Does anyone hate their job? #2

[tomato_paste]

because I need to know if she understands it or not.

You don't hun, let them crash and burn. It's not your responsibility if she makes a mess of things. Bcc your private account on those emails - CYA and have the proof ready that you gave her detailed instructions. But other than that, fuckem.

 

[TheGlossy]

I’m on the verge of leaving without a plan B.

Today, I was asked at 5pm to do something that would take hours and was needed today. Around 9pm, I pinged someone to ask their help on something, and they tell me ‘we don’t need any of this, not necessary’.

I did 5 hours of overtime for no reason at all!

Not to mention, I’m working with huge gossips and drama queens. One person who spends all their time socializing is now shifting their burden on other people.

I hate the job with a passion and don’t like the team either. If we add this unnecessary overtime to the mix, it’s hell.

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

It irritates me that I’m expected to contribute towards a leaving present for someone who I met 3 times in the 6 months I’ve worked there.

 

[Sheeeet]

Is there an I love my job thread so I can read how the other half live? Maybe I just hate work - so all jobs are going to be disappointing…

I have a theory that every job has it's own bullshit. All my jobs have had maximum bullshit, being NHS. You move to a new job and it's just a matter of time before you find out what it is and how bad. If you can tolerate it for a long time, I count that as a win.

My husband has had 3 new jobs since the pandemic started - for better opportunities, I should add. He LOVES his work generally but I joke now that his bullshit tolerance is getting so low, he'll be out of the next job within 3 months. The tipping point seems to be how long does the first complaint (to me) take and by the time the complaining takes up more than half our daily walk, it's DEFINITELY time for him to leave - for my sanity if nothing else

 

[Branched]

I’m interviewing for new roles at the moment and I’d forgotten how draining the interview process is. I feel a bit pathetic because other people obviously manage, but it’s exhausting to have to balance interview prep with my current job, especially as I work quite long hours.

Then there’s the mental side of it and the despair when I get rejected from somewhere and convince myself I will never find a nice new job and will be stuck in my stupid job forever. I know I’m catastrophising and I just need to get through this time even if it is a bit crap, but easier said than done.

 

[User_name_100]

Feeling a bit anxious so just writing my thoughts down.

I am on annual leave for a week & decided to check my work emails (I know, I know ) and I wish I didn't now. I've got about 50 all from different people asking for updates for this & that.

A report was due for today, due to my crazy workload I quickly finished it up two days ago and sent it for review to a senior staff member who is working and I've not had a response. Now I've got another department demanding to know where it is. This is all whilst I'm on leave and the majority of managers who can sign work off are all off too.

Just feel horribly anxious about next Monday now and the return to work. I'm currently in Scotland on holiday with family & I can't relax. I've told myself I'm not going to look at emails anymore as it'll just ruin my trip.

My position is fairly junior too yet the expectations seem so high.

 

[Scar14]

Love my job, HATE the management! No empathy or support and you’d think my place of work would be somewhere empathy should be given on tap

Do you work in healthcare by any chance?

 

[101d]

Got my counter offer! 1k more than the other place! Which is a 6k total pay rise for me. Not as many benefits but my fear of changing jobs means I'll bloody take it!!!

 

[TheGlossy]

I don’t hate my job but the culture doesn’t seem to fit my personality.

People enjoy being in people’s business all the time. People over share and some do not respect boundaries. Everything you say or do will be fed to the next person. They do everything together (lunch/breakfast/afternoon tea and even exit the office together in the evening).

If we turn our camera off for 5 minutes during a large conference call with 300 or more people, we get a pinged being told ‘please keep your camera on’.

Apparently, there’s also been talks about people being encouraged to have lunch together as an effort to socialize. Lunch is an unpaid hour and therefore should be off limits.

If you join a generic call with about 20 other people and you don’t ask questions, the host of that call will inform you manager that you haven’t engaged during the call even if you’re actively listening. Then your manager will start asking you why you didn’t ask questions.

