I think as well she was trying to relate by saying she had stretch marks etc as well but just a couple of weeks ago she was asking for recommendations for places to have them faded. The problem with anyone on Instagram (with a large following) they want soo many admiring comments & they really can’t handle any negative ones. I think she looks amazing but on the other hand probably didn’t need to share a photo on her progress as it really doesn’t matter to people what her postpartum figure is so she could have just kept it to herself.
Yep! They really take ANY feedback as full on criticism. The other girl I messaged just to MAKE HER AWARE had a similar reaction “owwwwhhh well I’ve had some not very nice messages”

I hadn’t been rude at all! I’m sensitive to criticism/rejection too but I’d like to think I could say, oh wow yeah you know what I didn’t think of that, thanks for pointing it out I’ll try and be more considerate or think a little more about the audience when. I’m posting. Not “well I don’t think it’s fair for you to msg me” and then cry about mean messages on stories, yawn.
the thing is I think it’s fab for ella to share this stuff andI thought at first she was being quite “real” about the motherhood thing. I’m just confused as to why suddenly it’s so hard to have a caption like “for me this is bigger than usual and it does feel odd, but I’m happy with it and trying to feel confident as a new mum”
BOOM.
I think that's actually what she’s trying to achieve with her posts which is why she’s like “damned if I do/don’t” lol but the way she posts makes it seem like she’s just depressed at not being a size 6 lol and like she is really making a stand by not exercising yet - it’s been like a month lol I’d understand if she made the exercise comments like 3months in? But who would even be thinking of exercise so soon after a c section? It’s like she thinks people expect her to be doing that? I don’t quite get why she posts with a bad explanation of what I think she means, then acts like people are harassing her 24/7 when she could have made a simple statement as I wrote above that clearly acknowledges she doesn’t think she is huge but is still struggling with confidence as a new mum? Then you’re being real about your experience but also acknowledging it’s natural and you’re not complaining about your actual size, just feeling different to usual.
I’ve not got an issue with her posting pictures - of course she was going to quickly go back to her size. She’s early 20’s and was tiny before, my issue was that she has no understanding of why she’s getting negative comments & the captions she’s posting like she should be congratulated for looking like that again when it’s just her body naturally returning. It’s the woe is me approach that she’s going for & that I can’t be doing with - yes she may find it difficult coming to terms with now being a bigger size & I know every girl has hang ups no matter what their size but I just think she does need to acknowledge that she has a lot of followers & people will think why do I not look like that after a baby & strive for something that is not achievable for them. She could’ve done it so much more positively but like I said it’s what she is writing to accompany these pictures & how she is approaching this topic of conversation.
I didn’t even see your post before I posted you said it much more eloquently haha