Biggest regrets?

[Pinkii]

Not travelling more
Not studying something that had a career at the end of it
lived alone for a while

 

[House of Tea]

I regret not studying harder and had a career rather than a succession of jobs. I have been well paid but the jobs have always been meaningless and unstimulating. I wanted to be a journalist. It was mentioned to my parents that I should apply to do a journalist course. My mum sadly died when I was still at school and I lost my way for a bit so it did not happen.

I regret not saving more. I have had some amazing holidays and experiences which I do not regret at all, but spending money on stuff, I really do regret.

I regret not moving from where I live before now and being a bit more savvy about trading up to a better property.

I regret trying to fit in. I was a people pleaser. My dad was quick tempered and not adverse to violence (to me and my mum) so I spent a lot of time trying to appease him, reading the room, sussing out the mood. That has carried over into adulthood, I have spent too much time worrying about other people’s moods, or trying to get them to like me. Thankfully I am past that stage now. I am definitely not into people pleasing now.

 

[Pineapple glitter]

I wish I'd been less sensible and a bit more wild.

Not cutting off a toxic friend sooner. Having empathy isn't always a good thing. Don't give them second chances. Just cut them loose, guilt free.

 

[TheScarletgirl]

Doing better in school i messed around and should have re-took more things.It is never too late but i can't afford to return to college.

 

[EmotionalChobits]

Wasting 7 years of my life with a horrible guy. He made me so miserable but just couldn't see it. I never felt so happy and relieved when we broke up and I wish I broke up with him sooner and not waste all those years on him. I'm single now and at my happiest.

 

[Cindy-Lou Who]

Having children so young. I don't mean I regret having children, just that I wish I had more wisdom behind me when I did.

I was 19 when I had my first daughter and 22 with my second. My now husband and I had been together for 3 years when I fell pregnant, we were still living between parents houses and had jobs. We rushed to move into a rented flat because we wanted to be independent which led to mountains of debt.

I then quickly got pregnant with our second which piled the debt on even more.

The youngest is now 9 and we've only just got ourselves comfortable. We both have good jobs with decent wages which we could have been using in better ways than paying off debt for years on end if we had been clever when our children were first born.

 

[rainbowlemon]

I regret not doing drugs. I always feel like I missed out. Now I'm in middle age, maybe I'll go on a binge.

Easier to just join the gang at Westminster.

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

Probably turning to drink and drugs socially in my teens thinking it was the cool thing to do. My sister died when I was 16 so I just buried my head in the sand. I feel that recreational drugs and heavy binge drinking was all fun at the time but it definitely has caused me nothing but mental health problems as I have gotten older.

Another regret would be staying with ex partners that were toxic and letting them destroy me mentally so that I suffered from serious trust issues and lack of confidence.

But I suppose every path I went down has brought me to were I am and I am now.

 

[Loveit17]

I regret much. Particularly letting so many people away with mistreating me because I hated confrontation. I'm different now, but I learned too late.

I agree with this completely, I’ve let people treat me like shit before because I was too scared of confrontation or sticking up for myself, mostly in jobs in the past, I also regret not getting a degree

 

[TheScarletgirl]

Fcking up a relationship at 19 by getting too needy and not being 'cool' enough (to be fair, he might have dumped me anyway), all my memories of first love now are tainted, I still think about it and it's nearly 20 years later.

I still have thoughts about these things that happened years ago

 

[JoeBloggs]

I regret going to my senior school and to uni, however I truely believe that if I had not I would not be where I am today. If I had gone to the college I wanted to I would have met my husband 2 years earlier and I am sure he would have given me the ick then he was having a long hair phase!

Going to uni has not helped my career in any way, but again, I don’t think I would be where I am now without it. I would still be in retail.

I can’t say there is much I regret because of the path it has put me on, perhaps not spending as much time on hobbies and pushing myself. Working on that now.

 

[judgejohndeed]

Not saving in my early 20s. I didn't have much to save, but I could have saved some.

Also not doing a year abroad on my undergraduate degree. I never wanted to travel and still don't but I do regret not getting to experience another country and culture for a year back when it was all easily arranged through uni etc.

 

[watermelon sugar]

I regret staying in a toxic relationship for so long. I regret not pushing more to find out who my biological Father is and letting my Mum walk all over me. I regret not going to see my best friend more before he died of cancer a few years ago

 

[watermelon sugar]

In the scheme of things this regret is trivial, but then again maybe not. I made a comment about a certain celebrity, on a Tattle thread last week. It was one of the meanest things I have ever said on Tattle, or anywhere for that matter. I wish I had not posted the comment, and that it could be removed.

If you report the comment they will delete it for you

 

[TommyTBFC]

Afew weeks ago in the nice weather. I spent the whole afternoon in a pub beer garden, sank several drinks, went home drank afew more, then for some unknown reason. I stupidly drove to the shop about a mile away and back.

I remember getting in the car thinking I was fine at the time. Truthfully, I was hammered.

I woke up the next day feeling like absolute shite. I didn’t hurt anyone & drove there and back without incident but I could have easily killed someone…. If I got pulled it would have been an instant ban, I’d have lost my job. I have two kids, what would I have done? I regretted it ever since, I’ve never done it before and never will again. I learnt a lesson that night and I’ll never forgive myself.

 

[Awkward_Somber]

Not working or living abroad when I was younger.
The university I chose and then dropping out of it.

 

[Bitofthebubbly]

I regret not doing a balance transfer to get 0% interest on my credit card balance sooner. Been ‘paying it off’ regularly but not really because of the interest

 

[parrot456]

This will always be my biggest regret. I had to cancel plans very last minute with my dear brother. We were supposed to head away for the weekend but I mixed up my diary dates. Had I followed through on the plans we had, I am convinced he would still be here today. I feel like that weekend away could of shown him that life is always worth living, I dunno really.

I know what he decided to do next is not my fault, however I don't think I can forgive myself for not going away with him that fateful weekend.

I am so so so sorry this has broken my heart reading this. Sending you love & strength.

 

[Serene Serena]

Loving and respecting certain of my siblings so much. Turns out they were horrible people, from whom I am now estranged.

That's really sad, when you have been let down by someone in your family.

 

[Kikifluffypolarbear]

-Not working hard at my A levels and subsequently making a poor decision with my first degree. I'm doing another one now as a mature student that will lead straight into a career but it's much harder with a family to consider and I doubt I'll achieve as much as if I'd started when I was younger.
-Buying our previous house, convinced its actually cursed.
-Not nurturing long term friendships more effectively, though to be fair that works both ways.