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I hope it’s okay to ask this but are why do you want a khaleeji man specifically? Are you Arab yourself or non Arab? Are you Muslim? Sorry for all the questions but this has peaked my curiosity and I would love to know.I am coming out of something with an omani nowwe ended months ago but I know he still thinks of me and posts cryptic things and tbh I do too.. it sucks because there's no progress in us making up but I can't see myself with another Omani now. sucks even more because I always loved this country and agree omanis are not like the rest of gcc most of them are good guys but this guy is somewhat well known and it will be hard for me to go from him to another I think...
so second option please?
im pretty set on marrying a khaleegi man at this point (very toxic of me, I know) - I do like a lot of things about the culture and feel like its a good match -- I actually prefer traditional gender role relationships but I just need to find one that will respect me before and after marriage.
lmaoooo I too am traumatized by them but as I said before me and my dating habits are very toxic lmao.
I don't know I'm apart of that group that still looks at khaleejis as romantic if you find a good one. also physically I prefer their look rather than other Arabs - their is just something more intense about khaleeji men and I love intensity and extremes. (v toxic) I am more into the stay at home/work from home life and taking care of the kids/husband thing and find the gulf the most stable place in the Middle East at the moment to live. its super safe and clean for the most part so I think its much better long term if you can raise a family in gcc than other Arab countries. there's many reasons but khaleeji men are just my type - some are actual hell on earth, genuinely do not understand why some act as toxic as they do but there are some that I met (who ultimately were not specifically my type or too young for me, etc.) that are great guys and very sweet and romantic. I think its like a 5% chance you will find one amazing BUT I am very stuck and believing that I can find the one in the 5%.. also even though im not khaleeji im really private like one lol I was raised in the west but as a very typical scorpio I kind of just prefer being low-key, small circle and a homebody than on the scene if that makes since. I dont know with a moderate guy who still treats me fairly and w respect I dont think him being more protective would bother me.
I love Bahrain & idk Qataris actually really interest me. they are super private though and I like that. I should've been looking more when I went but I was focused on shopping in those days
when it comes to gcc the only physical issue is that they are often SO MUCH shorter than others.. he doesn't need to be 6'5 but omg finding one who is even taller than me is a challenge lolll
im mixed from a mixed cultural - mixed religious (1 parent christian 1 muslim) background half Moroccan, half American - I look full moroccan though welp - so maybe that is it also its not like im completely coming in with unrealistic expectations. im def more western in culture bc that's where I was born and raised but I also respect and understand and appreciate Islamic/Arab culture maybe more so because its the part of me Im less connected with..
ok my novel is done now you guys
Wow that is very interesting! You know what I’m ashamed at myself tbh because I’m Iraqi and yet I see all Arab men as the same when it comes to marriages or relationships hell even friendships. They all got that jealousy and protectiveness but that stems from Islam and Arab culture in general and I’ve been surrounded by it my whole life(which is lowkey why I didn’t understand the wanting for that) even though I’m born and raised in the west but I understand the appeal. I really hope and truly believe you’ll find the right khaleeji man for you because trust me I know handful that range from Kuwaiti, Saudi, Emirati to Omani and they are a lovely so it’s not impossible
Thank you for sharing hun! I know it was a lot of questions but you really helped me understand so much. It takes a lot to be vulnerable and I appreciate that from you!im mixed from a mixed cultural - mixed religious (1 parent christian 1 muslim) background half Moroccan, half American - I look full moroccan though welp - so maybe that is it also its not like im completely coming in with unrealistic expectations. im def more western in culture bc that's where I was born and raised but I also respect and understand and appreciate Islamic/Arab culture maybe more so because its the part of me Im less connected with..
ok my novel is done now you guys
aww thank youWow that is very interesting! You know what I’m ashamed at myself tbh because I’m Iraqi and yet I see all Arab men as the same when it comes to marriages or relationships hell even friendships. They all got that jealousy and protectiveness but that stems from Islam and Arab culture in general and I’ve been surrounded by it my whole life(which is lowkey why I didn’t understand the wanting for that) even though I’m born and raised in the west but I understand the appeal. I really hope and truly believe you’ll find the right khaleeji man for you because trust me I know handful that range from Kuwaiti, Saudi, Emirati to Omani and they are a lovely so it’s not impossible
Thank you for sharing hun! I know it was a lot of questions but you really helped me understand so much. It takes a lot to be vulnerable and I appreciate that from you!
I agree I think that we always like what we are less familiar to in some ways.. even my moroccan cousins are amazed I like Arab men and dont want to marry someone in America/western but they are so not interesting to me. I just see them as cheap and SO LOW EFFORT. I truly can't deal with a man who expects me to be some perfect wife and also wants me to work full time and also raise kids and also take care of him and he is doing the bare minimum in the name of EqUaLiTy plus generally they are just not as classy or educated even upper middle class guys can be so unaware of what's going on in the world or how to be somewhat politically correct and respectful of other cultures esp. Arab/islamic culture. they are just a major turnoff so yea opposite of you I appreciate the way khaleeji men are I def. do not want to marry a man who is extremely controlling or even abusive mentally or physically but I do like that they are very traditional and still believe in that traditional gender role dynamic bc tbh I think that actually works better than the extreme feminism you see in the west sometimes.
