I haven't seen anyone "automatically assume" anything.
A lot of celebrity friendships seem to be artificial, or for PR. Re my post, I found it interesting re the stag party guests, it surprised me that he mingles with David Furnish for example. I just wondered how their paths crossed, and was prompting further discussion. I seem to have mentally blocked out DW for a long time and was genuinely surprised to see who he had been linked to.
As you say, someone's public appearance, isn't always the same as the one behind closed doors. We all know that from personal experiences and it's not fair to judge us for things we aren't aware of.
I wouldn't question anyone whose show DW has appeared on, as I assume they were told he had been hired as a guest, which they had no say in. I may however question anyone that chose to appear on his podcast, or socialise with him, once the rumours of inappropriate behaviour were rife within the industry. Just my opinion.
For example, it surprised me that David Baddiel was a long term friend, including recently being on DWs podcast earlier this year, after I assume rumours were rife at that point within the industry. Also, I thought I saw that DB had been a victim of the hide the sausage stage act, but I may be mistaken, or maybe he found it funny. I'm in no way implying DB or anyone else are involved in any wrong doing, but I may question recent contact with DW.