I agree with this, a family member sadly married a man that is quick with his fists. It started before they married, many in the family refused to attend the wedding thinking she would wake up and walk away from him. She is now isolated from them as they didn't "support or love her" (according to wanker hubby) I kept my mouth shut, attended the wedding to support her, I am sweetness and light to him, but what he doesn't know is that I told her if she ever needs helps I will be there no questions asked, no matter the hour of the day I will be there, she has a room here in my home, I have a small escape fund of savings she can use, as I say nothing negative about or to him he has no reason to isolate her from me, yet he continues to try and she is starting to question him on it and he can give no answer to why I'm not supportive, nice or kind. If he keeps pushing she will eventually wake up and hopefully leave. If that happens I am a safe spot to land for her. I hope Dee's family are playing the long game too.