have not united and gone public to address his dumbassery on their profession.And after all that chaos and BS with A&P not letting Brandi do her job, A says "If you're ABA therapy doesn't look like this, you should be concerned."
At first I didn’t get it but now I do. If we’re going to talk about awareness, let’s bring awareness to the fact that some children are just non verbal, I believe this is the case with Abbie.Maybe she is trying her best...almost a frantic attempt to get someone in that dysfunctional house (IMO) to pay attention to her!!
Even though man boobs denies it and it triggers him very badly, occasionally there are lots of comments saying Abbie is saying things.
Who knows.
Now you're MY hero!!Before pigcill gets too much credit, we saw the mayo trick on a cooking ch yrs ago & it’s even better w/ sourdough bread & then swiss or whatever you choose. Mayo is so much better than butter.
When accidents happen most so close to home, they are really living on the edge driving that open air “buggy” on the roads w/ distracted drivers everywhere! They can do it anytime, but not fair to Abbie.
Also, god forbid they get in an accident in the car, her feet would be unprotected w/o her shoes on. I think of that anytime I take my shoes off in a car. In any case, the smelly shoes on/off & hence, dirty hands thing gets old. Why not edit that out? lol.
Why do i always sense they’re trying to get Abbie to go for the biggest & fattiest treat like the brownie? And notice no clip of her eating the cookie like a feral child this time. I must’ve paused & played the choc covered pretzel clip back several times just to see that feral expression & how fast she was. Many said she looked feral. Must’ve been why he didn’t show it today. And good going Summer...teaching these sugar addicted parents it’s OK to cut back on the treats by only offering 1/2 the cookie. Abbie won’t miss it!
And not to mention that he sounds like a gay arse man!
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