Erin - Little.Lulu.Love #3

[santababy]

Continue everyone!

To recap:

Erin did a Q&A last night.. the following things were discussed

1. Lu’s condition either (in her opinion) originated from her 6 week vaccinations or birth trauma. Not bad luck. She flip/flops what she thinks depending on the day

2. Their new two story house has not been checked to see if it is inclusive for Lu, despite Erin whinging and bitching that everyone else is not inclusive for Lu.

3. Erin posted that her and Dave “felt like their best selves on their child free holiday, which made her sad to realise how different their lives would be moving forward” - take of that what you will.

4. She will #notcomment on the GFM because everything was used appropriately

5. Chrystal who was her god send and probably did more parenting then her, was put on the blast for up and leaving with no explanation (sure Erin)

If anyone else has anything to add, please go ahead!

 

[Michy02]

Erin really needs to self reflect on why Chrystal left. At the end of the day it’s a job and I have no doubt that her workload would have increased since Toms birth. It seems like Erin solely focused on caring for the baby during the day and night with day nurses and night nurses caring for Luella.

I don’t think she wants to parent her anymore as she says in the Podcast she has a hopeless future. She can’t see the blessing of her beautiful daughter, she may never walk, talk or toilet herself independently but she’s still entitled to live a happy life with a loving family.

 

[boysenberry]

If I was the new employee and I saw this I’d resign immediately, way to make them feel welcome and valued Erin! She appears to have no insight into her behaviour whatsoever.

 

[snarklife]

Excellent summary and thanks for the new thread @santababy. Some other comments

-It appears Erin never looks after her two children by herself and blames “their different scheduling needs” as the reason why.

-Despite having one on one support workers during the day and night to assist Erin with L’s care. Erin wants L to go into mainstream schooling and clearly has not engaged with EDCP for L (or whatever NSW version is called)

- They have an architect and interior designer for their Sydney build but haven’t consulted with an OT

- it will be interesting to see if the new carer films enough content for Erin to post and pass off as though she was there for the moment like she did with C.

- Erin is delusional and will say things like L will never independently eat or walk whilst showing videos of L in a walker or chewing and swallowing food (I get not completely independent but still not the vibe she’s describing)

I came here at the start of the Q&A last night but had to stop reading her answers as it was too much.

I have a 2 yr old and a baby. My 2 yr old has complex medical needs which include seizures, tube feedings, oxygen support, and at this stage cannot sit independently let alone walk . He is also the cheekiest funniest little dude and made our lives infinitely better - both our kids do. I’m so lucky to be their mum.

I hope any of her new followers from the recent podcast got an insight into what a sad and horrid person she is through her answers last night.

I also hope C left for a better employment opportunity and that it wasn’t due to a toxic workplace. The way Erin put her on blast was awful I’m still shocked.

 

[EveryDaysASoulDay]

As insufferable and entitled as she comes across in the small glimpses we get of her on social media can you imagine how demanding Erin is in person, esp. to someone she deems as her subordinate? She must be positively miserable to work for.

I have no doubt that the environment became too toxic for Chrystal. She is probably a sensitive and empathetic person (you would have to be to take on that kind of work) and by all accounts deeply cared for Lu. I can see where the circumstance would easily become untenable. Erin’s manipulation and gaslighting, her nasty attitude, the guilt trips she must have put on her for not catering to her every whim. She probably expected to be able to hand Lu over to Chrystal completely, like a nanny, instead of having her there as a helper. I can only imagine the way she spoke to her. I’m sure she just finally got to her breaking point and, like someone said earlier, realized that there was no gradual extrication from the situation without Erin melting down.

 

[loveinfluenzas]

Excellent summary and thanks for the new thread @santababy. Some other comments

-It appears Erin never looks after her two children by herself and blames “their different scheduling needs” as the reason why.

-Despite having one on one support workers during the day and night to assist Erin with L’s care. Erin wants L to go into mainstream schooling and clearly has not engaged with EDCP for L (or whatever NSW version is called)

- They have an architect and interior designer for their Sydney build but haven’t consulted with an OT

- it will be interesting to see if the new carer films enough content for Erin to post and pass off as though she was there for the moment like she did with C.

