sorry I just eta - I meant during lockdown specifically
sorry I just eta - I meant during lockdown specifically
Yes, and in the book sample she talks about how she wanted a holiday after having a baby so they jetted off to Mexico (with the baby). I don't begrudge anyone for having a nice holiday, and it's not her fault that Covid happened since she wrote the book. My problem is how she presents this as a normal, middle-class life and that she is speaking for everyone in that bracket. She's also writing about an elite but also seems to be trying to make out that she's not part of that elite.I don’t mean to say that nobody can write about something they haven’t experienced, or that only people who’ve lived through hardship are worth listening to. It’s more that I notice this implicit idea that their lifestyles are the norm and therefore they are just the authority on every aspect of the female experience. It’s only true if you’re a middle class, white, straight woman though, and even then, both D & P have a very limited approach to the topics they talk about. It’s all very myopic.
This is generally how I react to her writing and I perhaps find it particularly grating because I came across a good few people at uni who had been privately educated. It seemed to me many (not all!) got through and succeeded because they knew how to convincingly reframe other people’s arguments and ideas and portray them as their own. Either they’d been taught that that was the way to get through, or they just felt so divinely entitled to success that they didn’t care if they got there by thinking for themselves. Pandora’s writing often reminds me of this. It is like reading the work of a privately educated undergrad who has crammed in a tit-ton of reading and then just regurgitated it, confidently and with lots of flourishes, for the essay.I read her essay The Authentic Lie and it was basically a lot of words that didn’t really say much. She seems to rely on other writers/researchers to back up points rather than making a solid thought or statement. I want to know HER opinions, not some wishy-washy summary of what everyone else has said.
Absolutely.Isn't it fair to say though, regarding privilege, that not everything has to be for everyone? I.e I won't relate exactly to every experience Pandora has had, but I can still enjoy reading about it? Or, I can seek out other authors who have have the same experiences as me, and I'll get a different experience from it? I haven't read her book but she did say they aren't personal essays... would someone like Alain de Boton, who clearly has a privileged educational background, get slated for not being 'relatable'?
I can TOTALLY relate to this! EVERYTHING is down to me even when my husband offers to do bath/bedtime, I’m on call to show him where stuff is! We would literally have no social calendar unless it was for me getting in touch with other women and arranging things...The thing that is a bit off though is she keeps banging on about the 'burden' that women have, things like buying kids' birthday cards, knowing where her daughter's hair bobbles are, booking dentist appointments, etc. To me that seems like a bit of a non-issue. I imagine if a shelf needs putting up on the wall her husband takes care of that? Seems like a pointless thing to complain about.
For sure and I don’t think that I necessarily want to read an author who comes from the same background as me but I think that there is an awful lot written and produced by people from a very similar background and I wish there was room for more voices. I really like a lot of P & D’s content but I’m not sure how much content is needed from the same perspective - podcasts, articles, newsletters, fiction, non fiction, tv shows, films from hundreds of Pandoras and Dollys. I’m so glad that there is so much female driven content at the moment, I just wish it was more diverse but maybe this is a stage that needs to happen.Isn't it fair to say though, regarding privilege, that not everything has to be for everyone? I.e I won't relate exactly to every experience Pandora has had, but I can still enjoy reading about it? Or, I can seek out other authors who have have the same experiences as me, and I'll get a different experience from it? I haven't read her book but she did say they aren't personal essays... would someone like Alain de Boton, who clearly has a privileged educational background, get slated for not being 'relatable'?
We cannot ignore the fact that they really go out of their way to bring in different voices and different perspectives though, come on. That's a huge part of their podcast!For sure and I don’t think that I necessarily want to read an author who comes from the same background as me but I think that there is an awful lot written and produced by people from a very similar background and I wish there was room for more voices. I really like a lot of P & D’s content but I’m not sure how much content is needed from the same perspective - podcasts, articles, newsletters, fiction, non fiction, tv shows, films from hundreds of Pandoras and Dollys. I’m so glad that there is so much female driven content at the moment, I just wish it was more diverse but maybe this is a stage that needs to happen.
I get what you’re saying but the actual theory of social privilege is based on things like class, wealth, race, sexual orientation, disability, and how those often affect the opportunities you are given in life. Stuff like being brought up in an abusive family generally doesn’t have an affect on the same societal level (not to diminish that, of course).You're not the only one, @ceebs233! I also find it incredibly tiresome. I find the whole privilege conversation in general extremely tiresome. Mainly because people seem to focus all their attention on privilege being to do with career and opportunities, when there are so many other important things. Do we have to 'check our privilege' if we grew up in a loving and happy household with two parents? What if we're rich but have a narcissistic, alcoholic mother? What about if you're extremely good-looking? 'Privilege' isn't just about wealth. (And therefore, it's a pointless exercise to box everyone into these ever-increasing categories).
Also, side note, literally anyone can start a podcast.
With all respect because I am finding your points really interesting, so what about them having the certain contacts? My understanding is that they were fairly renowned journos (I really liked reading D's ST column) so they possibly would have had backing and finance from the ST in addition to certain contacts. But so what? Are they supposed to just quit their position because the world isn't fair? In my perspective it's admirable that they use their platform for good, donate the proceeds etc - that's way more than most do.I get what you’re saying but the actual theory of social privilege is based on things like class, wealth, race, sexual orientation, disability, and how those often affect the opportunities you are given in life. Stuff like being brought up in an abusive family generally doesn’t have an affect on the same societal level (not to diminish that, of course).
Also, yes, anyone can start a podcast, but they won’t necessarily have the contacts to gain sponsorship or notable guests, or well-connected mates to post about it on social media etc, like D&P did from the start. That’s kind of the point of privilege!
Will stop banging on about it now as appreciate it’s tiresome for some