I believe I'll find him too I just need to really develop an excellent filtering process in the good ones and the bad lolll also currently in the states and moving back to gcc next year which I lived in before a few years so you can say this is all just pre-move research in my quest to find a khaleeji husband haha
I’d just like to say I love how sweet and respectful you are. God bless you sister and may Allah make your love life beautifulWow that is very interesting! You know what I’m ashamed at myself tbh because I’m Iraqi and yet I see all Arab men as the same when it comes to marriages or relationships hell even friendships. They all got that jealousy and protectiveness but that stems from Islam and Arab culture in general and I’ve been surrounded by it my whole life(which is lowkey why I didn’t understand the wanting for that) even though I’m born and raised in the west but I understand the appeal. I really hope and truly believe you’ll find the right khaleeji man for you because trust me I know handful that range from Kuwaiti, Saudi, Emirati to Omani and they are a lovely so it’s not impossible
Thank you for sharing hun! I know it was a lot of questions but you really helped me understand so much. It takes a lot to be vulnerable and I appreciate that from you!
(and all other aspects of your life of course)Oh thank you so much and the same to you!I’d just like to say I love how sweet and respectful you are. God bless you sister and may Allah make your love life beautiful
Before I got married, I'd been in relationships mainly with Khaleeji men, the nicest of whom was a Kuwaiti who didn't want any physical relations and just wanted to hold my hand at the movies and cook machboos for me (I was so shocked lol). Bahrainis were also quite nice. I married a Western-born Arab but non Khaleeji. Easiest relationship of all!
Omg I didn’t know you’re married congratulations love
That is so sweet honestly! Kuwaiti people are really nice especially considering I’m Iraqi, I get along with them pretty well due to so many similarities culture wise. They are super chill and love to cook!
I can’t say much about dating because I’ve never done it due to religion and culture but I have made some great friendships and this how I view the men!
Saudi - The funniest guys possible, a bunch of jokers honestly
Kuwaiti - Great cooks! Really Funny and majority of them are super respectful
Emirati - Very open minded to other cultures and are pretty political which makes for great conversations
Omani- super humble and down to earth! Very low maintenance
Qatari - private and are quite the gentlemen
Btw hope this is not derailing the chat
For 7 years. I’m old. Hahah.
What I can tell you from my personal experience:
Khaleejis are torn between wanting to be part of a western culture and maintaining their families standards. Hence why they can act like they don’t know you publicly yet you are extremely close (not necessarily dating but even as friendships).
e.g 2 great friends of mine (Emirati &qatari) who refuse to follow me on Instagram out of fear their relative see but we’re always chatting and seeing each other’s when they come to UK.
My advice would be to deal with caution, be ready to get heartbroken Bc it’s how it ends most of the time and at the end the day he can be madly inlove w you but will still marry his cousin.
Khaleejis are torn between wanting to be part of a western culture and maintaining their families standards. Hence why they can act like they don’t know you publicly yet you are extremely close (not necessarily dating but even as friendships).
e.g 2 great friends of mine (Emirati &qatari) who refuse to follow me on Instagram out of fear their relative see but we’re always chatting and seeing each other’s when they come to UK.
My advice would be to deal with caution, be ready to get heartbroken Bc it’s how it ends most of the time and at the end the day he can be madly inlove w you but will still marry his cousin.
This is 100% the case when it comes to Khaleeji men, a lot of them will mess around with girls that are not considered traditional (women who cover, come from traditional tribal families, have islamic values) and promise them marriage and all that yet will never actually get married to them. If a khaleeji guy promises you love and marriage but has an intimate relationship with you right away then don’t bother. These guys have reputations and egos to maintain. They would never marry a women who has slept around with other guys, talks about astrology and dating. I know for a fact they want pure girls who will pass on Arab and Islamic values onto their children. It’s the harsh truth and reality for girls like us that don’t come from the Arab world.
There’s a difference between being embarrassed to be seen with her and not wanting her to be seen by other men. A man’s jealousy for his wife is embedded into Islam and Arab culture.
My daughter became friends with a girl at school. One day I invited the mother to my house fir a chat. Her friend was ’on the game’ in London. She told me some unrepeatable stories about her friends encounters with Middle Eastern men.
I had to change flights and change airports in Bahrain. I was on my own waiting by the boarding gate. I was constantly harassed by men, some even laughed when I yelled at them to leave me alone.
I had to change flights and change airports in Bahrain. I was on my own waiting by the boarding gate. I was constantly harassed by men, some even laughed when I yelled at them to leave me alone.