I was told today to be more ‘open’. I’m very professional and to the point, but apparently I’m not open enough (i.e, don’t spend my time making small talk and cracking jokes).

These are minor examples, but I feel this is like a frat in the workplace and is disguised micro-management. They’re making me feel bad to be who I am (professional but private and not a cling on).

I’m contemplating looking for a new job but I don’t really know what to do.

 

[clueless]

Just a vent…

I was sitting in a meeting today in the office and a delivery man walks past the room, wheeling in some rolls and cleaning supplies. I felt so envious of him! No meetings or calls or corporate nonsense.. I think I’d be so much happier doing something like that.

Some of us did some volunteering work recently which involved weeding, brushing etc and I really enjoyed it, I was so happy being outside and doing something physical, I was putting the effort in and I could see the results and I found it so satisfying- I can’t say the same for my corporate job where everything just feels like meaningless words and unimportant.

I feel like I’m in a job that isn’t “me” and I feel guilty for wishing for something that others would see as lower. I wish I knew what to do with myself!

 

[Codiaeum]

Feeling a bit anxious so just writing my thoughts down.

I am on annual leave for a week & decided to check my work emails (I know, I know ) and I wish I didn't now. I've got about 50 all from different people asking for updates for this & that.

A report was due for today, due to my crazy workload I quickly finished it up two days ago and sent it for review to a senior staff member who is working and I've not had a response. Now I've got another department demanding to know where it is. This is all whilst I'm on leave and the majority of managers who can sign work off are all off too.

Just feel horribly anxious about next Monday now and the return to work. I'm currently in Scotland on holiday with family & I can't relax. I've told myself I'm not going to look at emails anymore as it'll just ruin my trip.

My position is fairly junior too yet the expectations seem so high.

I know the guilty feeling of checking while off and then the ensuing guilt of seeing people asking you for something. Don't check again and please don't feel guilty. You have done what you could do while working, now you have a well-deserved time off. The people asking you for updates are grown adults that will realize you're off right now and can find another person if pressing. If you have set an auto-responder, they might have seen already and simply wrote to you to be "on your radar" when you get back and actually don't even expect a fast response, even if it may seem that way right now.
Don't stress too much about Monday. Yes, there'll be a backlog of emails to wade through, but if anybody wants something asap, tell them you just came back from vacation and need a few hours to sort through it and prioritize, meanwhile if really urgent, they should go to the manager until you're settled back in. Most people seem to be okay with that answer.

 

[Jaceydooley]

So I quit my job and I feel bloody amazing now to find another one sharpish

 

[House of Tea]

I feel like my job is slowly killing me. My health is suffering, mentally and physically. I am sure my physical ailments stem from stress.

 

[Grizzlybear]

A recruiter contacted me last Wednesday night briefly about a job they thought would be suitable for me. We arranged a phone call the following day to chat in more depth about what I was after etc and I agreed to let him pass my cv onto the company and I said Wednesday (today) would be an ok day for me to have an interview if they liked the sound of me. I hadn’t heard anything from the recruiter and I have an interview this morning for somewhere else (took the morning off work for it) anyway, he tried calling me this morning and I didn’t pick up, so he text me saying they would love to interview me today and have availability up until this afternoon. I’ve not replied as I wouldn’t have time for both interviews and I haven’t done any research! It’s all a bit last minute and I’m not impressed as I assumed i hadn’t got a slot. Surely he would have known before today that they wanted to interview me?! I don’t know what to respond with as I said I could do today if they wanted.

I would text saying you’re busy with other interviews but have availability early next week? That will show that you’re in demand and also place a boundary for your time being important. I hate this behaviour from employers and recruiters.

 

[kendallroysdownfall]

I have been cut-throat about this over the last two months. I eat, breathed and shit work for the last 3 years and it didn't do me any extra good - or them. Now I work during work hours and everything work related is off from 5pm to 8.30am.

