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I’m not related to Iraq in any way but from the Iraqi men I’ve known, I found them unfriendly and bad tempered lol. On a positive note, love Iraqi music and dancing. The dialect is
and voices so nice in singing.
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I’m not related to Iraq in any way but from the Iraqi men I’ve known, I found them unfriendly and bad tempered lol. On a positive note, love Iraqi music and dancing. The dialect is
and voices so nice in singing.
my husband to be is British Iraqi. We met at university and have been together for 5 years.i am not arab, his family all live in UAE, with some in England. It was hard to integrate at first but they are quite western, as many members of his family have married non-Arabs before. They have been quite welcoming, as their biggest “stipulation” was that I am Muslim (which I am). We’ve come a long way, when we visit his family in Dubai they let me stay at their place, despite us not being married yet.
I totally agree about the temper thing though! Thankfully it’s calmed down and I have quite the temper myself 🥲
I’m with you on the temper thing - it’s not exclusive to Iraqi men only
i am not arab, his family all live in UAE, with some in England. It was hard to integrate at first but they are quite western, as many members of his family have married non-Arabs before. They have been quite welcoming, as their biggest “stipulation” was that I am Muslim (which I am). We’ve come a long way, when we visit his family in Dubai they let me stay at their place, despite us not being married yet.
I totally agree about the temper thing though! Thankfully it’s calmed down and I have quite the temper myself 🥲
Mabrook on your upcoming nuptials!! It sounds like you found yourself the exception to the rule. In my post I was only half joking as my experience of western Iraqis isn’t much different to the ones anywhere else. But it’s nice to hear that his family are very open minded with you and your relationship
Thank you so much for your kind wordsI’m with you on the temper thing - it’s not exclusive to Iraqi men only
Mabrook on your upcoming nuptials!! It sounds like you found yourself the exception to the rule. In my post I was only half joking as my experience of western Iraqis isn’t much different to the ones anywhere else. But it’s nice to hear that his family are very open minded with you and your relationship
I’m trying hard to learn about Iraqi culture and customs in marriage, such as his mum told me Iraqi brides typically wear white (which I’m planning to do).Do you have any ideas on what I can do to embrace his culture in the wedding?
he is an exception, he isn’t so close to his Iraqi roots (hasn’t been back home since he was a teenager), and he cooks and cleans for me which I’ve heard is practically unheard of in arab men!
Aw you’re so sweet! Iraq has such a long, rich history it’s just a shame all the destruction it’s suffered the last couple of decadesThank you so much for your kind words
Do you have any ideas on what I can do to embrace his culture in the wedding?
he is an exception, he isn’t so close to his Iraqi roots (hasn’t been back home since he was a teenager), and he cooks and cleans for me which I’ve heard is practically unheard of in arab men!
Honestly if his family are westernised, I wouldn’t worry too much and just enjoy your big day. Your wedding might include lots of ‘dabke’ style dancing and typically the bride and groom join in for a bit so I would practice that as it might be tricky with heels and a dress! There are some fun traditions such as cutting the cake with a sword and feeding your spouse cake and a drink so I would just go with it if it makes his family happy as it’s just for a few moments.
Long term I would advise to try and learn Arabic as that will be really beneficial to you into integrating with his family (and your future in laws) the Iraqi dialect is also one of the easiest to learn!
Yay!! I’m so excited! I absolutely love learning about new cultures and embracing all his traditions. I’m more fascinated by it all than he isAw you’re so sweet! Iraq has such a long, rich history it’s just a shame all the destruction it’s suffered the last couple of decades
Honestly if his family are westernised, I wouldn’t worry too much and just enjoy your big day. Your wedding might include lots of ‘dabke’ style dancing and typically the bride and groom join in for a bit so I would practice that as it might be tricky with heels and a dress! There are some fun traditions such as cutting the cake with a sword and feeding your spouse cake and a drink so I would just go with it if it makes his family happy as it’s just for a few moments.
Long term I would advise to try and learn Arabic as that will be really beneficial to you into integrating with his family (and your future in laws) the Iraqi dialect is also one of the easiest to learn!
I’ve been meaning to take Arabic lessons too, I think it could help me generally, if we ever moved to the UAE near his family too.
thank you for all your help
Oh congratulations sweetheart! How very exciting! Inshallah many many years of a happy and blessed marriage. I would say for the wedding definitely learn how to dance to Iraqi music nothing crazy but just throw in some Iraqi spice if you will. Dance with his female family members they love that tit! Though for long term if you can learn how to cook some Iraqi dishes and even better if you learn from his mother because that shows you care and respect his culture. Definitely learn Arabic it’ll help you so much along the way and help you feel included.
i am not arab, his family all live in UAE, with some in England. It was hard to integrate at first but they are quite western, as many members of his family have married non-Arabs before. They have been quite welcoming, as their biggest “stipulation” was that I am Muslim (which I am). We’ve come a long way, when we visit his family in Dubai they let me stay at their place, despite us not being married yet.
I totally agree about the temper thing though! Thankfully it’s calmed down and I have quite the temper myself 🥲
At the end though if his family members are open minded and liberal then you have nothing to worry about just be yourself and enjoy your day.
No. If a man loves you he’ll want to marry you straight away. Trust me. When you know you know. Of course don’t rush but 2 years is too long.
