Emirati men

[lippy491]

I’m from the US and dated a Saudi. Big mistake. He was so sweet and charming at first and months later the most controlling person. Toxic, abusive, demanding and felt like he owned my body. I had to take legal action because he wouldn’t let me break up with him and would stalk me. I’m still traumatized from that relationship.

 

[Nunu_al3nzy]

Bahrain is liberal that’s why saudis from khobar and damam love to vacay their to f*uck Russian models “wOrkinG” in manama, hell I’ve even heard bahraini girls sell themselves too. Unless these models have family in the country they’re working in it’s a 90% chance they’re whoring themselves out. They don’t even have to come to London to do their dirty shit they can do it on their doorstep. Emirati men are honestly not it, my cousin was married to one who divorced her after marrying her at 19 to marry a Moroccan woman. They actually don’t care about your feelings lmao. Imagine my cousin isn’t allowed to marry because he threatened to gain full custody of her children (who favour their mum over their deadbeat dad) despite being wealthy and from a reputable family he has cut her off financially many times for blackmail. I don’t know when and how we glamorised khaleeji men because they’re really not it. Maybe the older generations prior to the economic boom were humble and held their women in high regards. But this generation is so fucked up beyond belief. They don’t fear god at allllll it’s so embarrassing to see what many of them have become it like they are so obsessed with western culture they adopted it. The drugs, sex, disregard for their faith and morals. If you are looking to experience the khaleeji housewife dream. If trips to the mall, invitations to private showings at Chanel and dior, shouting at your Philippino maid, snapchatting your filler appointment, reviews on makeup and perfume no one asked for, pretending to eat that boujiee salad but stuffing ur face with indomie when you get home….if the above sounds like your cup of chai, marry Kuwaiti or Qatari

 

[ninaaaaa]

Lmfaoo just avoid all of this and you’re good

 

[Renata]

Oh yes thank you girl - continue here!

What I find screwed about emirati men:

1. Backwards - very! They treat women very badly.
2. double standards - to an uncomfortable extreme. They still want multiple virgin wives but will comfortably cheat on them - without protection.
3. They all seem to be looking for very low cost women that they can love. They are fed up of obvious gold diggers even though the only thing they offer is money (no manners, dessert mentality).
4. They don’t have any good tile models
5. Secretive
6. Temper issues - do as I say or I disappear and find someone else fast.
7. Once they have got rid of you (either because you rejected them or they slept with you) they pass your number into other guys - watch out for this. Seems to be a sex ring.
8. They seem to be getting divorced a lot. Even with all the privileges their wives don’t want them.

 

[Trolleydollycoffeelover]

Rashid Habtoor has made a reel about his welcome in Mykonos - cringe- he has sons that are adults and a wife he never reveals yet he parties like he is 21!

Omg reeks of desperation like an Arab version of Gianluca Vacchi ok ok so I went on a couple of dates with an Emirati that I met on Instagram but in Manchester was weird af. He was HOT but I found him extremely rude in restaurants etc and he obviously had a pampered life. He told me he’d never been on a train before so we took the train to Liverpool and he was taking photos and filming EVERYTHING, even taking pics of random people. He even commented he was surprised to see white people working as cleaners and in shops and said you’d never catch an Emirati doing that kind of work and the filipinos and bangladeshis do it. There wasn’t much conversation to be honest and then he dropped the bombshell of his wife and 2 kids…. Byeee!

 

[EnglishBreakfastTea]

I’ve been married to my Emirati husband for almost a decade, I know there are plenty of horror stories but let’s not generalise, there are a lot of good ones too and mixed marriages are not uncommon. In fact they are massively on the rise, and the divorce rate is lower in mixed marriages than in local-to-local marriages.

What I will say though is that when a man (of any nationality) shows you who he is and what his intentions are, believe him from the very first time. I know of too many girls who wasted time and got strung along thinking the man might change or his family might one day accept… the truth is that if he wants to marry a foreigner he can and he will. So many men do and they don’t require any special permission to do so (I believe in some other GCC countries like Qatar it is more difficult though but not 100% sure on that). If he is giving excuses about ‘I can’t, what would society say, my family would never accept’ take it for exactly what it is - an excuse. He’s just not that into you.

We are the first mixed marriage in my husband’s whole family, it certainly ruffled feathers and some sides of the extended family refused to attend the wedding as they didn’t approve. But my husband has never hidden me and nor has his immediate family. We don’t do the segregated thing either, we always mix together and I don’t wear hijab, we have a joint group of friends and so on. And I know many other couples like us, we’re not that unusual.