If anyone has seen Severance - that's me these days! No more looking at emails when I wake, when I travel, during evenings and weekends and holidays. They don't own that time, I do.

 

[Cossie]

God how is it Monday tomorrow again!?

 

[Ro98]

Does work make anyone else feel physically ill?
I finish for maternity in feb and being treated so weirdly by my employers that I already have anxiety, feel sick & my heart is racing at the thought of work on Wednesday.
All Christmas I’ve felt good (very tired!) but pretty good in myself, now I’m already feeling like I want to cry and sleep for a month
Thoughts with those also feeling the same! May we find better jobs in 2023

 

[Eureka]

Well since I last posted things have gone from bad to worse. Our roster is changing completely in the new year to accommodate no lone working. It means evenings and weekends and completely fecks up my college degree which I am doing on weekends because I've always had them off. It's annoying but not surprising and it's just not workable for me so I've started looking and applying for other positions. Wish me luck!

 

[ShadesMint]

I hated the job I was in, I was only in it for 2 years, but it sucked the soul out of me, the atmosphere was toxic, from the moment I walked in I knew I would have a bad day, every day. Staff attitude always negative, very passive aggressive behaviour, lots of shouting across rooms but not actually talking at the person if that makes sense (lots of 'I can't be doing this, I'm too busy, some people need to get off their lazy arse' etc) never actually directed at me but it made for a hostile environment. I saw so many new staff members come and go because they saw what I could see. I could never sleep before a shift and would drive there with my heart pounding. Some staff were lovely, which is why I stayed so long, but gradually I was made to feel completely incompetent at my job, like I could do nothing right, I was given bad shifts on purpose, if I was in charge there deliberately would be nothing sorted the day before, i.e. paperwork wasn't ready which just slowed us all down, and inevitably really short staffed. If I was in charge, staff didn't listen to me, but expected me to listen to them when they were. I felt I was constantly being 'caught out', by people not telling me something I need to know, watching me slip up and have to sort the mess out myself. Anyway I had enough last year, tried to get a meeting with my boss all day but he kept putting me off, in the end I e-mailed over my notice telling them exactly when I planned to leave. Of course he told everyone the next day. I had a long notice period. They did get me a lovely gift, probably to try and convince me to go back for shifts to help out but I never went back. I did leave on a good note, professionalism and all that.
I don't think people quite understand what a toxic workplace is until you are stuck in one. The reason I couldn't leave for so long is because I genuinely was heartbroken, I thought all my hard work had been for nothing and I was made to feel that I wouldn't be good enough for anywhere else. I actually applied to a couple of supermarkets because I wanted to leave healthcare completely. My partner convinced me to apply for another healthcare job and I can say I love it. I get on really well with my colleagues, there's a positive attitude, I learn something new everyday and they really care about their employees' wellbeing. People actually help each other.
Hope everyone who was in the same position as me is inspired to apply for new positions and take the plunge!!

 

[Pinhead Larry]

I told my manager I'd need a reference and I was going to hand my notice in about 2/3 weeks ago, to give her extra notice on top of the month stated in my contract. She is awful to work for for context, one of my main reasons for leaving.

Ever since I officially handed my notice in yesterday she has been making sly remarks and its making me so annoyed. I am not rising to it but Christ.
Today she has told everyone in the office it'll be hard to find someone good who'll take my salary because it is so low/ (It's not, I'm the 3rd best paid after her and another guy.)
She's also always said how I was the best candidate by a mile for the role and bla bla bla and now it's oooh well you almost didn't get the job because this other girl was soooo good I'm gonna ring her and see if she wants it, crack on and ring her but why does everything have to be one person pitted against another?!

She's also shown me the job advert and it is so unfair on whoever applies for and gets that role because its simply a lie. There is nothing to do here and the role is boring and requires no skill but she has worded it like it is super complex and important. She said she just googled, found similar job adverts elsewhere and copied them.

I know this won't be my issue by the end of the month but I am sat here so annoyed by how weird and underhand she is being.