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Sheabutter
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Aw
Utterly brilliant and sexy man asked me to dance at a wedding and I said ‘No’ for reasons I still do not forgive myself for to this day. He looked like a taller, blond Sam Claflin. Reader, he was definitely the one
Not going to uni when the rest of my year group went. I'm now 25 playing catch up, some of my friends are now qualified doing the job I want to do and I'll be touching 30 before I even get close.
I also regret worrying constantly what people thought of me, following trends to "fit in" rather than being my own person. To some degree I still do it now as an adult, I care way too much what people think about me
I also regret worrying constantly what people thought of me, following trends to "fit in" rather than being my own person. To some degree I still do it now as an adult, I care way too much what people think about me
Notgonnalie
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Oh I am so sorry
No matter how long it’s been the pain never leaves does it. You’re never too old to need your mum. Thinking of you and sending you a big warm hug xxxx
Serene Serena
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Excellent news, well done.Ooh... Update on mine. I fell into a job in January and it turned out to be my dream job
Guess it was a temporary regret
My biggest regret was falling in love with a toxic pig of a man, who over the course of 3 years, alienated me from my family and friends, took me to and from work so I couldn’t talk to anyone else, threatened to smack some man who smiled at me in the street, called me ugly and held my head under the tap if I wore makeup - the list of abuse is endless. I wasn’t even very young, 26 when I met him. I finally got the courage to tell my manager what was happening (he worked at the same company in a different department) and she offered me immediate physical assistance, for which I will ALWAYS be grateful.
Love to everyone who has gone through what they have xx
Listening to parents when applying for uni courses instead of doing what interested me
Not capitalising on great opportunity and ending up as I am now.
Biggest by far is cheating on girlfriend. Have been single ever since and it will be 20 years single in November. Ruined my life and mental health and only one idiot to blame and I get to see his face in the mirror every day.
Listening to parents when applying for uni courses instead of doing what interested me
Not capitalising on great opportunity and ending up as I am now.
Biggest by far is cheating on girlfriend. Have been single ever since and it will be 20 years single in November. Ruined my life and mental health and only one idiot to blame and I get to see his face in the mirror every day.
rainbowlemon
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1.Not standing up for myself when I was 14 and girls in my class were spreading rumours about me. I spent the last three years of secondary school so miserable. It was when I first started self harming.
2.I had one week after I'd finished one of my exams. I knew my grandmother was in the hospital but 100% believed that she would get better. I looked at ticket prices and it was £150 one way as it was early august. I chose to wait a week for them to drop down to £80. The night that I arrived home my grandmother was in a coma and died the next day.
3. I've worked on and off in a pharmacy since I was 16. It was a small independent one run by a family of three brothers. I don't have a good relationship with my father, and they were all like fathers for me in the small things they did. Like giving me lifts home if it got late. When they ordered pizza they also gave me some, let me have free drinks. One of the brother's sat down for a full hour after I started crying about my grandmother and I also told him the truth about how much I was struggling in school instead of pretending that it was all wonderful like everyone wants to believe it is , and he just listened and was super kind. Said that my brother and I had both blossomed since we first started working for them and that he was proud of us. He told me he would be in the shop and gave me days and times if I wanted to talk but I was embarrassed that I had cried in front of him, so I didn't go back. He also died 8 months after my grandmother but that was the last time that I saw him and the last things he had said to me.
4. I used to spend a lot on make up and clothing. At one point I had 26 red lipsticks nearly all from MAC . I liked the buzz buying gave me and having the next new collection to look forward too. Not bought any new make up since 2017 as so much of it was still new and unused.
2.I had one week after I'd finished one of my exams. I knew my grandmother was in the hospital but 100% believed that she would get better. I looked at ticket prices and it was £150 one way as it was early august. I chose to wait a week for them to drop down to £80. The night that I arrived home my grandmother was in a coma and died the next day.
