Oh for Christ’s sake. Some of these comments are why men don’t get convicted of
grape and serious sexual assault. It’s the same reason why loads of young girls got exploited because everyone assumed as girls they were asking for it. This is why we still have to say to women, we know some men are rajed, so don’t have a good time when you go out just incase. Ffs.
Most women share posts about ‘being kind’ or ‘girls supporting girls’ ‘straightening crowns’ and all that
balls, but when it comes to a women reporting something around sex, we are still saying women ‘ask for it’, ‘because she’s wearing a bikini’ ‘coz she’s wearing a low cut top’. And if that woman is attractive, she especially can’t be upset by the attention, or there’s something dodge as to why it’s being discussed, as if only
weird women can be upset at sexual assault because no one would expect anyone to go near them. I’m so angry at some of these comments. God help if any of you get on a
bleeping jury.
You only have to read and hear what she is saying; in the past, that she learnt early on that being ‘sexually overt’ got her attention especially when other girls were having a go at her for having
bits and stuff. How many women learnt that as a teenager if the girls don’t like you, the boys will. and how many of those girls did we all see at school and (much to my shame) laugh about, but wouldn’t be mates with ourselves, the ones with the boyfriend with the car? No one ever questioned why those boys got the vulnerable young pretty girls
and no girls ever gave those girls a chance to have girl mates, apart from them seeking similar girls to hang out with, the ‘slags’
And for those of us between the ladette era and things now, where ‘cool girl’ was the thing, with lads mags about etc. We had it drilled in to us, fit girls get love and she found it gave her what she needed. And that was so wrong.
But just because she is quite overt about her sexuality now, it doesn’t mean that she is asking for the things she gets sent. I mean, Sarah millican also talks about sex, but we don’t seem to be saying (if she got those messages) that she asks for it.
And despite the people here saying it doesn’t happen, look at any young influencers insta. It’s full of old men and oddballs commenting ‘so sexy, I’m single’. Just coz it’s open and it’s on a hash tag it doesn’t mean you have a right to comment. And just coz a women shared a snap where she feels good, then it doesn’t mean it’s open season.
Most importantly though, why aren’t women saying more of ‘who the
duck sends
grape threats over text, that’s not normal’ when women receive them from seemingly normal people. Coz if a bloke came into the workplace and started saying that out loud, we would all be concerned and people would be raising hell about the weirdo doing that. Even if it would never actually happen. Look at how local social media stories go, the apparently dodgy old man sat in the park etc, there tonnes of people calling out behaviours that don’t even happen and spreading crap about something innocent and people jump on the
p bandwagon. I’ve had to tell my lovely kind dad not to talk to babies in the park when he takes his grandkids, because of people like that.
But seemingly, send
grape threats over a phone or to a famous person and it’s ok? That’s mental point of view for people to hold. But yet reading this thread people obviously view things that way. And then we question why sexual exploitation is still happening now and we still have issues around women being
grape beaten and killed by men- because women like some on this thread make it seem to men that we will still put up with it.
showing my uncool a bit there.