Your friend actually said his lack of self control and sexually harassing you was because of the dress you chose to wear?? Wow !! Some women really need to do better in how they excuse and enable such shitty behaviour from men.I really hope we can all meet up and share our experiences, will be like chicken soup for the soul! My friend tried to blame the “Saturday night groper” (now my new little mate) on my dress!!
seriously sometimes our friends are well meaning but it’s impossible to get them to relate isn’t it? Xx
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LittleBird
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I had a first day today and it accidentally lasted EIGHT hours. We were supposed to grab ice creams and chat in the park and ended up going to a bar after and grabbing some drinks. Keep your fingers and toes crossed for me please because he seems really nice 
Mr Sparkle
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Petty update: Deleted blue tick guy's contact yesterday after FIVE days of no response. Voila, whaddya know, I hear from him early this morning with an apology for being AWOL. Definitely not going to bother replying, he can assume our Friday date's off, I've got other plans. 
How do they turn everything into sex. It’s so tedious. I don’t dare flirt on apps because men generally take it as a green light to be crude
ThreeSteaksPam
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I think that’s for the best, honestly. I know people are busy but that’s not normal. Especially if it’s upset you to the point that you’ve cried. He sounds like he wants the nice stuff like going on dates (maybe sex, I’m not sure if you’ve gone that far yet) but has no interest in your daily life or you as a person. Get. In. The. Bin.Petty update: Deleted blue tick guy's contact yesterday after FIVE days of no response. Voila, whaddya know, I hear from him early this morning with an apology for being AWOL. Definitely not going to bother replying, he can assume our Friday date's off, I've got other plans.
Mr Sparkle
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Thread title suggestion: Don't settle for breadcrumbs if you're a strong, independent loaf of bread
I don't know.
I don't know.
Woolmercardington
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And know more about what exactly? You've told me nothing and have one selfie sitting in a van with a face like a smacked arse.
whathastheworldcometo
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Clickbait
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Fucking hell. It wasn’t even 9am. That’s the sort of message that would make me want to go on a rampage with a taser gun. He’d be tasered repeatedly in the nuts until he learned how to appropriately speak to a woman he’s never met before. Sorry you’ve had to start the day like that - I am angry on your behalf.
Hi guys!
Hope you’re not melting with that heat. I posted something on the last thread and I’ve got a bit of a follow up:
(this was my original message:
Hello everyone! So yesterday I’ve been on my second date with a guy and it’s going so well!! I cannot see any major red flags
. We have so much in common, it’s just refreshing. We talked about seeing each other this week and that I might stay at his 
.
The only thing is, we talked a bit about sex and he seems to have less experience than me. I sensed that he may be a bit intimidated but we shall see. I usually like a man who knows what he’s doing, who can control me but he said he’s never done this before and that he’s probably too gentle. So that’s my only worry I think
)
Soooo i went round his on Friday evening and we had such a lovely time! Went for food and a drink then back at his. We listened to a lot of music while talking. He said that it felt special to spend time with someone who shares the same music taste as him and that was very rare a girl like that (music is very important to both of us). We were looking at each other a lot, kissed a lot and it obviously ended up in the bedroom.
i don’t know why he put so much pressure on himself as he was the most thoughtful guy in bed. Not as gentle as he said, just the right amount of everything.
he made me breakfast the next day and I left a bit later.
I have always found myself feeling a bit awkward in terms of texting the day after we had sex in all my previous flirts, not knowing if they only wanted a shag but with him, it feels just so natural. I don’t have that
I cannot see any red flags so far. Even though it was only the 3rd date, I am usually quite good to see them way before this.
I’m really trying to keep my guards up and not get too excited as I’ve been disappointed a lot before (like we all have reading these threads) but I am very pleased with everything
sorry for the very long message but I needed to confess that I haven’t been this enthusiastic for a long time and it feels bloody GOOD
Hope you’re not melting with that heat. I posted something on the last thread and I’ve got a bit of a follow up:
(this was my original message:
Hello everyone! So yesterday I’ve been on my second date with a guy and it’s going so well!! I cannot see any major red flags
. We have so much in common, it’s just refreshing. We talked about seeing each other this week and that I might stay at his . The only thing is, we talked a bit about sex and he seems to have less experience than me. I sensed that he may be a bit intimidated but we shall see. I usually like a man who knows what he’s doing, who can control me but he said he’s never done this before and that he’s probably too gentle. So that’s my only worry I think
)Soooo i went round his on Friday evening and we had such a lovely time! Went for food and a drink then back at his. We listened to a lot of music while talking. He said that it felt special to spend time with someone who shares the same music taste as him and that was very rare a girl like that (music is very important to both of us). We were looking at each other a lot, kissed a lot and it obviously ended up in the bedroom.
i don’t know why he put so much pressure on himself as he was the most thoughtful guy in bed. Not as gentle as he said, just the right amount of everything.
he made me breakfast the next day and I left a bit later.
