Aw my first thought was how exciting that Halloween section would have been for a little kid.
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I’m glad I experience grief differently to her. Yes I’ve been debilitatingly rock bottom before but at least I know I feel the right things and am emotionally connected to people I love. I know some people will say there is no ‘right way to feel’ but in my view there are definitely wrong ways to grieve, and we are watching that here. Who gives a duck about Halloween decorations
What we actually need to remember is, anyone who has a platform and makes a living off Instagram as an ‘influencer’ isn’t broadcasting their actual life. It’s a business. They’re seeing what works, who engages with what, it’s all just business. She’s back posting & acting the way she is for her business, her brand. The reality is she knows her followers want to see her out shopping and to her it’s a day at work. Really no one wants to hear about water safety, her uncomfortably talk about her son being dead. And her brand know that, she’s got a business model and she’s stuck to it because it evidently works. While she might be in her home & showing her children online, none of it is real. It’s all staged, set up, carefully curated and planned and it always has been. Which is why it’s so easy for her to ‘show up’.
I’ve been in the depths of grief (albeit not my child, but a child in the family) and I was back at work a month later and doing the same everyday tasks that I’d done prior, including out shopping & eating with friends.
I’ve thought about her everyday since Trigg drowned and imagined her wasting away, crying, rotting in bed and while I don’t wish for that for her, I’m a little shocked at her bounce back
I’ve been in the depths of grief (albeit not my child, but a child in the family) and I was back at work a month later and doing the same everyday tasks that I’d done prior, including out shopping & eating with friends.
I’ve thought about her everyday since Trigg drowned and imagined her wasting away, crying, rotting in bed and while I don’t wish for that for her, I’m a little shocked at her bounce back
Aye just shows how shallow, pathetic and vacuous 'influencing' is really doesnt it.
I’ve been reallyreallllyy trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, telling myself ‘it’ll hit her later she’s in denial’ about her nonchalance, but that trader Joe’s video. Oh my. How can you be around all the Halloween sweets?
There wanst even an editing cut for her to have a little private cry, just full on excitement . Little teddy isn’t old enough to eat candy so how does this not all just remind you of what you’ve lost?
I’m confused. My heart feels heavy watching this.
There wanst even an editing cut for her to have a little private cry, just full on excitement . Little teddy isn’t old enough to eat candy so how does this not all just remind you of what you’ve lost?
I’m confused. My heart feels heavy watching this.
Most of us would go back to work eventually as whatever we do and work would be a form of escape, but for her she’s having to confront the reality of her lost child over and over again whilst at work in places like the Halloween section of Trader Joes. I don’t know how she does it, I‘d rather resign from it than go through those motions every day. I don’t care how much money it makes, I don’t care if it’s my business or my brand. Some things are worth more, it is soulless.
Once you realise how soulless it is, how can any of it be meaningful? How is anyone watching it and thinking “yes, this is the life I want!”
Once you realise how soulless it is, how can any of it be meaningful? How is anyone watching it and thinking “yes, this is the life I want!”
This. There is no way on earth I could even look at that stuff never mind post it on the internet all excitedly. The world of influencing is insane. Her followers don’t want to see her crying over Trigg, discussing water safety etc which you know, fair enough but no job would ever mean more to me than taking the time I need to. 6 whole weeks to be filming again out shopping. I needed longer off work when I split from my daughter’s dad. I truly was a shell of myself.I’ve been reallyreallllyy trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, telling myself ‘it’ll hit her later she’s in denial’ about her nonchalance, but that trader Joe’s video. Oh my. How can you be around all the Halloween sweets?
There wanst even an editing cut for her to have a little private cry, just full on excitement . Little teddy isn’t old enough to eat candy so how does this not all just remind you of what you’ve lost?
I’m confused. My heart feels heavy watching this.
Do you know what? I do judge. And I judge her hard.
her come back is insane, and I cannot wrap my head around it at all.
I don’t think an Oscar winning actor could put on the show she’s been putting on.
It’s very unsettling.
her come back is insane, and I cannot wrap my head around it at all.
I don’t think an Oscar winning actor could put on the show she’s been putting on.
It’s very unsettling.
I’ve had to unfollow, I wonder how many others will be in the same boat?
If it was any other job she would be expected to continue her daily duties.
But influencing is a mess of a job where the lines between personal life and private life, real life and a character are blurred beyond all recognition.
No one would stay watching if it was a daily PSA and her grieving. So I understand it from a business point of view.
There's just no right or wrong with this whole thing as influencing is building a parasocial relationship to make money.
I agree but I am still shocked at how little emotion she chooses to show. She has shown vulnerability and tears on her channel before so it’s interesting that in what is supposed to be the darkest period of her life she chooses to only show herself being happy, vapid and superficial. That’s definitely a choice.
I completely see where people are coming from but in that second image she looks dead behind the eyes. Like she’s on autopilot. Nothing feels sincere from her.
I don’t think there’s a wrong or right way to grieve but I can see why people are offended by the way she’s acting and can’t understand it.
Yes you’ve hit the nail on the head here. She’s likely come back because the three months up to Christmas are the most lucrative time for influencers. We’re not seeing her in the depths of grief and talking about what happened etc because influencing is all an act. We probably never have seen the real life of Emilie or any other influencer, just the curated bits they want us to see so they can sell us things.
The unfenced pool was the real life of Emilie. And so was the life of the son she and her husband neglected to keep safe.
When we had our second miscarriage in June last year (at 12 weeks) I was rock bottom. Became a complete shell of myself. I would drop my kids to school (reception and nursery) then come home and spend all day in bed sleeping on and off till it was time to collect them. I was so heartbroken I cannot even fathom the pain of loosing a child especially when it was so preventable. We have a friend who lost his only child (19) in a car crash last year … the life has completely gone from him he is just a robot going through the motions day to day. He went back to work about 6 months after … he’s a plumber and his som worked with him so it’s not even like returning was an escape 
And it should be brought up all the time no matter how much it hurts because it happened under his watch and she's still with him. Surely you would be shouting from the roof put fences around pools learn from her mistake shout it loud water safety what kids should wear in the pool etc
Instead she's busy promoting antique stores, cleaning products and bagels. Ground breaking.
I think she is still with him because she probably knows it could have happened on her watch too. The fact he said in the police interview that Trigg would often be in the garden on his own means they were both complacent and arrogant enough to think that nothing bad would ever happen as Trigg was sensible. Sadly Trigg paid the ultimate price for their stupidity.
Thought I would get hounded for saying it but it should never be forgotten sorry
Poor Trigg. He deserved better parents.
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