Checked out but is the one holding up the surgery. She doesn’t seem to care for Lu so what impact is the recovery going to have on Erin?She checked out from Luella a while ago. Very obvious just based on her posts.
First time poster here and I created an account just to talk about Erin. I just cannot believe the lack of interest and emotional connection she seems to have with Lulu.Checked out but is the one holding up the surgery. She doesn’t seem to care for Lu so what impact is the recovery going to have on Erin?
That’s how I have felt about her, but have never wanted to say it out loud to anyone.. like she is kind of maybe hoping the worst happens so the problem ‘goes away’. I know that’s awful, it’s fucking awful and I hate saying it, but I cannot shake that feeling. I would do anything to ease my child’s discomfort and pain, even if it meant scary surgery. She does nothing.First time poster here and I created an account just to talk about Erin. I just cannot believe the lack of interest and emotional connection she seems to have with Lulu.
I don’t want this to come across the wrong way but for a while now I have felt that she has absolutely no intention of allowing Lulu to have the surgery and perhaps subconsciously has chosen to allow her disease to progress. She seems to have checked out of participating in her treatment options. She doesn’t take her to Napa, she plays around with her medications without doctor supervision. It’s very dangerous and I can’t understand why her family hasn’t intervened. Tom seems like her “second chance” at having the family she pictured having, and there doesn’t seem like a lot of crossover between her disappointing life with Lulu and her perfect life with Tom. It is all very confusing and alarming. I hope that someone intervenes soon before it is too late for Lulu and she is beyond medical help.
Yes, it’s so disturbing. She’s got some very deep, resounding psychological issues and she desperately needs help. I wonder if anyone in her family is clocking on… she seems to have very little support from those around her in terms of family and long term friends so is that an indication? I wonder what the support worker’s take is on it all…That’s how I have felt about her, but have never wanted to say it out loud to anyone.. like she is kind of maybe hoping the worst happens so the problem ‘goes away’. I know that’s awful, it’s fucking awful and I hate saying it, but I cannot shake that feeling. I would do anything to ease my child’s discomfort and pain, even if it meant scary surgery. She does nothing.
She has mentioned friends in the early days and how a lot of her friendships have been lost, but seeing as how her personality is on the gram, I suspect that she has in fact pushed them away, or anyone who may possible give her advice or assistance. It's like she's the only mother to ever feel helpless and struggle to cope with elements of raising children. I honestly cannot imagine what it would be like for them overall, but I would do every single thing in my power to give my kid a fighting chance and it really does feel like she's just given up all hope on Lu. It's so sad really.Yes, it’s so disturbing. She’s got some very deep, resounding psychological issues and she desperately needs help. I wonder if anyone in her family is clocking on… she seems to have very little support from those around her in terms of family and long term friends so is that an indication? I wonder what the support worker’s take is on it all…
I feel the same as you guys, but it’s hard to express as it’s so horrible. I feel like she either wants a miracle cure that would make Lulu completely epilepsy/associated problems-free, or…she almost wants the worst to happen. Surgery isn’t going to fix Lulu completely so she’s not interested as she knows it will still be a long and hard road afterwards (although would hopefully make Lulu’s life much better).That’s how I have felt about her, but have never wanted to say it out loud to anyone.. like she is kind of maybe hoping the worst happens so the problem ‘goes away’. I know that’s awful, it’s fucking awful and I hate saying it, but I cannot shake that feeling. I would do anything to ease my child’s discomfort and pain, even if it meant scary surgery. She does nothing.
doesn’t want to do the hard yards but is building a house and has a newborn. Both of those things can and should have been put on the back burner for poor Lus sakeI feel the same as you guys, but it’s hard to express as it’s so horrible. I feel like she either wants a miracle cure that would make Lulu completely epilepsy/associated problems-free, or…she almost wants the worst to happen. Surgery isn’t going to fix Lulu completely so she’s not interested as she knows it will still be a long and hard road afterwards (although would hopefully make Lulu’s life much better).
I feel sorry for Tom as well as it feels like she’s putting so much pressure on him to be perfect and ‘normal’ as that’s all she can handle. God help him if he deviates from her expectations at any point in his life! I do understand wanting another child and hoping that they’re OK, but for me it would be more because I hope the child has a good and happy life rather than because I personally needed that child to heal me from the experience of my first child.
Very well put. Totally agreeI first called Erin out here when she blasted on her stories what I thought was a supportive comment from a follower. I was told on here that she can grieve how she wants to which apparently meant she could say and do what she wanted. Since then I haven't followed her because I don't think just because you're grieving you get to be mean. I know hurt people hurt people etc but it just didnt sit well with me.
Anyway, since then, and more so since Tom's arrival, I think she is more unhappy with Lu than ever. She used to write with love and pain but now I just see everything about Lu being a burden.
I probably can't articulate this well but it's almost like she hasn't accepted Lu's diagnosis. The absolute constant mention of '...but epilepsy ruined that', 'seizures ruined today', epilepsy is really all consuming for her. And maybe it is for other parents too, I'm grateful to not know but the other people I follow with children with illnesses and disabilities it's just a part of their life, doesn't take away every bit of joy. I think she needs a lot of therapy to grieve the life the wanted and accept the life she has.
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