- Erin is delusional and will say things like L will never independently eat or walk whilst showing videos of L in a walker or chewing and swallowing food (I get not completely independent but still not the vibe she’s describing)

I came here at the start of the Q&A last night but had to stop reading her answers as it was too much.

I have a 2 yr old and a baby. My 2 yr old has complex medical needs which include seizures, tube feedings, oxygen support, and at this stage cannot sit independently let alone walk . He is also the cheekiest funniest little dude and made our lives infinitely better - both our kids do. I’m so lucky to be their mum.

I hope any of her new followers from the recent podcast got an insight into what a sad and horrid person she is through her answers last night.

I also hope C left for a better employment opportunity and that it wasn’t due to a toxic workplace. The way Erin put her on blast was awful I’m still shocked.

Great summary. I also had to stop watching Erin's q&a last night as it was so heartbreaking and horrific.

I hope Chrystal is okay and knows she has all of our full support and I hope she seeks legal advice.

You sound like an amazing mother Snarklife

 

[EveryDaysASoulDay]

I certainly hope she’s not seriously considering the possibility having another child.

 

[screenfreelookatme]

I certainly hope she’s not seriously considering the possibility having another child.

And reusing a name that they had considered for Lu. Almost like replacing her. Erin can have the two perfect, typical children she deserves

 

[santababy]

Excellent summary and thanks for the new thread @santababy. Some other comments

-It appears Erin never looks after her two children by herself and blames “their different scheduling needs” as the reason why.

-Despite having one on one support workers during the day and night to assist Erin with L’s care. Erin wants L to go into mainstream schooling and clearly has not engaged with EDCP for L (or whatever NSW version is called)

- They have an architect and interior designer for their Sydney build but haven’t consulted with an OT

- it will be interesting to see if the new carer films enough content for Erin to post and pass off as though she was there for the moment like she did with C.

- Erin is delusional and will say things like L will never independently eat or walk whilst showing videos of L in a walker or chewing and swallowing food (I get not completely independent but still not the vibe she’s describing)

I came here at the start of the Q&A last night but had to stop reading her answers as it was too much.

I have a 2 yr old and a baby. My 2 yr old has complex medical needs which include seizures, tube feedings, oxygen support, and at this stage cannot sit independently let alone walk . He is also the cheekiest funniest little dude and made our lives infinitely better - both our kids do. I’m so lucky to be their mum.

I hope any of her new followers from the recent podcast got an insight into what a sad and horrid person she is through her answers last night.

I also hope C left for a better employment opportunity and that it wasn’t due to a toxic workplace. The way Erin put her on blast was awful I’m still shocked.

Snap Snarklife, we’re a tubie family over here as well!
We sound super similar

 

[ljch]

If I was the new employee and I saw this I’d resign immediately, way to make them feel welcome and valued Erin! She appears to have no insight into her behaviour whatsoever.
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I had the same thoughts. Plus blasting an ex employee on a public forum, where the ex employee can’t defend herself, is a MASSIVE red flag for further employees.

 

[No just No]

There’s so much about Erin Q&A last night that gives me the ick. Her answers aren’t “raw and honest” and she’s not “brave” and there’s not anything admirable about her. If anything it just seems like she’s wishing Lu away because she’s not “perfect” and “normal”. Her complete dismissal of any of Lu achievements (no matter how small) breaks my heart. She certainly gets no joy from her daughter. I don’t doubt she loves her but she comes across as she doesn’t enjoy her existence.

 

[Pollie]

Agree with above poster who thought Crystal was probably overnworked. I have friends who work for NDIS, they help the families but don’t do the mum/dad job. They offer some respite, it appears Crystal may have done the parenting role every hour she was there.

 

[RawlingsBlue]

Let’s hope Chrystal finds tattle and spills the tea

 

[MrsEyeroll]

As far as school goes my son goes to a special needs school and there are children there that are far worse off than Lu that go to school full time. And guess what? They are included in absolutely everything! Even sports day! You can't tell me that these beautiful kids don't get something out of being included and being in an educational environment. She's acting like it's a waste of time and Lu is so far gone she can't even have an education. Yes she bleeping can! Just like she CAN walk (just with assistance), she CAN communicate (in her own way) and she DOES enjoy things (look at her beautiful smile when she's on the swing!). Honestly Erin can get fucked she has really pissed me off in the last 24 hours.

