Emirati men

[marmar33]

I don’t want to go off topic but your way of talking reminds me of Anna Bey


I don’t relate with the rest (I want to be able to work and gain for myself) but I too would rather marry within my ethnicity. As someone who’s a bit more on the religious side it’s difficult to find someone who has a good balance (they’re either not-practicing or attribute to Islam things that are not part of our religion ), of course Arabs are no different but I had nothing but horror stories in the west so I’m tired

lol I dont know if that's an insult or not lmao

I also want to work and gain for myself by running my own business from home.. in my experience though the Arab guys I dated were all open to that but still prefer being the sole provider and gain pride from taking care of the financial part of running a home whereas western men.. in the past it was different but young American guys want to do 50/50 and still want a traditional wife (raises kids mostly themselves, takes care of house, cooks, cleans) that is so not practical.. European guys are the same although one benefit of European men is they are more involved in raising kids so yea I think a liberal Arab is a better deal than both of those.

 

[keahol]

lol I dont know if that's an insult or not lmao

Wasn’t intended as an insult but neither as a compliment, just an observation

European guys are the same although one benefit of European men is they are more involved in raising kids so yea I think a liberal Arab is a better deal than both of those.

It depends on which part of Europe, I’m from southern Europe and that seems to be pretty much the overall mentality although they can be quite controlling

 

[Cherrymama]

but as far as dating and astrology.. I've seen guys that marry women like that - there are khaleeji women especially in younger generation that talk and believe in astrology a lot.

I doubt there are many. Astrology contradicts Islam and if you sit there asking a khaleeji guy what’s his star sign? I don’t think it would go so great. It’s basically insulting.

Is there any other reason you want to marry a khaleeji guy? Apart from the cultural appeal, I’m assuming you’re not religious because of the dating and believing in astrology. Hope this is not offensive.

 

[EnglishBreakfastTea]

I doubt there are many. Astrology contradicts Islam and if you sit there asking a khaleeji guy what’s his star sign? I don’t think it would go so great. It’s basically insulting.

In my 12 years in the khaleej I’ve literally never met anyone who got offended/insulted by talking about zodiac signs actually a lot of people here are more open to seeing the links between astronomy, astrology and Islam. This article discusses the topic well.

What Does Islam Say About Astrology? - Muslim

Kaiser Aslam, the Muslim Chaplain at Rutgers University–New Brunswick in New Jersey, tells us about astrology in Islam.

muslim.co

There are locals who own yoga studios and holistic crystal healing stores as well. I don’t know what kind of extreme uptight khaleejis you’ve encountered lol

 

[marmar33]

I doubt there are many. Astrology contradicts Islam and if you sit there asking a khaleeji guy what’s his star sign? I don’t think it would go so great. It’s basically insulting.

Is there any other reason you want to marry a khaleeji guy? Apart from the cultural appeal, I’m assuming you’re not religious because of the dating and believing in astrology. Hope this is not offensive.

that's a big generalization lol because I have never experienced a khaleeji guy getting offended about talking about astrology.. are you Arab/middle eastern? I know plenty of guys and girls that talk about astrology. I even know people from religious families that speak about it - a lot of Arabs take the approach that astrology that is like predicting the day by day is haram like your daily forecast but personality traits based on sign is fine.

there are christians and jewish people also who look at astrology as sinful btw if they are super religious it has nothing to do w islam specifically

idk maybe you are speaking about a super conservative tribal man but what are the chances you would even be in his circle -

no offense but if youre not Arab you cant really generalize based on what you heard the Middle East is not a monolith like I said before ppl are different based on their background - tribal or not - financial status..

In my 12 years in the khaleej I’ve literally never met anyone who got offended/insulted by talking about zodiac signs actually a lot of people here are more open to seeing the links between astronomy, astrology and Islam. This article discusses the topic well.

What Does Islam Say About Astrology? - Muslim

Kaiser Aslam, the Muslim Chaplain at Rutgers University–New Brunswick in New Jersey, tells us about astrology in Islam.

muslim.co

There are locals who own yoga studios and holistic crystal healing stores as well. I don’t know what kind of extreme uptight khaleejis you’ve encountered lol

seriously I never ever heard of anyone getting offended talking about it. even just from the influencers mentioned on this site you can tell the gulf is changing rapidly especially with the younger generation these won't even be discussions in 10 years - like the girl itsara.ae she is Emirati from Abu Dhabi I believe - wears hijab and talks about astrology all the time on her stories not to mention other things that khaleeji women would never speak about even 10 years ago.

 

[Cherrymama]

idk maybe you are speaking about a super conservative tribal man but what are the chances you would even be in his circle -

no offense but if youre not Arab you cant really generalize based on what you heard the Middle East is not a monolith like I said before ppl are different based on their background - tribal or not - financial status..

