Yes I agree that knowing how to dress to compliment your body does magic! It makes me feel confident and I don't even notice my "defaults".I like to think the way I dress compliments my body.
Yes I agree that knowing how to dress to compliment your body does magic! It makes me feel confident and I don't even notice my "defaults".I like to think the way I dress compliments my body.
Totally get this. I've been 'skinny' all my life. Just accepted this is how it was, didn't particularly bother me. 2 years ago I started on anti depressants, so that, plus mid thirties, plus lockdown has meant I was 14kgs heavier than 2 years ago. Now I'm back at work and on my feet all day, I've lost another 3kg, but it still surprises me that I have to buy a size 12. However I am really happy with my weight now.I was always super skinny and hated it, wanted to put on weight and used to get really offended when people would point it out to me. As I got older (mid twenties) I did start to gain weight and also started training at the gym. I didn’t mind the weight gain but I was also so much in the mindset of “I need to eat loads to gain weight” that it started to go the other way without me even really realising it. I crept up from a 6 to an 8 and then a 10, then I remember the Dr weighing me for the pill and she told me my BMI was 23 which really shocked me. I know that’s healthy but I still saw myself was a skinny person so it felt a bit strange to now be an “average” person.... if that makes sense.
I stayed that weight for a couple more years and then did end up losing maybe 1.5 stone. I do have moments now where I’m overly critical that I don’t have a flat stomach or amazing bum but whatever ... overall I’m happy with how I look. I keep an eye on my weight and when it creeps over the threshold I just cut down for a few days. I do still have a naturally fast metabolism which I am very thankful for. In an ideal world I would move all the fat from my tummy and arms into my boobs and bum - but you can’t change genetics I guess
I'm so sorry to hear this. You probably know this already but Instagram is not real life and so many people are facetuned/ filtered/ ring lighted.I've always struggled with body confidence. I'm in my mid twenties, I've never been "skinny" and have grown up watching my mum constantly obsess over weight, calorie counting and be on a permanent diet. Unfortunately she would and still does direct comments at me like "you'll get fat eating that" and has the good food vs bad food mentality. I finished uni in July and had put on 3 stone in 3 years. I've had a poor history with eating habits and spent years restricting myself, eating in a huge calorie deficit, binging etc. In January I started properly calorie counting and looking after myself and have lost nearly 2 stone. I felt great and have been wearing clothes which make me feel good. I've also learned to not take any notice of the comments from my mum.
My only worry now is that I can feel myself relapsing my confidence is slowly disappearing and my mental health isn't that great right now. I'm starting to compare myself to women on instagram; something which I haven't done for months. I'm planning to stop calorie counting in the new year which I'm hoping will help as I find it draining and I know there's more to life than counting calories. Sorry about the rant, I'm just feeling pretty down right now