I have a dilemma and I’m interested to hear other people’s opinions. I will start off by saying that I don’t want to ask family or close friends as they are too close to me and I feel they cannot therefore be objective. Anyway, what I want to know is do you think that true love exists the way it is portrayed in certain movies, books, songs etc. You know, the type of love where the couple literally cannot live without each other, can’t bear being apart etc. You know the kind of love in a book where even after years of knowing someone they can still make you melt by smiling at you or with a certain look you just want to rip their clothes off despite having been together for a long time. The type of love people who have been together for years and can still say that they can’t wait til their partner comes home each evening, gives them butterflies in their stomach etc. Do you think love like that really does exist? Do you think that type of love is really possible even after years of being together? Or do you think it’s all make believe for a good story or song and that reality is totally different? That after time, that type of love fades and things become routine and mundane? I guess why I’m asking is that I feel like I’m a crossroads in my life where i can either just keep doing what I’ve always been doing and drift along in a perfectly comfortable life but one that doesn’t have that great love I’ve described above or I can try and change things. For clarity, I am married with wonderful kids, great job, lovely home etc. But I don’t feel that type of love for my husband. We get on fine but I don't think I have ever felt that type of love where he is all I can think about or live without etc.
My worry is that this type of love doesn’t really exist and then I’d be changing a perfectly good life for no reason. But if it really does exist then I am missing out. And even if I left, there would be no guarantee on finding that type of love even if it does exist. Anyway, sorry for long rambling post (also English isn’t s not my first language) I guess I am just so confused! Maybe it’s just this time of year that has me reflecting on my life and where it is heading and what I really want from it.
My worry is that this type of love doesn’t really exist and then I’d be changing a perfectly good life for no reason. But if it really does exist then I am missing out. And even if I left, there would be no guarantee on finding that type of love even if it does exist. Anyway, sorry for long rambling post (also English isn’t s not my first language) I guess I am just so confused! Maybe it’s just this time of year that has me reflecting on my life and where it is heading and what I really want from it.