Maybe you’re right and I’m just surrounded by the really conservative ones. I’m not Arab or middle eastern but I live and have been raised in the Uae.
Just because certain influencers talk about it doesn’t mean it’s accepted.
There’s also a difference between astronomy and astrology.

 

[M1244]

Happy new year Banat!! anything new or juicy ?

 

[Arabianbaby]

Salam Banat, hope you are doing all well. I’ve been reading this thread since this afternoon and I’m very intrigued so I wanted to share my story with you guys so I can get your opinion.
I’ve been with this Emirati guy for almost 2 years now and I absolutely love him. I didn’t expect to love him too because when we first met I wasn’t looking for anything honestly. We have great conversations and really enjoy each other’s companies. We enjoy each so much other that when we were long distance for awhile our calls would last 8+ hours. We don’t touch each other than just some hand holding because he respects my decision to wait until marriage. I adore him and I really do see myself married to him in the future but the thing is I’m scared our cultural and religious differences will clash especially when our families are involved. We come from different sectors of Islam and obviously I’m not an Emirati. Another thing is moving to completely different country. He’s quite clear that we will live in his country and that’s where he want his kids to be raised which I totally respect but it’s very nerve racking. These are only some of the issues but I was just wondering to any of the girlies here who are married to Emirati men please give me your opinion and of course any others on here

 

[saffronparker]

Salam Banat, hope you are doing all well. I’ve been reading this thread since this afternoon and I’m very intrigued so I wanted to share my story with you guys so I can get your opinion.
I’ve been with this Emirati guy for almost 2 years now and I absolutely love him. I didn’t expect to love him too because when we first met I wasn’t looking for anything honestly. We have great conversations and really enjoy each other’s companies. We enjoy each so much other that when we were long distance for awhile our calls would last 8+ hours. We don’t touch each other than just some hand holding because he respects my decision to wait until marriage. I adore him and I really do see myself married to him in the future but the thing is I’m scared our cultural and religious differences will clash especially when our families are involved. We come from different sectors of Islam and obviously I’m not an Emirati. Another thing is moving to completely different country. He’s quite clear that we will live in his country and that’s where he want his kids to be raised which I totally respect but it’s very nerve racking. These are only some of the issues but I was just wondering to any of the girlies here who are married to Emirati men please give me your opinion and of course any others on here

Bit confusing but I will go on the assumption that you do not live in the UAE and this relationship has been carried out over the phone mainly.
Unless he has made some serious moves already to get a ring on your finger, I'd be doubtful tbh.
Apart from that, expect the worst from his family and hope for the best.
Several of my closest friends are married to Emiratis and it truly is a mixed bag depending on how open-hearted the family are.
Some have been okay from the start. Some have shut out the foreign wife completely. Some only warmed up after the third grandchild appeared lol.
My best advice would be to assimilate as much as you can and sacrifice the parts of your culture/identity that clash with his when bringing up your children and presenting yourself to his family. If you really want to marry the guy. In a mixed Emirati marriage, the family will want to see the Emirati side dominate of course.
Otherwise, why has it taken two years?

 

[Renata]

@Arabianbaby

He sounds married & he is conducting emotional fraud on you with what’s missing from his marriage.

 

[alwaysdreaming]

@Arabianbaby I agree with the others. Why has it taken 2 years for him to even propose ? I also see red flags.

 

[Scorpihoe]

What do you ladies think of Iraqi men?

 

[cherryblues]

Wait is two years long or something? I thought that was normal for love marriages because don't you need time to get know the person?

 

[Arabianbaby]

I promise you guys he isn't married lmao but it's taken two years because we started as just friends. The actual friendship part lasted 8-10 months i would say. I was so set on marrying from my nationality because i just didn't want to deal with the culture clashes or any other things that i never saw him that way which kind of makes sound like a witch but i just couldn't deal with it lmao. Sorry for the confusion everybody.

I am 100% willing to assimilate to his culture and follow their traditions of course for the sake of our children and for his family. I don't plan creating tension just because of it. I knew when i accepted to be in a relationship with him that i am going to have to put my cultural and religious differences in the back row but i've also been clear that i'm not willing to convert to sunni islam and he's fine with that Alhamdulillah. It's just the family thing moving to whole a different country which scares me so much. What if i don't adapt well? What if his family can't stand me?

 

[saffronparker]

I promise you guys he isn't married lmao but it's taken two years because we started as just friends. The actual friendship part lasted 8-10 months i would say. I was so set on marrying from my nationality because i just didn't want to deal with the culture clashes or any other things that i never saw him that way which kind of makes sound like a witch but i just couldn't deal with it lmao. Sorry for the confusion everybody.

