How am I enjoying it
Christmas day
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So have you ordered the taxi for him yet?How am I enjoying it
Or got your husband to pick him up with his own dad ?How am I enjoying it
I'm going to get him myself and take my babies with me.
So close the thread off now? As you’ve decided what you’re doing and don’t want any more advice?
also surely you’re kids will be up mega early and will need a pre dinner nap so the car journey is perfect for that and then you’re not missing out on any time with them
And take him back to his care home when your kids are in bed.
Thank you for everyone's advice. I know I've not replied but mostly everyone and most have said I'm selfish and spoilt. I'm not spoilt at all. Sometimes people are just asking for advice
Haven’t you got any friends you can ask and who obviously know you and your situation rather than asking strangers?
But you also have to accept when you ask that people will give their opinion, I didn’t call your selfish but you must have thought some one would?
family is complicated but sometimes you have to make peace with other people having different opinions to you
You wanted people's opinions on whether you were being selfish but I think that you hoped to be told that you weren't and that it was more important to spend every waking moment with your young children?
What if they don't want to come with you in the car and want to stay at home with their dad? Do they have a choice?
My thoughts exactly. OP - don't you think it's better for them to be at home, comfortable playing with their new toys, rather than dragging them on that 3 hour round drive that you moaned about? Imagine one got upset during one of the journeys and was crying, seems to me just sucking it up, taking your dad there & back on your own - is the option i would go for. Drop him not long after dinner & you'll be back for the evening - keep them up an hour later if you're that hell bent on not missing any time with them? Not the end of the world is it
Im glad your having your dad with you at christmas it's the right thing to do but agree with above posters you cant ask for advice and just hear what you want to hear
you have come across as selfish and spoilt in your posts at times and I guess Christmas and relatives is an emotive subject I'm sure all of us would do anything to just have one more Christmas with mum/dad etc etc etc
you have come across as selfish and spoilt in your posts at times and I guess Christmas and relatives is an emotive subject I'm sure all of us would do anything to just have one more Christmas with mum/dad etc etc etc
Plan another day with him. Between having to work on holidays some years, and having In-Laws, we've done multiple celebrations most of the time. My In-Laws are scattered around the state, we usually just pick a weekend in which everyone can agree to show up and do it that day. I know that your circumstance can make you feel guilty, but maybe go on the 23rd, or the Sunday before, bring a poinsettia, a gift, and have lunch with him. Doing it before will probably make you feel less guilty on Christmas Eve/Day.
Go back and re-read the first page of the thread that you started. There was a lot of empathy and good advice that you didn't respond to. Enjoy your Christmas with your two children, your husband and your Dad.
Just stumbled on this thread and I'm just imagining the husband and his Dad enjoying a nice peaceful Christmas day wondering where everyone else is 
I hate that I can't enjoy Christmas day because I'm working boxing day. Why should shops be open boxing day they really shouldn't it feels wrong to rinse people of money just after Christmas because they need a towel set that has a reindeer on it reduced to 50p
Why can't you enjoy Christmas day if your in boxing day? I also am but it won't make any difference to Christmas day. I'd also rather know I've got Christmas day off every year even if it means I might have to work boxing day
Because I have to sleep early for it can't properly enjoy knowing I have to wash dry sort my uniform go to the garage Christmas day to get my meal for the next day
Can’t you have leftovers from Xmas day or just make a sandwich?!
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