Dating after Lockdown

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Nope!
He said "you calmed down yet" so 4 hours later as i didn't realise he messaged i put "whos this haha" 2 minutes later he replies pft omg and i just put a smiley face

Has he replied to the smiley?

 

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Girl I live in England too, not far from london. I’ve come across a few toad looking men but this is a lot

toad looking.

This is another one of his pics. So deceiving!

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

Ladies what do you think to this....

A man I'm chatting to on Tinder has just told me his last 3 relationships have all been just 5 years long each.

I got a few alarm bells.... Am I being silly?

I agree with @YorkshireFox

Yes that's what I thought! He said they all mutually fell out of love at that point, he did make a point earlier though that he left his last relationship . He seems okay apart from that... Maybe I'll give him the benefit of the doubt.... For now

Haha you’ve got until 2025

 

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ughhhh I’ve just gone through this myself although I’m still dating the guy. It’s been less than two months and I hate myself when dating too. I keep it all internal too or vent to my poor friends but never the guy.... so much so he called me ‘chilled.’ So now I’m worried that maybe I’m too relaxed ?!

ughhhh I honestly feel you. If it messes up with this guy I’m out until further notice. I’ve done two years of it and it is disappointment after disappointment.




the two who did it to me casually slipped it in and said the app wouldn’t let them change it?! Both Said 37 on the app and both were either 41 or 42

Haha that bullshit excuse of it not letting you change the age

 

[coconochanel]

ok so we are planning on meeting up...how do you do that during coronavirus life?

 

[Suzesnooze]

what about the whole 2 metres apart thing? I mean you cant do that on a date.

From what I’ve seem nobody is bothering with the 2 metre rule now! But if you met him for a drink you would be fine sitting opposite each other.

 

[leapricot]

Why does he need to clarify Rotterdam is in the Netherlands?

I thought the exact same! It makes him sound so patronising and he must think he is better than everyone else

 

[Chattyman321]

Could anyone who lives in central London zone 1-2 tell me what the Dating is like ?

I’m 32 and would ideally like to settle down in a year with someone who I could potentially get married to.

I stayed in London for a couple of months last year and liked the area so would be looking to move this year, I don’t need to really be in London as have no family there and also no need to be there for work.

I’m guess the main reason I’m moving is because I live in a small town and don’t want to ever bump into my ex as it gives me a lot of stress and I’m still heartbroken over the relationship ending.

I don’t want to move and never find a relationship

But it’s not like I have many friends where I live as I met most of them through the app Meetup and unfortunately this Covid situation has really shown me who my real friends are and that’s like two people makes me sad.

Heyy, I agree with yankydoo, I live just outside of London but have set my distance to within 15 miles as the men in my area are not great and most seem to come up as living in London, so you’ll have a lot more choice. The only thing i feel about london guys is that they probably date a lot and i don’t know how genuine they are. But that’s just my opinion

 

[alwayslurkin]

I'm talking to someone online that I think I do actually like, but I don't wanto let myself as I have just come out of a relationship and he lives quite far away

But at the same time, it is frustrating me how much I find myself randomly thinking about him

Nothing he has said gives me any indication that he likes me, it's just friendly, but he did mention a date with another woman and I wouldn't say it hurt as such, but didn't make me feel happy

Just brain dumping and need reassuring that other people have been here before

Usually I'm bold and ballsy and ask where I stand, but even if he turned around and said he liked me, nothing would come of it

 

[under the ivy]

Tell me when you spot the mobile phone.
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So many questions. Was the phone on a timer to take the picture? I hope so

 

[whatktdid]

At least you found out sooner rather than later, I suppose? Frustrating though for sure!

 

[yankydoo]

Guys, been online dating for almost 1.5 years now. Just before lockdown I got to about 3 months with someone I liked but he dumped me.

Then met someone else. He’s (so far) what I’ve been looking for. He’s had 3 meltdowns now where he’s turned round and said he’s not sure what he wants blah blah blah. The first two were early on (tbh I didn’t care as it was so early and I just expect the worst now) and then the third one was after about 2.5 months of dating (This really upset me). he didn’t dump me but said he needed time to work out what he wants and requested space. He proceeded to message me the most he’s ever done and we met up the following week and something had definitely changed in him and he’s been lovely. It’s been about another month but not seen him for almost 3 weeks due to overlapping travels. Been messaging daily though.

