Hey everyone. I've been lurking here for a bit and chiming in now because her tweets about her new song remind me so much of a situation I was in with a friend recently. As in, Emma seems to have the same attitude as that friend of mine.
This person was incredibly toxic, she left me in so many horrible situations and constantly disregarded my boundaries or feelings. We had near constant arguments or tension going on at some point. Finally we had a big 'disagreement', to use the same word as Emma, where I finally shared in extensive detail how sick I had become of our friendship, and what behaviour was hurting me and why. She deflected everything but also promised to change.
Months later, I realized that things had stayed exactly the same, so I finally cut her out of my life. By that point it was clear she either didn't know how to change, or didn't want to, and she wasn't going to acknowledge how harmful her behaviour was. And she still has Emma's kind of narrative about it all; that I cut her out "so unexpectedly", she thought we were fine because we already "talked things out" and made up... like yeah, we "talked things out", and nothing changed?? So why wouldn't I cut you out?
I wouldn't be surprised if Emma's situation was similar, and she's also doing the "I thought everything was fine! Why can't people communicate honestly!" as a way to deflect, and not have to honestly reflect on her behaviour. Like sure, this friend might have just cut her out for no reason just because they're an mole who can't communicate, but my bet is that they had their reasons.
This person was incredibly toxic, she left me in so many horrible situations and constantly disregarded my boundaries or feelings. We had near constant arguments or tension going on at some point. Finally we had a big 'disagreement', to use the same word as Emma, where I finally shared in extensive detail how sick I had become of our friendship, and what behaviour was hurting me and why. She deflected everything but also promised to change.
Months later, I realized that things had stayed exactly the same, so I finally cut her out of my life. By that point it was clear she either didn't know how to change, or didn't want to, and she wasn't going to acknowledge how harmful her behaviour was. And she still has Emma's kind of narrative about it all; that I cut her out "so unexpectedly", she thought we were fine because we already "talked things out" and made up... like yeah, we "talked things out", and nothing changed?? So why wouldn't I cut you out?
I wouldn't be surprised if Emma's situation was similar, and she's also doing the "I thought everything was fine! Why can't people communicate honestly!" as a way to deflect, and not have to honestly reflect on her behaviour. Like sure, this friend might have just cut her out for no reason just because they're an mole who can't communicate, but my bet is that they had their reasons.