I’ve been married to my Emirati husband for almost a decade, I know there are plenty of horror stories but let’s not generalise, there are a lot of good ones too and mixed marriages are not uncommon. In fact they are massively on the rise, and the divorce rate is lower in mixed marriages than in local-to-local marriages.
What I will say though is that when a man (of any nationality) shows you who he is and what his intentions are, believe him from the very first time. I know of too many girls who wasted time and got strung along thinking the man might change or his family might one day accept… the truth is that if he wants to marry a foreigner he can and he will. So many men do and they don’t require any special permission to do so (I believe in some other GCC countries like Qatar it is more difficult though but not 100% sure on that). If he is giving excuses about ‘I can’t, what would society say, my family would never accept’ take it for exactly what it is - an excuse. He’s just not that into you.
We are the first mixed marriage in my husband’s whole family, it certainly ruffled feathers and some sides of the extended family refused to attend the wedding as they didn’t approve. But my husband has never hidden me and nor has his immediate family. We don’t do the segregated thing either, we always mix together and I don’t wear hijab, we have a joint group of friends and so on. And I know many other couples like us, we’re not that unusual.
What I will say though is that when a man (of any nationality) shows you who he is and what his intentions are, believe him from the very first time. I know of too many girls who wasted time and got strung along thinking the man might change or his family might one day accept… the truth is that if he wants to marry a foreigner he can and he will. So many men do and they don’t require any special permission to do so (I believe in some other GCC countries like Qatar it is more difficult though but not 100% sure on that). If he is giving excuses about ‘I can’t, what would society say, my family would never accept’ take it for exactly what it is - an excuse. He’s just not that into you.
We are the first mixed marriage in my husband’s whole family, it certainly ruffled feathers and some sides of the extended family refused to attend the wedding as they didn’t approve. But my husband has never hidden me and nor has his immediate family. We don’t do the segregated thing either, we always mix together and I don’t wear hijab, we have a joint group of friends and so on. And I know many other couples like us, we’re not that unusual.
Exactly! If a khaleeji guy is serious about make you his wife there won’t be any games but a red flag is that if he is intimate with you right off the bat then you’re just hook up nothing more.
Yea I think there is different experiences between different women. Times are changing - most men in all countries even in USA and UK do not want a woman who is promiscuous and sleeps with many guys so surely Arab guys would not want that but as far as dating and astrology.. I've seen guys that marry women like that - there are khaleeji women especially in younger generation that talk and believe in astrology a lot.
At the end of the day like the above person said you can't generalize people based on their nationality.. that is a general rule of thumb for life. there are def. khaleeji men that play the game with foreign girls and ditch them but imo these guys are easy to spot - they are disingenuous but some women play naive because they want to believe a guy is something he is clearly not. use common sense - if he speaks of women a certain way or claims to be open to things but doesn't outwardly show it in public then he is playing you.. also if a man is saying he likes foreign girls and khaleegi women are XYZ to try to butter you up that is a RED FLAG. any man who talks down to the women in his own nationality - including his cousins, sisters and MOTHER is a RED FLAG.
I think a good example to not think they are all the same is olafarahat - her husband is Saudi one of the most conservative khaleegi men and yet he is more open minded than many non gulf Arab men. Ola speaks about astrology, is more western thinking, I wouldn't consider her domestic in the sense that she likes to cook or raise family as they've been married a few years and she said there is no rush and her dressing style has become more liberal since getting married to him. not to mention she was previously engaged before him and I believe got married at 30?31? something like that.. plenty of people could've told her he would never commit and don't waste her time and she is seemingly happier with him than she would've been with her Jordanian ex. another example is ascia's husband he is very liberal but if Im not mistaken he is half Spanish.
the gulf is changing and there really is no standard it depends on the guys individual life and experiences and that is so varied in the gulf, many have foreign mothers, many were raised by foreign nannies and became more open minded, many of them studied in uk and us and prefer western dynamic.
I don’t want to go off topic but your way of talking reminds me of Anna Bey
I don’t relate with the rest (I want to be able to work and gain for myself) but I too would rather marry within my ethnicity. As someone who’s a bit more on the religious side it’s difficult to find someone who has a good balance (they’re either not-practicing or attribute to Islam things that are not part of our religion
), of course Arabs are no different but I had nothing but horror stories in the west so I’m tired The gulf is changing but deep rooted backward attitudes are still ingrained in the emirati men.
I have come across the ones described (“open minded”) yet they see nothing wrong with having affairs. Society in general is changing- they might keep a wife for image purposes but that’s not to say they are faithful & there is absolutely no remorse or guilt.
don’t be that woman who thinks they have secured the guy - when he has arrangements with others. It’s an open secret.
I have come across the ones described (“open minded”) yet they see nothing wrong with having affairs. Society in general is changing- they might keep a wife for image purposes but that’s not to say they are faithful & there is absolutely no remorse or guilt.
don’t be that woman who thinks they have secured the guy - when he has arrangements with others. It’s an open secret.
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