Biggest regrets?

[CrystalWench]

Not leaving home when I was younger, being hopelessly in love with an absolute idiot who has no drive to do anything more. Not having enough self esteem/worth to push myself more in my career, giving it up completely for my son.
lots of things really, but I’m settled enough where I am in life at the moment and who knows what life would have been today if I’d done those things, I have no way of knowing if it would be better or worse.

 

[sorrynotsozxox]

Picking the wrong baby daddy

 

[Littleelf]

Choosing hubby (before he was my hubby) and sticking with him and settling down and having a family because I felt like I'd made my choice so I had to stick with it, even though I had the chance to stay with the love of my life instead.

Now I see my ex love of my life living a happy life with another woman that could have been me.

 

[MrsM19]

Picking the wrong person;
Having a child when I was not ready to.

 

[bubbadabut]

I regret leaving my beautiful Madrid behind.

I regret spending so much time worrying about fitting in with my peers at school. People who I don't give a second thought to nowadays.

I regret not doing drugs. I always feel like I missed out. Now I'm in middle age, maybe I'll go on a binge.

 

[crime_junkie]

Going to university. Wasting so much time and energy on toxic ‘friends’ and shitty boyfriends. Being desperate to settle down instead of enjoying being young, free and single. Letting my weight dictate my self worth and happiness.

 

[JellyDonut]

Being with my ex for 13 years when we were both miserable for at least half that. Having children with my ex and having them so young. I wish I would have waited

 

[mcfeez]

Studying my first degree, I hated it. I enjoyed my second one a lot more and it led me to my career so I wish I'd just originally done it. I don't really regret it thought as when I did my second round of studies I was more mature and in a much better headspace so perhaps its for the best, and I still learned a good deal in my first one.

My other regret is having my wedding the way it was. I didn't enjoy planning it or having it, I wanted to elope but compromised as my husband thought he wanted something traditional. He even admits with hindsight we should have eloped - but we're married now so thats what matters.

 

[Souffle]

Allowing myself to gain so much weight
Still doing dead end jobs when I actually have a brain and could do better
Treating my first love badly
Being someone’s bit on the side for nearly a decade

 

[Apple In My Pie]

Not going to Cardiff University when they gave me an unconditional offer

 

[freshhead]

I regret leaving the city id lived in my whole life, when my grandparents who raised me from the age of 11 were getting older. I thought they’d have all the time in the world, but they both passed away within the first 2 years of me moving. Both could of had a lot of comfort with me being around to help them at the end of there days, but I was too far away and in a position where I could only do very little. It will hurt forever that I left when I did.

Wasting money on materials when it could of been spent on experiences

Staying in a very toxic and seriously abusive relationship for such a long time.

 

[Bobby Chariot]

Not moving away from home town.
On o holiday in Greece when I was 21, I was offered a job, I regret not staying there tbh.
Who knows what would have been the outcome but it may well have been a great/bad life experience.

 

[Rockin' Robin]

In the scheme of things this regret is trivial, but then again maybe not. I made a comment about a certain celebrity, on a Tattle thread last week. It was one of the meanest things I have ever said on Tattle, or anywhere for that matter. I wish I had not posted the comment, and that it could be removed.

 

[Notworthy]

Not getting my US Citizenship when I had the chance.

 

[unfinishedsentenc]

just came across this thread and had to comment on this. Please please forgive yourself I’m sure your brother would not want you to feel guilt Sending you lots of love x

I am so so so sorry this has broken my heart reading this. Sending you love & strength.

Thank you both for your kind words. I miss him so much. Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves and unfortunately is the price we pay for loving someone dearly.

 

[EllenDeGenerate]

I regret much. Particularly letting so many people away with mistreating me because I hated confrontation. I'm different now, but I learned too late.

 

[Curly Top]

Choosing language A'levels when they are really not my thing
Attempting to become and spending nearly 18 months training to become an accountant.
Both very miserable enterprises which did nothing for my self esteem

 

[jaffacake987]

Not spending more time with a loved one before they died

Not looking after myself while grieving.

 

[derbyshiregirl]

Doing a degree that realistically I was never going to be able to do as a day job

Waiting to have my first child in my 30’s when now I know I can’t wait too much longer to have the next one due to my age

Not sticking up for myself more to people who have acted like arseholes in the past

 

[nycinthesun]

I regret staying in a toxic, on and off relationship for years in my early 20s. Sometimes when we were "off" I would meet some really great guys and think, "maybe things would be better if I gave this one a chance". My ex probably had some sort of happiness alert go off because he would reel me right back in before anything really took off with anyone else. I also passed on the chance for an amazing study abroad program one year at school because he didn't want to take part but he also didn't want me to leave for a semester. A few of my classmates ended up going and had the best experience, while I of course was stuck back in my toxic situation. Even for several years after finally breaking things off, I suffered a lot of emotional distress whenever I had flashbacks of how abusive he was, or if anyone said or did anything that reminded me of his behavior towards me. Luckily, I'm in a much, much better place now but the feeling of regret will never really go away.