Coping with losing a pet

[Maid22]

I put our darling cat to sleep on Tuesday and I can’t stop crying. It comes over me in waves. My family is away and can’t return due to covid so I’ve been nursing him alone since his lymphoma diagnosis in August. I tried so hard to keep him alive, happy and healthy as he adored my husband and probably wondered where he went. Monday I just knew he was so poorly and suffering and his eyes were looking at me so sadly. Putting him in the basket to take him to the vet was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Mornings and evenings are the toughest as he needed so much care and medication. He was a funny, loving, adorable cat and we were so lucky to have him. We got him from a shelter at 3 months and he was almost 13. He loved us and has left a huge gaping hole.

So sorry sending hugs

 

[no-no]

I lost my( just over a yo ) cat,, Friday morning to a tragic accident due to a dog lead breaking. The D link snapped from the lead and the dog chased and caught my cat probably killing him instantly by breaking his neck as he was unmarked.

I feel very strange about it as feel I spent so much time comforting the dog owners that I neglected myself and my own grief and now that grief isn't coming out.

I feel absolutely no ill will towards the dog or its owners it was just one of those things. I'm just sad that I'm not feeling the sadness I normally would at a time like this. I'm not someone who beats my chest over my pets dying even though I love them dearly, but also I'm not blase about them dying either. . Or could it shock at how the little fella died?

Very sorry to hear about your cat and the tragic circumstances. How are you feeling now?

I hope everyone is coping okay with their grief, and anybody going through anticipatory grief. I dealt with that for a long time and it caused a lot of unpleasant feelings, I felt I couldn’t enjoy the time I had left because it was stressful when you’ve exhausted every option. I would give anything to have him back.

 

[bolimepipi]

My cat has just died and I am absolutely devastated he was only 7 and literally my best friend in the whole world. We had such a bond and he’s gotten me through some awful times, especially the last year. I always thought I’d have him for a long time and I just feel so sad and lost now that he’s gone how do you cope with losing a pet? I almost feel silly for being this upset but he was more than just a pet to me. If anyone has any advise or tips please let me know, I don’t know how I’m going to get through work tomorrow

i don't have useful advice but all i can say is that i'm terribly sorry for your loss and i'm sending you lots of hugs i can't even imagine how you feel.

 

[Scotty1976]

I'm so sorry for all of you who are struggling with the loss of your best friends. I would recommend anyone who's finding things really difficult to contact the blue cross bereavement service. We lost a Labrador puppy at 15 weeks due to fits she had to get pts the "breeder" was apologetic but no help .I still don't know what happened to my pups litter mates but just saw on a well known seller site she has more litters of Labrador puppies up for sale for £900 .It's like my grief had manifested into anger. I thought I'd have my wee girl for at least 10 years.

 

[Maid22]

I had to say goodbye to my dog tonight. She was a rescue, and I had her for almost 9 years. She was 15 but pretty healthy apart from horrible neurological issues. It took her over and her life was getting miserable apart from enjoying eating. Today she told me it was time. I am broken! I will read everyone else's stories on here now because there is no way I can sleep on the bed where she usually is!

I'm so sorry, I'm not very good with words, but everyone of us on here knows how you're feeling x

 

[Purrrrrrr]

Very sorry to hear about your cat and the tragic circumstances. How are you feeling now?

I hope everyone is coping okay with their grief, and anybody going through anticipatory grief. I dealt with that for a long time and it caused a lot of unpleasant feelings, I felt I couldn’t enjoy the time I had left because it was stressful when you’ve exhausted every option. I would give anything to have him back.

I'm doing OK now thank you. We had a lovely burial with my grandchildren and we each spoke about our memories of him. Some made us cry some made us laugh. That's very healing.

 

[Maid22]

I've lost pets who I've loved to bits over the years,, but I've never been so upset over my boy who I held when I had to make the decision to pts, I miss him so much, I can't talk about him or look at photos of him, even typing this out I'm welling up.

 

[Maid22]

I am still struggling over losing him, I miss him so much.

 

[rebremm99]

I hope you are doing ok and totally understand how you are feeling. It’s been like 6 months and I’m still devastated about losing my cat be kind to yourself and give yourself time to heal. I got some wonderful advise in this thread that really helped x

 

[Maid22]

My cat went out last night and hasn’t come home. We’ve had him for 7 years after we rescued him from an RSPCA home. He’s never been gone before but we think he’s taken himself over the rainbow bridge as he’s old, we think deaf and has been very unhappy. Vets appointment was Wednesday. Maybe he knew

Oh I'm so sorry, he might come home, I really hope for your sakes he does, it's the not knowing where he's gone is hard, hugs to you x

 

[wakametango]

