Does he like me ?

[ChipsAhoy]

Haha! I love this! Thank you! Yes he is

Exactly. It's no different from him meeting you in person at work by the photocopier and asking you out lol. He's seen you on zoom, had a look at your WhatsApp pic and started chatting. How else we meant to date in lockdown?! I say meet him for an outdoor walk and keep us all updated lol. Start making the chat a slightly bit more flirty and meet up. Fuck it. We only live once lol. Is he attractive?

Aww this is so lovely! It’s very hard read signs while in lockdown and I think because I’ve nothing else on it’s all I’m thinking about and over analysing. I hope you find out more as well! And as you say even it turns out we make good friends out of this it’s a bonus. Especially when life is so bizarre right now

Bless you I think he’s definitely into you! I’m currently speaking to a girl (I’m bi) and I’m not sure whether she’s just being nice or not but my friends are like hun she’s clearly wanting to speak to you a lot and asks about my interests...I think either way you will end up good friends and that’s just as amazing (especially in lockdown, when we are missing social interaction)

Yolo

I must be the only one to think this but if he's seen you on a Zoom and messaged you privately he obviously is attracted to you. If he's being friendly, ask if he wants to meet up when lockdown is over, what have you got to lose?

Thank you

Aw if he’s taking time out his day to message you/check in on you etc then I’d say he’s keen? I mean of course you never know how things will work out, in person it might be completely different but you have to start somewhere and I’d say getting along well and him wanting to talk to you a lot is a good sign? Perhaps at first he just wanted to make you feel welcome as he can’t do it in the work place like he normally would but obviously he’s enjoyed speaking with you, perhaps fancies you too so thought he’s try his luck! But then I’m someone who’s quite stupid and naive when it comes to men and relationships

 

[Dexy]

Any update?

 

[lisa94xo]

Just read the whole story. From a guys perspective eventhough I don't condone his actions, I can get his thought process on what he was trying to do. Glad you've found out he is married though and haven't invested even more time or effort into him..

What was he trying to do?

 

[ChipsAhoy]

So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.

I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?

 

[ChipsAhoy]

I’m still in shock too!
Yes he has , checking in really. I haven’t responded and I’m now blocking him. Left it unblocked to see if he would “check in”

I just don’t know what to make of all this. I don’t understand why people do this? I also keep thinking was I reading too much into all this when the chat has been nothing but friendly . I feel like an idiot

I’m on my dinner break at work in actual shock!
Has he messaged you today??!

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Aww thank you for this!! I think I’m reading into more than usual because of lockdown! Usually things like this wouldn’t consume me but I find it’s all I’m thinking about !

Aww I would definitely being reading in to it, because im soft

Just go with the flow, romantic or not, its a friendship

 

[Saddlesoap]

Definite red flag for me. Especially as he has kids. Still with the mum of the kids? Some drama there? Its so unusual to not be on SM at 30.

Hmm not sure if I would say red flag, but is unusual.

 

[lisa94xo]

I’m definitely going to ask as it feels as if there is an elephant in the room if that makes sense?

Communication is so important! At least then you'll know either way. I know these situations can potentially be awkward but if you haven't met face to face yet that might make it less daunting?

 

[ChipsAhoy]

I love this He doesn’t have socials! Which instantly makes me suspicious but he said he just doesn’t like Facebook and Instagram etc.

Rock climbing is good fun and an opportunity for him to check you out - especially your bum! Haha.

Keep going as you are, sounds fun, bit try not to much pressure on it. I agree I suspect he must be physically attracted to you to PM you. Do you follow him on socials?

 

[Begborrowsteal]

I’m still in shock too!
Yes he has , checking in really. I haven’t responded and I’m now blocking him. Left it unblocked to see if he would “check in”

I just don’t know what to make of all this. I don’t understand why people do this? I also keep thinking was I reading too much into all this when the chat has been nothing but friendly . I feel like an idiot

Dont feel like an idiot!! You have no reason to x

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Yeah it does seem a bit much I guess. Which is why I’m slightly confused about it all. We are both 30.

Hmmmmm. I dunno. Again, this is all a bit much isn’t it, for a guy you’ve never met who is meant to be your colleague? I just find his behaviour a bit off - not particularly professional is it? You’ve never met, you have no personal relationship, he’s randomly contacted you online off the back of work related communication and he’s telling you stuff about his personal life..... how old are you both if you don’t mind me asking?

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Oooh it's annoying when they don't have socials so you can't have a wee look. How about snapchat and then you can see if he gas a dead high score lol or us it just me who is a psycho haha.

I wish he did because he has nothing

 

[ChipsAhoy]

aww I totally get this and I appreciate all the input I really do.
I think this has consumed me more than usual due to lockdown.

I agree with what Betty said the other day about getting him to video call. If he doesn’t then there’s something off. I think she’s just trying to look out for you. Men can be really shitty!! Be careful don’t get too excited too soon ... get to know him as much as you can. You never know when you get back to work you might not even be attracted to him

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Oh sorry yes I’m a girl and he’s a guy. Lockdown makes it very complicated

U didnt specify are u are girl seeking guy? Guys dont usually seek out friends like that so I would say hes defo into u! My friend is in the same situation and the guys issue is its lockdown u cant really have a date or do anything fun?

Maybe hes waiting for u to make it a bit more flirty?

This is very true ... he has mentioned about meeting up for drinks or he’s quite outdoorsy and suggested he would take me rock climbing?!?

I don't want to be a debbie downer but you haven't met him in real life yet. As lovely as the attention is, you might not have any chemistry at all when you finally see him in the flesh so to speak

I'd say he likes talking to you, likes the company and interaction. Do you fancy him?

It is probably doing you both good at the moment considering.

Thank you this is very true. We seem to be on the same “journey” career wise at the minute so we have that in common. It could just be he likes having something in common with me.

It depends whether you want to take things further or have interactions in person? ( post lockdown perhaps) .
Sometimes men do just like the texting and don't want anything further ( speaking from my own past experiences, nothing to do with lockdown) .

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Yeah that is good advice. I'd say he probably does like you if he's suggested drinks and suggested rock climbing. Do you know his situation? Has he said he's single etc.

Yeah he’s single but he has mentioned he has two kids.