I have always found myself feeling a bit awkward in terms of texting the day after we had sex in all my previous flirts, not knowing if they only wanted a shag but with him, it feels just so natural. I don’t have that
I cannot see any red flags so far. Even though it was only the 3rd date, I am usually quite good to see them way before this.
I’m really trying to keep my guards up and not get too excited as I’ve been disappointed a lot before (like we all have reading these threads) but I am very pleased with everything
sorry for the very long message but I needed to confess that I haven’t been this enthusiastic for a long time and it feels bloody GOOD
Woolmercardington
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Just had a final, unexpected message from the Tinder Toyboy!!!
For those with good memories, I did not respond further to his last text over a week ago where he did his explaining and apologising and said he would message me the following week (week just gone). He didn't - but then I hadn't text him back and did not re-add him as a contact.
Well, I wasn't in a temper, so he's got that wrong. And he's got time on his side? What a bitch His profile pic has vanished, too, so he did my trick or has blocked me 
For those with good memories, I did not respond further to his last text over a week ago where he did his explaining and apologising and said he would message me the following week (week just gone). He didn't - but then I hadn't text him back and did not re-add him as a contact.
Well, I wasn't in a temper, so he's got that wrong. And he's got time on his side? What a bitch
His profile pic has vanished, too, so he did my trick or has blocked me
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justapossum
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Breadcrumbing! Giving someone the absolute bare minimum to keep them around.
It's also so embarrassing when you've been dating someone, got excited and told other people about it, and then they ask how things are going on and you have to explain that they disappeared without a word
Woolmercardington
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From the memes thread 
realhousewivewannabe
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I’m just venting because im annoyed.
so last night a picture popped up on my explore - it was the 48 year old I had posted about with another woman at a festival and in a garden with her… I’ve checked her story highlights (yes I know I could be a fbi agent), she’s posted with her, her dog and his dog 17 weeks ago, and again 6 weeks ago. I was going to unfollow him then I didn’t and watched his stories over the weekend. Checked this morning and his hidden his stories from me.. I have a finsta (I know I shouldn’t use it to stalk these men but I looked) he’s got loads of stories up, including a picture of her, in his house (I know as I had been) with his dog…
I take it maybe she’s his girlfriend and maybe he lied and his mum isn’t even sick!
What the f*** is wrong with everyone (not you all you’re fine but people with
)
so last night a picture popped up on my explore - it was the 48 year old I had posted about with another woman at a festival and in a garden with her… I’ve checked her story highlights (yes I know I could be a fbi agent), she’s posted with her, her dog and his dog 17 weeks ago, and again 6 weeks ago. I was going to unfollow him then I didn’t and watched his stories over the weekend. Checked this morning and his hidden his stories from me.. I have a finsta (I know I shouldn’t use it to stalk these men but I looked) he’s got loads of stories up, including a picture of her, in his house (I know as I had been) with his dog…
I take it maybe she’s his girlfriend and maybe he lied and his mum isn’t even sick!
What the f*** is wrong with everyone (not you all you’re fine but people with
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LaurieLaurie
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Saw this and thought of all you
square_spoon
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This, a squillion times over. Delete!
it’s not been changed?!
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I’ve done something lame. I’ve changed my WhatsApp pic to see if I’ll get any kind of reaction 
well at least my builder that I’ve been trying to get hold of has finally replied to my WhatsApp!! 
well at least my builder that I’ve been trying to get hold of has finally replied to my WhatsApp!!
Mr Sparkle
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So odd. This gives me "just out of a long term relationship, doesn't know how dating apps work or affect other ppl and panicked" vibes. Like, definitely not anything you've done.Ugggh been chatting to another guy for the last 3 days, we had loads in common, conversation flowed, he asked me out, we arranged next Friday, I responded to the rest of his message and come home this evening to find he's deleted his account... Why?
Some guy's just suggested we take psychedelics together on the first date. Like first off, as if I'm sharing my goodies with you. And second off, who in their right mind would want to do that with a total stranger? Cheeky sod.
ThreeSteaksPam
Chatty Member
@Savewaterdrinkgin Why did you tell him you were blocking him instead of just blocking him? It’s prolonged the torment for another 48 hours and nothing has changed. Get that MF in the bin girl 
mehere
Active member
So ladies the guy I've been texting for the last 3 weeks has just checked in to see if we're still on for tonight. I've confirmed we are and he's booked a lovely restaurant in London. For life reasons we haven't been able to meet until now and although I'm looking forward to it, I don't feel very enthusiastic on account of the heat getting to me I hope this one sticks cause it will be my sixth date in the space of 2 months and I am TIREDDD
I hope this one sticks cause it will be my sixth date in the space of 2 months and I am TIREDDD