My cat has just died and I am absolutely devastated he was only 7 and literally my best friend in the whole world. We had such a bond and he’s gotten me through some awful times, especially the last year. I always thought I’d have him for a long time and I just feel so sad and lost now that he’s gone how do you cope with losing a pet? I almost feel silly for being this upset but he was more than just a pet to me. If anyone has any advise or tips please let me know, I don’t know how I’m going to get through work tomorrow

Oh sweetie it’s awful isn’t it?
My partner lost his pet of 7 years last lockdown, they were obsessed with each other. I’d say he was actually trauma bonded with her, his grief was deep and it cut him very deeply. I was terrified of the dog but burst into tears when he called me with the news as I knew what it meant to him.
Do you have any one to speak to? I know having me there just to hug or speak to helped him.
We walked a lot then after a few days decided we needed to get away. We literally drove to a campsite and slept in his van but it was just what we needed, a night away. Sorry if this is unrealistic advice with current lockdowns but maybe you could plan something or a day to a nice town/park near you.
As someone said above definitely take some time off work if you can, it’s just not important right now. That can all wait and it will be there upon your return.
We have her ashes in our home and he got a ring made with her ashes in. His friend got a large canvas of them together and we’ve got that out too.
I’m looking for the perfect box frame so we can put his favourite photo in with her (huge) collar in too.

I really hope you have someone close you can lean on x

 

[no-no]

I had to say goodbye to my dog tonight. She was a rescue, and I had her for almost 9 years. She was 15 but pretty healthy apart from horrible neurological issues. It took her over and her life was getting miserable apart from enjoying eating. Today she told me it was time. I am broken! I will read everyone else's stories on here now because there is no way I can sleep on the bed where she usually is!

I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you’re getting better day by day?

I’m struggling with similar only it’s not neurological it’s very bad arthritis. He’s healthy in every respect other than walking. I don’t know how much longer we can continue he still has his zest for walks, still a hungry hog, he’s never been one for cuddles so no change there but l I don’t know what to do other than keep making accommodations and providing pain relief.

 

[Lonewolf]

I've made a huge decision today to get another pup, it'll be good for my young dog and for me as I've been soo upset after losing my boy.

Awe how fab hope all goes well let us know how you get on with the new family member?

 

[quinzel]

Aw these are lovely!

I’m now thinking I was so caught off guard earlier that I wasn’t prepared for making decisions around cremation etc. Never discussed this with OH as we thought we’d have more time. I ended up just going with a communal cremation where the ashes are scattered in a memorial garden because I liked the idea of having somewhere we can go to sit remember him and his spirit mingling with other pets in the garden, but I never asked about things like if they take pawprints or anything and should I have asked more questions and not just go with what they were trying to sell me. Never had a pet before so I don’t know what the norm is.

Feeling so much guilt around the whole thing really. It’s just awful.

That's totally understandable and must have been so tough making all the decisions yourself too

It's possibly a service some vets offer as we didn't mention it but they asked us if he wanted the paw prints and fur before the procedure.

I think that sounds lovely having a place to go and visit him, we may have done the same but the memorial garden is really far away.

I hope you are feeling okay today

 

[Blond3g1rl]

I don't know if this is the right thread but....

My horse of 8 years is getting put to sleep on Monday. He's only 13.

He's been having neurological issues that we can't get to the bottom of, although we thought we had it under control, last night it came back and there's nothing else we can do.

Today I spent some time with him and he wasn't showing any signs but I really don't know if I'm doing the right thing. To look at he looks so healthy but he can go downhill so fast and have seizures in which he looks terrified during.

Am I doing the wrong thing putting him down when he isn't at his worst?! I just don't know what to do. Everyone keeps saying "a day too early is better than a day too late" but what if its not the right time.

I'm absolutely broken

I’m so sorry. I don’t know what I would do if I had to lose my big lad.
I believe a day early is better than a day late. With neurological issues the horse and other peoples welfare is paramount.
Take some tail and his shoes and when you can face it have them made into something nice. Thinking of you x

 

[Maid22]

Luckily he is microchipped and we found him. He’d got himself lost. So pleased you got yours back too xx

I'm so pleased you found him, how is he?

 

[Lonewolf]

All of your posts are breaking my heart. Our little cat is 2 in a couple of months and I honestly dread the day she isn't here. I worry about it all the time even though there is nothing wrong with her and she is fit and healthy (that we know off).. I always panic about giving her too much treats etc as I never want her to get sick. Sending love to you all

It's hard not to worry about them, have you had a look through this thread? Might lighten the mood for you share your little love in here

The share my cat thread! #2

Previous thread: https://tattle.life/threads/the-share-my-cat-thread.14198/ hey all you cool cats and kittens 🐱🐯🦁 i will start:

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