 

[ninaaaaa]

I look Moroccan ( they tell me) - I’m not.

they have a thing for Moroccan girls (I think).

I cannot say too much about that guy. I put it down to his lack of education but another guy I met was worse and was educated in the States.

he was tall and around 40 years old. I felt like he was abusing younger girls, by abuse I mean targeting 20 year old very-pretty students or cafe workers. Offering them money and access to his properties and then dumping them if they got attached.

he was cold as ice.

Yeah Moroccans tend to be over sexualized, kind of what they do to Latinas and other groups of “exotic” women. It’s very unfortunate because I’m sure they do not want to be seen like that. And yea some men go for younger, poorer women to feel power over them. Why do you think some Americans go to the Philippines for example to get with younger more vulnerable women? Anyways was your guy a businessman or something how did he have that many properties abroad?

 

[M1244]

What I can tell you from my personal experience:
Khaleejis are torn between wanting to be part of a western culture and maintaining their families standards. Hence why they can act like they don’t know you publicly yet you are extremely close (not necessarily dating but even as friendships).
e.g 2 great friends of mine (Emirati &qatari) who refuse to follow me on Instagram out of fear their relative see but we’re always chatting and seeing each other’s when they come to UK.
My advice would be to deal with caution, be ready to get heartbroken Bc it’s how it ends most of the time and at the end the day he can be madly inlove w you but will still marry his cousin.

 

[ninaaaaa]

knock, knock.. is this thread still active? who do you ladies think are the best men in GCC to marry since Emiratis are apparently not worth it.

Omanis if you’re up for it. They’re not as stuck up as the other one’s. Religion might be an issue since they follow their own sect... but if you don’t care go for it. My cousin married an Omani, not once did he ask her for sex b4 marriage when her Emirati boyfriend used to call her names for not giving it up. He bought her 2 mansions and they own a farm together. Her mom is a single mom and he she lives in the second house. Not once did he look down on her or her mom for their situation. He set up some of our friends with his friends and they’re all basically the same. Calm people who like nature and shit.

 

[ninaaaaa]

i have heard nice things about zayed bin sultan grandson of the president as well that he is actually a very well educated and decent mann not sure how true it is any idea anyone

Girl you give to much credit to these guys. Zayed bin Sultan is nice and respectful, I know people who have worked with him. But he too is a manwhore. He was exposed a long time ago. He was engaged and whilst being engaged he went to Boston and was dating a Jewish/ Lebanese escort named Lauren Biran. She’s pregnant now and has moved on in life but when they were dating he told her he was the Prince of Dubai and he would marry her. She was so caught up in his lies she actually believed him so she literally called herself a Sheikha. He also apparently slept with a bunch of trans people?? Anyways when the news broke out that was a huge embarrassment to the family so he returned to the UAE and the marriage ceremony took place.

Also Zayed’s father Sultan is messed up too. He’s an alcoholic who drinks during Ramadan. Apparently he’s involved in shady things which is why no one trusts him and he doesn’t hold any official positions like his brother. One day when he was drunk, he thought it would be a good idea to take one of his American workers and their underaged children on a boat ride to a private Island. Since he was drunk he lost control and the a girl’s head ended up breaking open and got cut by the propellers Instead of owning up to it, he called up an innocent neurosurgeon in the UAE then threatened to kill him in the desert if he didn’t operate on the girl and keep her alive. The girl is alive but she has permanent brain damage and Sultan stopped paying for her treatment. When she tried to sue him, he claimed diplomatic immunity like they all do, and then they dropped the case to not ruin the ties between the UAE and the USA. So now the girl is just left with permanent brain damage in a country where healthcare is expensive asf.

Sultan’s first wife, Sheikha, is not like him though. She is literally a saint. Everyone loves her. She donates to Somalia and Iraq for example and constantly tries to help and raise awareness. Apparently she raised some of the kids he had with other women as her own. Despite that though, this guy has like 20 children with different women. He has black children, Arab children, North African children, etc. I can share their social medias with you if you want. What pisses me off is none of them live like the children he had with his first wife, and he never acknowledges them publicly or post about their accomplishments (ex.His North African kids graduated from Sandhurst, his black daughter got into med school) like he does with his official children which is very unfair.

fazza lost my respect when he didn’t take a stand against his father regarding his step sister. As a man he could have saved her or help her at least. Is he educated in the west?