 

[moulindickehead]

NSW offers an Early Intervention program in school the year before they start formal school (kindergarten here) for kids with disabilities and delays. They attend a class on school site for two hours twice a week, and practice self help skills and learning to navigate structured learning, socialising and an adapted playground etc with the support of a specialised teacher and an SLSO.

This is only accessible by contacting your zoned public school who put in a request in your behalf, which is reviewed TWICE a year by a panel who then place the kids. You literally need to have your info ready a year ahead of time to get a spot - Erin should be doing this NOW. Especially since the whinging about daycare? She doesn’t even have to pay for EI.

The same process is completed for placement in support units. By delaying looking at this, Erin is essentially forcing Luella to be tacked on at the end, stretching out an already allocated class, or worse, pushing someone out. There’s no way a mainstream class is going to be suitable, the workload on the educators and the impact on the class learning would be way too great logistically, so even if she enrols late she will still get a spot. As Luella rightly should.

Mainstream school in a unit potentially, but as mentioned that takes time to set up and depends on the code of the class as well as the places available (you don’t automatically go to your zoned school, you can be placed anywhere the panel seems appropriate up to like 30kms away; some schools only have certain classes e.g. hearing impaired, autism etc). With high physical needs, an SSP is very likely. Private special school enrolments fill out early so probably missed the boat on that one.

For someone who complains about how limited her daughter’s life is, she sure doesn’t prioritise anything that would help improve it.

 

[leeeeleeee]

Is the schooling thing really that complicated, is she the type to out her head in the sand when she finds decisions too hard, or do we think she’s just not that bright? I don’t see why you couldn’t google stuff make phone calls and figure out a school for your child.

 

[influencerstalk]

Is the schooling thing really that complicated, is she the type to out her head in the sand when she finds decisions too hard, or do we think she’s just not that bright? I don’t see why you couldn’t google stuff make phone calls and figure out a school for your child.

She does not seem to know how to use google…
But we all do research before enrolling our children in School….. I don’t get what she is confused about ?
There are signs up at every local school to enrol for kindy 2024. She runs every day and would pass multiple public schools?

Also if Chrystal took Lu to school why couldn’t Erin go to drop off /pick up too ? Why can’t she do the basics of parenting ? Or does she just not give an F about Lu ? Who wouldn’t want to see their child in their pre school setting ?

No wonder Chrystal got Jack of it. She must have sone every aspect of caring for Lu

 

[beebop88]

Lulu has no friends, Lulu will never have friends at her party, how incredibly sad. Maybe if you actually took her out to socialise (because she absolutely can) why wouldn’t she be able to make friends? The only thing stopping Lulu from making any kind of progress is YOU Erin. Everything is “I can’t, Lu can’t, it’s too hard”. My kids school has a support unit and the non verbal kids, the kids in wheelchairs, the kids with Down syndrome, they all communicate with each other in their own wonderful ways and they absolutely have friends. Jesus this woman. LU CAN DO THINGS. Celebrate her.

 

[dulcielaroux]

The questions and answers tonight have been some of the worst yet. The one about her anxiety in Thailand - they checked in on the kids once a day? I don’t expect parents to spend their child-free time in constant contact but you’d think when you have a medically complex child like Luella, or even a child as young as Tom, you’d be checking in more than once a day. Who is empowering her to be this honest on social media? Who is congratulating and applauding this kind of attitude to her children? I do not understand how she thinks sharing this stuff is a good idea.

And as for her confusion about people’s interest in other peoples kids vax status, I’ll say two things - some of us like to know whether our child is at risk of being exposed to measles or meningococcal, and if one of my kids was medically compromised and vulnerable I’d want to know I was doing everything I could to protect them.

 

[Maisiemouse]

Oh yes continue with this amazing advocacy work, spreading awareness and celebrating differences and all levels of ability 🫠