Dating after lockdown #6 Block him!

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

Thanks all it’s what I really needed to hear, harsh or not.

friends tell me to block him and move on which I’m close to doing, others are saying to keep trying because I’ll regret it (which my heart wants), then others saying meet someone else and distract myself. My head is a mess.

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

What is moolah?

Money

 

[Bellaboo83]

Did you reply? I’d expect him to up his game now, they always do it try and keep you around.

Yes I was at a late work meeting so I left it two hours and replied when I got home. He's been messaging ever since

 

[prinnygrace]

Hopefully you don’t run into the Laundry Basket Spunker (LBS) too!

I bloody hope not!!

 

[Mavis Cruet]

‘I like curvy women’ - I like slim women with a disproportionately giant bum and boobs


(so, square_spoon, as a plus size gal, you’re too fat)

Yet if you read anything these days, boobs are out! Men like all shapes and sizes. I have big boobs and a normal sized bum for my shape, yet I always seem to get ‘bum guys’ - I mean if you’re not a boob guy, don’t swipe the E cup female!

 

[aimz_yeah]

I like a chilled first date that can end quickly if it needs to but I prefer to go for drinks over something like a walk or activity date. To me those are more for a third date when I’ve relaxed a little bit and if I’m going out I want to dress up and enjoy it


No one has ever talked to me about kids while I’ve been on dating apps except to ask if I had any or to say they do but that’s as far as that conversation has went.

He is the first to have asked. He asked if I was serious and if it was never ever (my phrasing is I’m not looking to have children). Why even match if that’s a dealbreaker. He couldn’t even be bothered to message first so I doubt I’m missing out on much

 

[HelloStereo]

Are you that bothered or interested in him? I can only echo what everyone else has said about his original message but as for how to respond, I'd probably go for something like ok thanks for being honest, it doesn't sound like you have the time to put into dating so I think it's best if we put a pin in things. And leave it there!

I wouldn't be flexible or offer a compromise like "what if we agree to only meet up once every two weeks or when you've got time?", if that makes sense. He's said he's too busy, so that's that. Sometimes I found guys want you to do the leg work when they claimed to be busy, like seeing them when it's convenient/last minute, you travelling to see them, planning dates and the like - anything that means they don't need to put in the work


Personally no, it sounds bad but I've never found myself wanting to be friends with any of these people. Wasn't friends with them to begin with, so wasn't gonna be friends with them after the date! Guys seem to treat the "friendship" as an ego boost or a free therapy session, I did try to be friends with a couple of guys but they never took a genuine interest in my life, it was always about them. I cba with orbiters. You always get ditched as soon as they start dating someone new or get a girlfriend.

This is how I feel. If they suggest being friends after being the one to break up / not want to date then they are just keeping you on the back burner or suggested it as they thought it was a nice thing to do. If they want to remain friends and they're the one who is still interested there could be some ulterior motive.

 

[Mavis Cruet]

How do they turn everything into sex. It’s so tedious. I don’t dare flirt on apps because men generally take it as a green light to be crude

That’s not flirting though - it’s like a prelude to some very dodgy 70s porn flick!

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

I wish you could pm me lol friends!!!

I have no idea we are actually from the same area .

the gym?

Haha I’m so scared of the gym but yep!

 

[Thank(space)you]

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My brain can’t function in the heat, wedding ring or not?

Also, how would you feel if you started to talk to someone but found out they’d slept with a close friend, no go right?

It's his left hand and ring finger so I'd be inclined to say wedding ring.

As for the close friend situation, speak to the friend and see how they feel. I'm "slut sisters" with a few of my friends. Depends on the friend and the guy

 

[LaurieLaurie]

He asked me first how long I'd been single. I told him then asked him the same and he said 2 years

Yes perhaps the 'you sound pretty perfect' should have been a red flag?

In other news, late night texter (and today's date that didn't happen) has messaged tonight to ask if I've had a good evening.

Did you reply? I’d expect him to up his game now, they always do it try and keep you around.