Ha! No. Haven’t spoken to him in over a week.@Clementine Did you end up getting your book back?
You're just like meI hate how easily attached I get, I keep thinking about how good my date was Friday and keep having to remind myself to take him off the pedestal because realistically I don't actually know him
Nothing wrong with being picky!I just signed up for a dating app. Never had a boyfriend (embrassed) as never been confident enough to try (still not) but got to try at least. I just automatically rejecting a lot as I know they’d not be interested. Also too picky as I rejected someone because they had a beagle
Oh no! I absolutely feel your pain, it's horrible when you let yourself get butterflies and it all comes to nothing. I am not the person to give advice but if he can't communicate properly it was a road to nowhere . Still shit though, sending hugs xNeed some words of strength. Not dated anyone since 2015. Started chatting to a lovely guy end of May. Tried really hard to meet but we live in different areas. Spoke daily. Then Thursday- ghosted. Just before I'm meant to go meet him this week.
He's sent a few really short tempered replies but I've refrained from bombarding him so just given up really. No idea what i did wrong. Just so fed up that after all these years I get excited then it's for nothing. Why bother?
Short tempered replies from someone you've never met? I'd tell him to GTFO. Dodged a bullet there imo.Need some words of strength. Not dated anyone since 2015. Started chatting to a lovely guy end of May. Tried really hard to meet but we live in different areas. Spoke daily. Then Thursday- ghosted. Just before I'm meant to go meet him this week.
He's sent a few really short tempered replies but I've refrained from bombarding him so just given up really. No idea what i did wrong. Just so fed up that after all these years I get excited then it's for nothing. Why bother?
Ditto this @NinaStar90! Everyone is usually on their best behaviour during this early stage, and him already being like that givesShort tempered replies from someone you've never met? I'd tell him to GTFO. Dodged a bullet there imo.
My best tip would be to treat dating like a game because well, it is a game to most men. Until you have been on a couple of dates and got to know each other, he is basically a stranger - just another face on the app, a guy with a background you can’t really check. Romanticising people or putting them on pedestal is usually a bad strategy as it’s mostly projecting that has little to do with reality. Be picky. Put yourself first. Don’t tolerate BS from anyone. Don’t pin your hopes too high but try to have fun.Hi folks. Thought I'd join this thread, having a hard time! Recently separated from my husband as I found out a while back he had a secret life seeing prostitutes for years including during my 2 rounds of ivf, pregnancy and beyond, up till I caught him out. Eventually gave things another go for the sake of our child but obviously it was far too much to forgive. Been checked out mentally for a long time and a couple of weeks ago started online dating again.
Met a guy who just ticked my boxes on all levels, so much in common, v intelligent, took me out on a wonderful first date which was everything I could've hoped for. But I had a busy day one day and didn't message as much and he immediately accused me of getting weird and pulling away. Got me quite riled as there's nothing more triggering for me than a guy who makes assumptions about my thoughts and I said he was being too intense and I needed a bit of space. So that was the end of that he basically said, bye, nice knowing you and now won't speak to me.
Logically I know I'm best off without him and it wouldn't have worked if he was going to be so uncompromising but I'm fucking wrecked over it and so annoyed at myself, I can't stop thinking about him and that I've missed my chance at something really good.
So I'm back online with a vengeance and have got all the apps going. But no-one fucking measures up to him. I'm so sad and raging at myself for being like this after knowing a guy for 10 days, I'm too smart for this!
So many guys with profiles just saying they don't know what to write and just ask anything you want to know. Why would I be curious when you are giving nothing! Also these sites want you to pay for everything now its so shit!
Sorry for the long first post but can't tell anyone I know or they'll hhink I've lost the plot.
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Oh no! I absolutely feel your pain, it's horrible when you let yourself get butterflies and it all comes to nothing. I am not the person to give advice but if he can't communicate properly it was a road to nowhere . Still shit though, sending hugs x
Nothing to be embarrassed about at all and certainly nothing wrong with being picky!I just signed up for a dating app. Never had a boyfriend (embrassed) as never been confident enough to try (still not) but got to try at least. I just automatically rejecting a lot as I know they’d not be interested. Also too picky as I rejected someone because they had a beagle
Agree! I hope @Clickbait is benefiting from their advice in a professional capacity as @Agent Cooper said!Just checking in to say take all of the @Clickbait advice to those who are dating.
Me? I've decided I just hate everyone. Ill stay on this thread to cheerleader you all though.
Welcome Rach. God that sounds absolutely horrific, I am so sorry this happened to youHi folks. Thought I'd join this thread, having a hard time! Recently separated from my husband as I found out a while back he had a secret life seeing prostitutes for years including during my 2 rounds of ivf, pregnancy and beyond, up till I caught him out. Eventually gave things another go for the sake of our child but obviously it was far too much to forgive. Been checked out mentally for a long time and a couple of weeks ago started online dating again.
Met a guy who just ticked my boxes on all levels, so much in common, v intelligent, took me out on a wonderful first date which was everything I could've hoped for. But I had a busy day one day and didn't message as much and he immediately accused me of getting weird and pulling away. Got me quite riled as there's nothing more triggering for me than a guy who makes assumptions about my thoughts and I said he was being too intense and I needed a bit of space. So that was the end of that he basically said, bye, nice knowing you and now won't speak to me.
Logically I know I'm best off without him and it wouldn't have worked if he was going to be so uncompromising but I'm fucking wrecked over it and so annoyed at myself, I can't stop thinking about him and that I've missed my chance at something really good.
So I'm back online with a vengeance and have got all the apps going. But no-one fucking measures up to him. I'm so sad and raging at myself for being like this after knowing a guy for 10 days, I'm too smart for this!
So many guys with profiles just saying they don't know what to write and just ask anything you want to know. Why would I be curious when you are giving nothing! Also these sites want you to pay for everything now its so shit!
Sorry for the long first post but can't tell anyone I know or they'll hhink I've lost the plot.
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Oh no! I absolutely feel your pain, it's horrible when you let yourself get butterflies and it all comes to nothing. I am not the person to give advice but if he can't communicate properly it was a road to nowhere . Still shit though, sending hugs x
He has replied - as predicted said he's had a bust day etc etcWell so far I've been left on read todayhopefully it is just he's had a busy day at work & now busy with his kids. We usually message when love island is on about the show so we shall see!
I think if I liked them I'd be pleased, I dunno, it's been so long since I've been in that positionGirls what would you do if someone told you after just two dates that they were leaving the apps and did not want to continue seeing other people? I could see it coming but I’m still a bit taken aback right now!
You can‘t do adultery anyway now going through a Divorce the laws changed sadly it sucksI've just done the speed dating event on bumble, was a bit of a laugh, couple of matches that I'm chatting too.
Went to drs today, my daughter has chicken pox and its her birthday on Sat, had to cancel her party, things have got to pick up soon! I also spoke to a solicitor and she told me I can't divorce my ex on adultery grounds bc I took him back and tried again, fml
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