Girl Fazza wasn’t deserving of respect in the first place. He’s stupid and he wouldn’t have made it far if he wasn’t a Royal. Apparently he never wrote his poems, his FEMALE cousin wrote most of them. The guy is stupid and he doesn’t have education sis, he did a certificate in London for a couple of months then dipped. The whole progressive poet thing is a facade to appeal to outsiders and it worked. Do you know how many people fell for it and are in love with him online Also he is just going to continue his father’s actions against Latifah when he dies because that’s what men like him do.

 

[Nunu_al3nzy]

@Nunu_al3nzy very well put! Beautiful warning.

I think in LOndon they are still a novelty because they attend and all you see is the cars, wealth and some are good looking and tall.

I have met several over the years and usually I wouldn’t stereotype but I cannot see past their collective general attitude towards women. They even treat Muslim women badly, not as badly but they don’t spare them it seems.

I think the Russian women are the only ones that can outsmart them
And take a good chunk of their wealth for their trouble. My instinct was to get away FAST - they abuse you in an intoxicating way. I’m glad I got away. I cannot imagine living with them - they seem uncivilised, confused and spoilt.

like You said any woman looking for that dream life with them, forget it, they have lost themselves.

Why are they like this though? Do their mothers not teach them how to speak to people?

They even treat their own mothers like shit. It’s a culture thing 100% because our religion doesn’t say it’s ok to treat women this way. There’s a reason why the Middle East is one of the largest regions for traffic on pornography websites. The men love to consider women as inanimate objects and not real humans with emotions. Females are considered somewhat a trophy and once they find another nice, sparkling trophy they will take you off the shelf. This isn’t a issue prevalent in the khaleej it’s all over the arab world, and don’t get me wrong there are great men who are respectful towards women but it’s rare instances these days.

 

[rosesrevenge]

Something that isn’t spoken about enough is how many khaliji men are closeted homosexuals who make their wives life a living hell. I know personally kind beautiful intelligent women trapped in dead bedroom marriages to gay men for the sake of appearances. They are forced to endure awkward encounters for the sake of having a kid so the family will leave them alone. One guy had the audacity to tell his wife at least he’s not “gay” when they are in their country he waits until they go on vacation.

 

[ssagittarius]

hi ladies ! i feel i might be late to this thread but i’m in need of advice and don’t really feel comfortable sharing this with my close friends and family yet.
i’ve lived in dubai for a very long time and am originally pakistani, about a year ago i met a guy and he’s emirati. we got together pretty soon after that and around 9months into the relationship he asked me to meet him mother. i was nervous and all but i’ve grown up around emirati families and i honestly like to think i’m good with moms so i was in a way excited to meet her.

met her and she was so sweet, asked me about my life, education, family basically everything, thought it was going great. towards the end she asks me have my parents found any marriage prospects for me who are pakistani, i knew what was going to happen so i simply said no. she turns around and says it’s better if i look within my own culture and stop talking to her son because it won’t be accepted by her or his father.

i’m usually able to stand up for myself, have never been shy about speaking up but i literally froze, i knew if i spoke i’d start crying so i didn’t say anything. we said our goodbyes and i went and cried for a solid few hours in my car.

i spoke to my partner after and said i don’t think you and me could work and if there’s no possibility of us getting married we shouldn’t see each other anymore. he argued said im being stupid and what not, i blocked him but he managed to contact through mutual friends, came to my house etc. he spoke to me and said he’d be willing to fight for us to get married, it’s been abt three months since all this happened and we are still together.

however, he’s stopped speaking to his mother and it’s obviously because of me. i feel bad abt it but i can’t really force him to speak to her. however abt a week ago she texted me to meet, i told him and he said ok yea that’s good maybe she’s extending an olive branch. i went to see her at lunch, took a gift n all, when i get there she offers me money if i leave her son. so i left the second she did, i didn’t respond, i didn’t say bye, i picked up my bag and left. i told him and blocked him, refused to see him.

it’s been about two weeks since this has happened, he’s still trying to contact me and his mom has also called and sent flowers and what not. i haven’t told my parents because i know they’d be so so angry at the whole situation and frankly it’s embarrassing.

im just sort of stuck rn i don’t know exactly what i should do, i do really really love the guy and we both could see our future together and i guess because he did fight for me in his house he is serious abt being with me but at the same time i’m not sure if this could really like work in the long term because i mean i’ve heard good and bad stories from non emirati girls being married into emirati families. i’m just extremely confused and just need some guidance on where i should focus my energy in this situation.