I am 100% willing to assimilate to his culture and follow their traditions of course for the sake of our children and for his family. I don't plan creating tension just because of it. I knew when i accepted to be in a relationship with him that i am going to have to put my cultural and religious differences in the back row but i've also been clear that i'm not willing to convert to sunni islam and he's fine with that Alhamdulillah. It's just the family thing moving to whole a different country which scares me so much. What if i don't adapt well? What if his family can't stand me?

“What if I don’t adapt well?” - then you will be quite unhappy. It will take time though. A couple years maybe. Depending on your background and previous experience (if any) with the culture.

“What if his family can’t stand me” - then it’ll feel like a life sentence. You’d have to avoid interaction where possible or keep it to a minimum but never show them attitude otherwise they’ll only use it against you. Hold your head high but keep grace. After a child or two they might soften up.

You’ll notice I don’t mention divorce as a solution.

InshAllah they welcome you with open arms.

If you will be brand new to the UAE then I strongly advise you to seek refuge in solid friendships with good-hearted women Specifically those in similar circumstances to your own. There are social circles of foreign wives married to locals and these ladies will be your best bet for emotional support if and when you begin life as a new wife. I personally found solace in my friendships with these ladies as we shared problems with each other in confidence that most others wouldn’t understand unless they’d married into a different culture, specifically the Arab one.

If you are really serious about this and the guy is actually going to make moves to make you his wife and move you over, then feel free to message me and I can point you in the right direction for a few things when you arrive in the UAE, specifically finding the social circles that may interest you.

 

[Renata]

I promise you he is married.

All you have are his words. You don’t know where he lives, his family etc.

Emiratis do not take this long to marry someone.

Please stop this.

 

[Arabianbaby]

“What if I don’t adapt well?” - then you will be quite unhappy. It will take time though. A couple years maybe. Depending on your background and previous experience (if any) with the culture.

“What if his family can’t stand me” - then it’ll feel like a life sentence. You’d have to avoid interaction where possible or keep it to a minimum but never show them attitude otherwise they’ll only use it against you. Hold your head high but keep grace. After a child or two they might soften up.

You’ll notice I don’t mention divorce as a solution.

InshAllah they welcome you with open arms.

If you will be brand new to the UAE then I strongly advise you to seek refuge in solid friendships with good-hearted women Specifically those in similar circumstances to your own. There are social circles of foreign wives married to locals and these ladies will be your best bet for emotional support if and when you begin life as a new wife. I personally found solace in my friendships with these ladies as we shared problems with each other in confidence that most others wouldn’t understand unless they’d married into a different culture, specifically the Arab one.

If you are really serious about this and the guy is actually going to make moves to make you his wife and move you over, then feel free to message me and I can point you in the right direction for a few things when you arrive in the UAE, specifically finding the social circles that may interest you.

Thank you so much habibti! This is very useful advice that i will definitely be taking on board.

Alhamdulillah he introduced me to two of his female cousins who will guide me through all of this but it’s so good to hear another perspective im assuming you’re married to an Emirati. It’s a lot for me but inshallah I will get through it.

I promise you he is married.

All you have are his words. You don’t know where he lives, his family etc.

Emiratis do not take this long to marry someone.

Please stop this.

I’m pretty secure in how genuine our relationship is but I am so curious to know your thoughts. Is it really that common for Emirati men to be liars and unfaithful?
I know where he lives and I know what tribe he comes from. I know who where he works. All that juicy stuff but I’m curious to know why you think the way you do.

Wait is two years long or something? I thought that was normal for love marriages because don't you need time to get know the person?

Are you married to an Emirati?

 

[cherryblues]

@Arabianbaby no girl, I’m just nosey and love to hear about peoples love life.

 

[saffronparker]

@Arabianbaby no girl, I’m just nosey and love to hear about peoples love life.

Hah ditto

Thank you so much habibti! This is very useful advice that i will definitely be taking on board.

Alhamdulillah he introduced me to two of his female cousins who will guide me through all of this but it’s so good to hear another perspective im assuming you’re married to an Emirati. It’s a lot for me but inshallah I will get through it.


I’m pretty secure in how genuine our relationship is but I am so curious to know your thoughts. Is it really that common for Emirati men to be liars and unfaithful?
I know where he lives and I know what tribe he comes from. I know who where he works. All that juicy stuff but I’m curious to know why you think the way you do.


Are you married to an Emirati?

Although the other poster may come off blunt, she unfortunately isn’t coming out of nowhere with her assumptions. It’s a common occurrence and it’s seen a lot in the Gulf... foreign girl friends being strung along. Saying that though, I know so so many who did get married so I can’t completely disregard you. Two years does seem long though for an Emirati man. Is he very young? Not yet financially stable? Most of my friends can say average 6 months of getting to know one another before the contract being drawn up. So I assume he’s young or is still finding his feet with money maybe. Whatever the case, wishing you well inshAllah

 

[mehere]

What do you ladies think of Iraqi men?

(Disclaimer, I am Iraqi born and London raised. I have experience of both sides)