Does anyone hate their job? #2

[TheGlossy]

I hate to complain, but I think my job is making me dead inside.

I changed jobs with a title upgrade only to realize the responsibilities are about 10% of what I used to have. A graduate can do my job. The work-life balance is better than my previous role but I spend weeks if not months looking at the same spreadsheets everyday. There is no variety of tasks.

This in addition that I have colleagues who scrutinize my every move. It’s very cliquey and they’re judgmental.

I’ve honestly mentally checked out because it’s the only way I can low tolerate this job. Yeah, the work-life balance is good but is it enough to keep me going? Not really. I get zero adrenaline from this role.

 

[Lico]

This in addition that I have colleagues who scrutinize my every move. It’s very cliquey and they’re judgmental.

Ah. I was in the same boat as you a few months ago. Then I heard the clique witching about some of my colleagues, and realised that I wasn't the only one being treated badly. So we got talking, and now we have a nice wee group who don't need the clique. And they are not as powerful, because there's a group of us too.

 

[camotea]

I wrote a report on a project and talked about my role in the third person. My senior asked if I did indeed mean me, and I confessed that yes, it’s me and I am distancing myself as I did not stick to the timeline and may or may not have ducked up, could he confirm? Luckily he and the other senior laughed and said it was fine. Feel fortunate I got busted/busted myself and got away with it on that specific occasion but that is why I didn’t get promoted recently. I struggle to give a tit therefore I am not very good at this gig. The promotion was something I am good at, and not getting it has leeched into everything.

 

[TheOC]

I need to find another job asap. My coworker got promoted ahead of me, not that she doesn't deserve more money, but the justification for me not getting one was weak. My self-esteem is in the toilet and it's only going to get worse.

 

[Gossipdollxoxo]

I hate to complain, but I think my job is making me dead inside.

I changed jobs with a title upgrade only to realize the responsibilities are about 10% of what I used to have. A graduate can do my job. The work-life balance is better than my previous role but I spend weeks if not months looking at the same spreadsheets everyday. There is no variety of tasks.

This in addition that I have colleagues who scrutinize my every move. It’s very cliquey and they’re judgmental.

I’ve honestly mentally checked out because it’s the only way I can low tolerate this job. Yeah, the work-life balance is good but is it enough to keep me going? Not really. I get zero adrenaline from this role.

this is exactly how I feel & where I am atm.

 

[50degreesnorth]

I bleeping hate my job. I am trained in a highly specific role and spent decades working around the world performing it. For the last year I’ve been given a role which has zero to do with my expertise and I’ve come to the conclusion it’s trashing my MH. I’m PT and get to choose my hours- but I’m finding I’m putting it off until Thursday/Friday because I just can’t face it. Last week my manager told me the news that he’s found someone to do what I’m doing now and I can go back to doing what I was doing before. This didn’t make me feel any better at all - so I’m handing in my notice this week.

Not sure what the future holds, but it’s got to be better than this torture.

 

[Gossipdollxoxo]

I bleeping hate my job. I am trained in a highly specific role and spent decades working around the world performing it. For the last year I’ve been given a role which has zero to do with my expertise and I’ve come to the conclusion it’s trashing my MH. I’m PT and get to choose my hours- but I’m finding I’m putting it off until Thursday/Friday because I just can’t face it. Last week my manager told me the news that he’s found someone to do what I’m doing now and I can go back to doing what I was doing before. This didn’t make me feel any better at all - so I’m handing in my notice this week.

Not sure what the future holds, but it’s got to be better than this torture.

Totally. I feel like handing in my notice also, it’s 12 weeks long, I don’t know whether to take the chance and hope that I find something within those 3 months.

My manager says she feels there is a lot of self doubt there around me coming from myself, not realising that it’s because of her & the things she says to me. I’ve had enough, I feel I’m a round peg trying to fit into a square hole.

The only trouble is I really love my place of work & my team. So I’m trying my best to block her out & try to carry on, as she WFH. However, I also feel whilst I have someone like that ‘leading’ me I feel I’m never going to enjoy my experience & there will always be a lid kept on me as I feel that’s what she’s trying to do.

 

[TheSlayer]

The saying "you dont leave a job but leave a manager seems to apply to both @Gossipdollxoxo and @50degreesnorth

I dont hate my job, its "meh" but Im quite good at it, yet I know I could be better if they didnt keep changing stuff and not communicating properly which makes me mentally and emotionally back off even further.

I dont blame my manager, they are snookered by the stupid new department structure that was very forceably implimented on 100s of people that had nothing in common except a title. Every one of us has many nuances that dont translate to the next person. All round pegs in square holes.

Its the Firm that I loath, specifically the senior management that represent the Firm.

Completely stuck due to my age and not getting any younger

 

[kendallroysdownfall]

Totally. I feel like handing in my notice also, it’s 12 weeks long, I don’t know whether to take the chance and hope that I find something within those 3 months.

My manager says she feels there is a lot of self doubt there around me coming from myself, not realising that it’s because of her & the things she says to me. I’ve had enough, I feel I’m a round peg trying to fit into a square hole.

The only trouble is I really love my place of work & my team. So I’m trying my best to block her out & try to carry on, as she WFH. However, I also feel whilst I have someone like that ‘leading’ me I feel I’m never going to enjoy my experience & there will always be a lid kept on me as I feel that’s what she’s trying to do.