my parents are both pakistani but came from different backgrounds and went through a similar situation but did get married and are extremely happy alhamdillulah. me and the guy grew up in the same circles, our families know of each other vaguely, we both are in the same financial category, both live in the same area. it’s like if i was emirati i wouldn’t have even had to wait a second to be with him and honestly honestly it’s so so hurtful that i’m being deemed not good enough because of my background. im proud of where i’m from, im proud of my culture and i hate the fact that for the last few months of my life it’s as if everyone is against that.

sorry for how long this is also i just really can’t believe this is happening

 

[teatimesara]

I’m not arab - what’s a khaleeji?

I know it’s common amongst south Asians to not hang out in certain areas but emiratis take it to an extreme.

Its also unusual for men to care so much what other people think. I’m curious as to why they do this?

mine of them kept complaining about how many Muslim women he had slept with, in a degrading way (as in they shouldn’t be sleeping around) yet he was happy to do so.

I have never met such a messed up group of people!

Im sorry that happened to you girl. Most of the time everything they do to foreign girls is left with no consequences. Sadly. Unless you tag them or report them. Most of them are just brainwashed from early age that anyone that isn’t their own (women) are for fun. And their own are not for fun. Thats why they cheat on them everyday.
Thats why we (Saudi girls) stay away from them, even though our culture is very similar.
Ofcourse its bad to generalize, but for the majority.

 

[ninaaaaa]

Idek the divorce rates are so high in the Middle East, especially for those who have arranged marriages. I know a lot of Saudi family members who had divorces and it’s usually because of a lack of respect between the couple. The husband cheats, has multiple wives without consulting the first wife then there comes a time that they can’t tolerate each other anymore. I feel bad for the kids involved. And plus it’s a generational thing so I hope parents stop forcing their kids to marry their cousins or whoever else they choose. And yeah @Renata everyone travels but that doesn’t necessarily mean they learn new habits.

 

[Renata]

You know Ahmed Al-Habtoor...a bunch of girls would post pictures with him every week at these really dark underground clubs back in like 2016/2017. Everything seems so transactional with these people because they’ll be really cuddly with girls for like a week then move on to a new one. And they never publicly claim you I just happened to see girls post about him because of mutuals. Honestly I think it might actually be a problem in the Arab world.You know Presidents like Obama and Biden, as messed up as they might be, they always flaunt their wives. Then you have guys like the prime minister of Lebanon who go on private Islands to meet with “models” and fund their lifestyles. I’m pretty sure what Hariri did is common among rich Arab men. I really hope the women level up because they deserve better. Imagine being expected to be a virgin pious wife when you hubby was and still is a manwhore who worships refrigerator built Russian models with pretty eyes

The Habtoor wives are hidden. They are probably young and beautiful. It says a lot about their husbands.

even so, as a wife of a public figure it must still hurt when they are absent in their public image. It’s pretty degrading. Dessert mentality - all that travel and they are backwards.

Fazza is no better. Always travelling, no public mention of his wife. He could show her in a modest way. It’s the outright denial. If the role models are doing this, imagine what the everyday ones do.

what a horrible lot.

 

[ssagittarius]

Hi 7abbibti!

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I went through almost the exact same thing with my husband, except vice versa. My husband is Saudi and I am Iranian but were both born and raised in the U.S. We met when I was 21 (am 29 now). Anyways what can I say, his parents loved me, but my parents hated the fact that he was an Arab and Saudi especially. My mom and brother were the worst to deal with. My dad was actually nicer. Lots of emotional trauma, cut off my brother (still don’t talk to him), etc. anyways one day me and my husband sat down, and said if we are really going to do this, commit to each other, get married, and start a family then we have to be solid together. Meaning we understood that certain things were going to happen, that will hurt certain family relationships, and we had to except that if we were going to be together for the long haul. It does get easier over time. It really does. If you guys love each other, and he seriously wants to marry you, then don’t cut him off. Relationships will build slowly with his mother if she sees that you both are serious. Or she might not. But that is OKAY. Don’t feel guilty because this life is too short. If you believe that he is compatible with you in every way and you guys are meant to be together, then have a serious conversation with him and be like “are you truly ready to do this.” One thing I was always worried about, was am I going to resent him for certain broken relationships with my family, now looking back years later, I do not. I do not resent him bc I love him. If you feel like he is going to resent you for his broken relationship with his mother, he won’t, If he is serious and if he truly loves you. I’m not going to sugarcoat it for you, it’s not going to be easy, especially in these early stages, certain days you will cry but you will have a great love that transcends all the above. And also if you have one set of parents that really like a partner, that helps so much. The khaleeji culture was a shock to me especially since I wasn’t raised in A khaleeji country, but since you both were, and already know the society and culture well, then fitting in culturally is not a problem for you at all.
I don’t know you but I am here for you xoxoxo