Ive not come this far with online dating. Ive stopped dating others as I want to focus on him and it didn’t feel right. We haven’t had a conversation About our status and where we are going. If I’m being honest, I’m scared to bring it up Due to his meltdowns and also in my gut I feel it’s too early to have the convo. But I’ve missed him so much and I feel I need to bring it up. I don’t want to coast along aimlessly. Any help with the next steps?

i can feel he really likes me. he met my brother recently at a party and was lovely. in my gut I know any reservations he has are to do with commitment and not because he’s not into me.

sorry for typos And rambly post. I’m on my iPad and hard to type!

 

[Strawberry-pot]

Haha I'd never have anyone to message if I did that . I hate the first message thing too, but found bumble to have men who are a bit more serious about properly dating than guys on tinder, does anyone else find that?

I have heard this. I know a lot of people who have got Serious relationships from bumble and my friend from work was due to get married in sept to someone she’s been with for nearly two year thanks for bumble. I think tinder is more for hook ups nowadays.

 

[lasttime]

Did he get in touch out of the blue?

Yea, we hadn't spoken for 6 years but he saw me on a dating app and sent me a message saying we used to have a good time together etc so we started chatting again

 

[coconochanel]

At least give him 24 hrs!

I will.

Guys I can’t wait until we all have happy positive, heart warming and a bit sickly cringe lovely stories because I’d like to fast forward all this dating malarkey.

Has he been “seen” on WhatsApp?
Yeah I’d hold off blocking right now just to see if he texts.

yes he has been seen on whatsapp but not for a few hours.

 

[lozenge85]

Why are guys so full on these days? Started talking to a guy and two messages in he's asking to call me and asking if we can go on a date tonight. Feel like I need to just run in the opposite direction, shame because he was actually good looking too.

I’ve also encountered a few pushy guys lately. One of them wanted to speak on the phone after literally a handful of messages - unmatched me after I said I didn’t want to!

I think it’s either lockdown boredom/frustration, or they’re trying to quickly get over someone else?

 

[HankMcPrank]

I dated someone in lockdown. It didn’t work out.
I’m so much happier on my own.

That “relationship” proved to me what mattered most.

 

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I could honestly create a book from all my screenshots of hilarious/awful dating profiles. I have so many of them!

My poor friends get bombarded with all my screenshots. I feel sorry for them

 

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No, I haven't. This was only last night. Goddamnit!!!

Any updates??

 

[Cocoflowers]

oh hunny!!! I feel every inch of what you’re saying I met a guy off hinge we spoke everyday for weeks, FaceTime,voicenote, what’s app, we went on a few dates and I felt like it was ACTUALLY GOING SOMEWHERE. Low and behold, he vanished off the face of the Earth I sent a message Basically wishing him happiness and why didn’t he just say if he didn’t want to meet.. nothing fast forward months and months Christmas Day I had to drink, one too many zoom quizzes later I went on hinge and the first person who popped up was him. Merry frecking Christmas sounds like nothing to some but it hit me slightly because he didn’t disappear for someone else..I still feel like I’m not ‘good enough’ I won’t be dating again, anyway! He also doesn’t have any social media which is bloody annoying but was so handsome but you will find someone when it’s meant to be my darling 🤍

it's his loss not yours he doesnt know how amazing and special you are

The guy i was talking to i messaged him first as his bio was.. i don't message first i add to the pile..
Then we chatted basically all hours of the day for a week then but there is a few red flags which im sure everyone on here will be saying glad he has done a runner. He used to ask for pictures all the time so i have a alot of banter so i was sending like pictures of me as a baby not actual "pictures he wanted" he always wanted to know why i was still active on there etc he has 2 jobs he is a busy man he wanted to meet before after work, told me he liked me.. i didnt meet up with him or have a phone call just his attitude changed maybe he got in too deep aswell but he hasnt reached out since Tuesday morning and I've contacted him since nothing.. so i deleted his number conversations pictures everything i know all his social media so blocked all of it to.

Basically it sounds like ive had a lucky escape