@Scorpihoe congratulations. This is amazing advice. You can learn Arabic online. Go to preply and find an Arabic Iraqi tutor. Even better if they live in Iraq. It’s in your own time and they will teach you Arabic and the culture.
Learn how to cook and win your in laws heart. Even get your in law to teach you.
Wishing you a loving and long marriage.
But like don’t couples need to date first? Or I have been around white people for too long. I’ll be honest I’m usually around traditional arranged marriages those people usually get engaged for like 3 months and then get married. Is it the same for love marriage? What’s considered a really long engagement?
Your around white people too long.
Yes you date but trust me when a guy wants to marry you and you feel the love it won’t take 2 years. There are of course circumstances stopping some men. Could be financial, studying, career, family, culture clash, living in different countries etc.
Myself & hubbie love marriage. We would have married each other in 3 months. Of course we did not do that.
Inshallah a man will sweep you off your feet and you will see love rather quickly. In western world some are together for years and never get married or they take their sweet time.
Oh I see! I believe you 100% about when you feel the love it definitely won’t take long to want to marry someone. I’ve never been in a relationship so this thread and these kinds of talks are an eye opener.
Btw I love how we are talking to each other in two different threads
Thank you hunny! Inshallah!
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Have standards( be realistic ) and don’t expect too much. Make sure the standards you want are met and are not compromised unless it’s ridiculous.Oh I see! I believe you 100% about when you feel the love it definitely won’t take long to want to marry someone. I’ve never been in a relationship so this thread and these kinds of talks are an eye opener.
Btw I love how we are talking to each other in two different threads
Thank you hunny! Inshallah!
That way no fuckboy or looser will waste your time. Inshallah soon you will tell us about your engagement. I can’t wait.
I couldn’t agree with you more! You have to know what you want and need and make sure those are met. Unfortunately I see a lot of girls lose a lot of their standards and morals just to be with mediocre guys and they get excited over something so little that any decent guy would do. It’s very sad.Have standards( be realistic ) and don’t expect too much. Make sure the standards you want are met and are not compromised unless it’s ridiculous.
That way no fuckboy or looser will waste your time. Inshallah soon you will tell us about your engagement. I can’t wait.
You’re the sweetest! Inshallah!
There is some truth to what you are saying. You have made your point categoric a few times. I don’t think you need to constantly repeat yourself.
We don’t know the full story from either party. I think your going a little overboard with your criticism. Not all men are bad. People have their reasons. Life is not that simple.
@alwaysdreaming
They have just held hands? Emirati guys go all the way or they go down the religious route & do not do any of this & get married - quickly.
This whole story seems fictional. Yes there are a few rare exceptions but on the whole the society is like this. The cultural differences, the two year thing & the posters dreaminess is all a big red flag.
She shouldn’t be encouraged into thinking anyone will happen.
Unless you’re a moderator, please don’t moderate.
They have just held hands? Emirati guys go all the way or they go down the religious route & do not do any of this & get married - quickly.
This whole story seems fictional. Yes there are a few rare exceptions but on the whole the society is like this. The cultural differences, the two year thing & the posters dreaminess is all a big red flag.
She shouldn’t be encouraged into thinking anyone will happen.
Unless you’re a moderator, please don’t moderate.
thank you lovely
Oh I love Iraqi music so much, I’m listening on repeat his mother lives in Dubai so we only go and see her once a year usually, but I love the idea of learning an Iraqi dish (his favourite is dolma!!)That is a great idea! My mother in law taught me some Arabic while I was in Dubai, and I randomly started speaking it to my partner and he was so surprised
but I will definitely begin thank you for your kind words 
So I met Emiratis of both genders in university (I met my Saudi fiance this way LOL). My experience with the men in particular solely lies in their perspective on family values and how religious they are. The sh*tty Emirati men don't care since some have the means and connections to get away with their BS (again also depends, because one actually was handed a hard reality check while in Uni with us). I happened to have gotten lucky and met some pretty middle ground people.
They'll walk the fine line, but still pertain to their family values quite strongly and I bonded with them for that reason. I would invite them to my family gatherings and they invited me to meet their families when they came to visit the city.
Overall kind and firmly proud in their heritage. On a romantic level, I might be out of my scope here... unless we wanna slap all khaleeji men under a list.
They'll walk the fine line, but still pertain to their family values quite strongly and I bonded with them for that reason. I would invite them to my family gatherings and they invited me to meet their families when they came to visit the city.
Overall kind and firmly proud in their heritage. On a romantic level, I might be out of my scope here... unless we wanna slap all khaleeji men under a list.
Ladies, apologies if this thread might not be appropriate but I figured you will all be able to advise me or give me your thoughts. So I'm going on a date with an Emirati guy tomorrow. We matched via an app and have been speaking on the phone regularly. He seems really nice and genuine. He shared some photos of himself with me (nothing explicit just himself in front of buildings & landmarks in London) and I'm a bit worried now that he looks effeminate 
It's my biggest ick when guys are overly feminine so now I'm worried I'm wasting my time. Plus I don't want to lead him on as he's been very respectful and sweet with me so far. Are Emirati guys usually like that? I've never dated an Arab from the UAE so don't have much experience with them!
It's my biggest ick when guys are overly feminine so now I'm worried I'm wasting my time. Plus I don't want to lead him on as he's been very respectful and sweet with me so far. Are Emirati guys usually like that? I've never dated an Arab from the UAE so don't have much experience with them!- Status