hi love! thank you so so so much, i read this a while ago and took some time off using social media and all to try and calm down (a little cringe i know), but ur post honestly really really got to me. you and your partner have an amazing story and i’m so happy that you both are together mashallah mashallah <3
i realized with everything happening in my situation i was feeling extremely guilty about hurting his relationship with his mom, i only connected that when you said it in ur post. above all when u mentioned that it would be hard and all the crying i did in fact cry again not because of anything bad but just because it made me feel not happy but at ease knowing others have been through situations like this so thank you so much.
just an update on it all, i spoke to my mom and dad told them everything she was very angry, my dad calmed her down. they told me aside from their feelings about his family after all this, if i want to be with him i can. since it’s ramadan ive been just doing my own thing, praying, going out with family and all. but last week i received this massiveeee iftaar dinner meal thing i don’t even know what to call it. found the card on it and it had his fathers name on it, i called him up and said this because i was very confused if it was even supposed to be at my house. said yes, said i spoke to my dad and he’s ready to meet ur dad and just talk. they met!! turns out they already know each other quite well and not just a little like i thought (all because tjey go to the same masjid lolll). but they like each other and both our fathers have decided to talk after eid
ive been praying every night for thag to go well and ladies if you’ll do the same !!! again thank you so much for ur kind words it really was one of the reasons i realized what i was feeling a bit better <3 xxxx

 

[cherryblues]

Before I got married, I'd been in relationships mainly with Khaleeji men, the nicest of whom was a Kuwaiti who didn't want any physical relations and just wanted to hold my hand at the movies and cook machboos for me (I was so shocked lol). Bahrainis were also quite nice. I married a Western-born Arab but non Khaleeji. Easiest relationship of all!

That is so sweet honestly! Kuwaiti people are really nice especially considering I’m Iraqi, I get along with them pretty well due to so many similarities culture wise. They are super chill and love to cook!

I can’t say much about dating because I’ve never done it due to religion and culture but I have made some great friendships and this how I view the men!

Saudi - The funniest guys possible, a bunch of jokers honestly
Kuwaiti - Great cooks! Really Funny and majority of them are super respectful
Emirati - Very open minded to other cultures and are pretty political which makes for great conversations
Omani- super humble and down to earth! Very low maintenance
Qatari - private and are quite the gentlemen

Btw hope this is not derailing the chat

 

[ksr96]

Oh yes thank you girl - continue here!

What I find screwed about emirati men:

1. Backwards - very! They treat women very badly.
2. double standards - to an uncomfortable extreme. They still want multiple virgin wives but will comfortably cheat on them - without protection.
3. They all seem to be looking for very low cost women that they can love. They are fed up of obvious gold diggers even though the only thing they offer is money (no manners, dessert mentality).
4. They don’t have any good tile models
5. Secretive
6. Temper issues - do as I say or I disappear and find someone else fast.
7. Once they have got rid of you (either because you rejected them or they slept with you) they pass your number into other guys - watch out for this. Seems to be a sex ring.
8. They seem to be getting divorced a lot. Even with all the privileges their wives don’t want them.

This is so interesting for me. Do you think other khaleeji men have a similar attitude? I dated a Bahrain guy for a while and there were no major red flags other than that he never took me for dinner in an “Arab” area but I thought this may be because of our age difference? He purported to be divorced but your posts have really opened my eyes.

 

[ninaaaaa]

Khaleeji is basically means Gulf Arab @Renata
@ksr96 I think Bahraini men tend to be more liberal than the rest. He probably didn’t take you to an Arab spot for dinner because Arabs always go out to dinner and can be very judgemental so if they saw you together that might have made you or him feel uncomfortable. Honestly it’s not good to make stereotypes but tbh most people I’ve know have had bad experiences with Saudi and Emirati men. It might be because their societies are so closed off compared to the rest of the Khaleeji countries...only recently did they start becoming more liberal and open. So for some of the older guys especially it’s hard to let go of what has been ingrained in their old society.