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OMG I could have written this whole thing!

Same in every way, including 3 month notice period, yet on Monday I handed my notice in. Don't even have another job to go to!

 

[50degreesnorth]

I did it! Handed my notice in an hour ago!

Also I’m old enough not to gaf so I made sure to say that the role was horrid, mis-sold and had a detrimental effect upon my MH.

None of this “it’s been an honour to work here and I’ll treasure the experience” bobbins!

 

[Codiaeum]

Good on you @50degreesnorth and good luck @kendallroysdownfall Wishing you the best of luck in finding a new role that fits what you want to do and where the people also work out! I bet it must have been a great feeling handing in that notice.

 

[ghoooppp]

I handed in my notice on Monday after a horrendous few months at a start up company. They headhunted me and everyone else there and completely lied about the job, saying it’s flexible and remote etc when it’s not at all as well as so many other lies. It’s a tiny company and in a matter of months I have seen 15 people walk out within a few days of starting or get fired on the spot. It has honestly been awful going back to my old job now.

 

[kendallroysdownfall]

I handed in my notice on Monday after a horrendous few months at a start up company. They headhunted me and everyone else there and completely lied about the job, saying it’s flexible and remote etc when it’s not at all as well as so many other lies. It’s a tiny company and in a matter of months I have seen 15 people walk out within a few days of starting or get fired on the spot. It has honestly been awful going back to my old job now.

OMG I could have written this post as well!

I think my three month notice period is going to be a loooooooooong one. The jibes and backbiting from the owner have already started.

 

[keepyourpeace]

I switched jobs in November for a step up (ie to supervisor).
Now I haven't been given the role of supervisor, I am scrutinised by everyone in the office (ie you forget to dot the t in one word and you're called out on it), the management team (family run) have 0 faith in my abilities (for example not allowed keys to the office in case I lose them because they don't trust me but they poached me so I have to wait outside in all weathers if I'm early before someone rocks up with keys)
I'll hold my hands up to every mistake I make (one in particular was costly but not massively so and I know I've made up for it in other ways) but its never good enough. The hours are tit it's not a good work life balance and I don't want to go in I'm at breaking point. Yeah its not all their fault but I'm not sure what else to do.

 

[kendallroysdownfall]

OMG I could have written this post as well!

I think my three month notice period is going to be a loooooooooong one. The jibes and backbiting from the owner have already started.

I remembered this morning, ages back when boss couldn't contemplate that I'd ever leave, they jokingly sent me a Tiktok of an American lady who defecated on her bosses desk as a way of handing her notice in. My boss sent it to me and said, "This is something that I would imagine you would do" with a lot of laughing emojis and I remember having to restrain myself from writing back that I wouldn't waste the mit.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

My maternity leave ends in 27 days. I still haven't heard where my new job will be after my job that I did before maternity leave was dissolved "because they can't support my reduced hours".

 

[ghoooppp]

oh my god after handing my notice in they have started to be so horrible and nasty, starting arguments with me. there is no HR department to report to and i would call in sick with stress but they don’t pay sick pay. this is awful

 

[House of Tea]

oh my god after handing my notice in they have started to be so horrible and nasty, starting arguments with me. there is no HR department to report to and i would call in sick with stress but they don’t pay sick pay. this is awful

Let it play out. You are out of there soon. They have lost control you remember. Anybody can leave a job, a relationship, a situation if it isn’t working out, and they would fire you without a second thought if the shoe was on the other foot. They have been dumped.

 

[Codiaeum]

oh my god after handing my notice in they have started to be so horrible and nasty, starting arguments with me. there is no HR department to report to and i would call in sick with stress but they don’t pay sick pay. this is awful

how much notice to yuo have? I hope it's not overly long and keep in mind, you have the upper hand, you are leaving.

 

[camotea]

I switched jobs in November for a step up (ie to supervisor).
Now I haven't been given the role of supervisor, I am scrutinised by everyone in the office (ie you forget to dot the t in one word and you're called out on it), the management team (family run) have 0 faith in my abilities (for example not allowed keys to the office in case I lose them because they don't trust me but they poached me so I have to wait outside in all weathers if I'm early before someone rocks up with keys)
I'll hold my hands up to every mistake I make (one in particular was costly but not massively so and I know I've made up for it in other ways) but its never good enough. The hours are tit it's not a good work life balance and I don't want to go in I'm at breaking point. Yeah its not all their fault but I'm not sure what else to do.

My two worst working experiences have been in family run businesses. I didn’t learn my lesson after the first one I got ‘made redundant’ from both, no consultation (lol), basically just off the back of an envelope. One at least I’d been there over two years so got a statutory payment. I then went full corporate, hated that too and have since found my niche in the civil service where I am underpaid and over worked but unlikely to be made redundant by surprise on a Friday morning.

It is their fault - they don’t trust or value you. They don’t have enough distance from the business to take a balanced view on an error. They have created this situation, and the hours being tit on top of that further shows that they don’t know what they’re doing and ultimately won’t get to retain a decent employee (you)!

I hope you don’t feel too disheartened at your own abilities and are able to keep your chin up and look for something else x