3. I've worked on and off in a pharmacy since I was 16. It was a small independent one run by a family of three brothers. I don't have a good relationship with my father, and they were all like fathers for me in the small things they did. Like giving me lifts home if it got late. When they ordered pizza they also gave me some, let me have free drinks. One of the brother's sat down for a full hour after I started crying about my grandmother and I also told him the truth about how much I was struggling in school instead of pretending that it was all wonderful like everyone wants to believe it is , and he just listened and was super kind. Said that my brother and I had both blossomed since we first started working for them and that he was proud of us. He told me he would be in the shop and gave me days and times if I wanted to talk but I was embarrassed that I had cried in front of him, so I didn't go back. He also died 8 months after my grandmother but that was the last time that I saw him and the last things he had said to me.
4. I used to spend a lot on make up and clothing. At one point I had 26 red lipsticks nearly all from MAC . I liked the buzz buying gave me and having the next new collection to look forward too. Not bought any new make up since 2017 as so much of it was still new and unused.
I don’t regret much because I believe all my previous choices have led me to where I am now, and I have a very nice life, but these are the regrets I think of every day;
Not going to uni to study midwifery when I was younger. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do but now I’m mid 30s, have a mortgage to pay, kids etc I don’t think it’s doable, especially not financially
Not being with my dad when he passed away. We knew it was fairly imminent but I chose to leave the hospice to be with my baby son overnight because I missed him. Now I feel like my priorities were wrong - my son will never remember that day and whether I was there or not but my dad was probably aware that I wasn’t there with him
Choosing solid oak work tops for my new kitchen instead of quartz like I originally wanted - fairly trivial in the grand scheme of things but genuinely something I think about every day
Not going to uni to study midwifery when I was younger. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do but now I’m mid 30s, have a mortgage to pay, kids etc I don’t think it’s doable, especially not financially
Not being with my dad when he passed away. We knew it was fairly imminent but I chose to leave the hospice to be with my baby son overnight because I missed him. Now I feel like my priorities were wrong - my son will never remember that day and whether I was there or not but my dad was probably aware that I wasn’t there with him
Choosing solid oak work tops for my new kitchen instead of quartz like I originally wanted - fairly trivial in the grand scheme of things but genuinely something I think about every day
hereforthememe
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Getting married when I was 20. The whole time throughout the ceremony I wanted the ground to swallow me up, in my head I was screaming "get me out of here, I don't want to do this"
Annulled said marriage 3 months later.
Annulled said marriage 3 months later.
1001 others
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I'm back with more! 
I wish I'd had the guts to cut off contact with my toxic, narcissistic family permanently. I managed to go NC (no contact) for a year, but then felt sorry for my mother because she's old (old and cunning, and never changes).
I wish I had studied harder at school. I'm the sort of person who is mediocre at everything - not the best at anything, nor the worst; just always in the middle.
I wish I'd found my calling in life. I try lots of different things because I don't know what my calling is, which others are quick to give their opinion about ("Oh, given that up now, have we?"). And yep, I definitely wish I'd learnt to be more witty with my comebacks and developed a tougher skin.
I wish I'd had the guts to cut off contact with my toxic, narcissistic family permanently. I managed to go NC (no contact) for a year, but then felt sorry for my mother because she's old (old and cunning, and never changes).
I wish I had studied harder at school. I'm the sort of person who is mediocre at everything - not the best at anything, nor the worst; just always in the middle.
I wish I'd found my calling in life. I try lots of different things because I don't know what my calling is, which others are quick to give their opinion about ("Oh, given that up now, have we?"). And yep, I definitely wish I'd learnt to be more witty with my comebacks and developed a tougher skin.
lodgequeen
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I regret buying a house so close to my parents. The future I envisioned is certainly not what came to pass…
I regret not pushing myself in to a proper education and career.
I regret not investing in friendships when younger. I’m in my 40s and have no close friends outside of family.
I regret not pushing myself in to a proper education and career.
I regret not investing in friendships when younger. I’m in my 40s and have no close friends outside of family.
Shoequeen91
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Not staying in Australia when I lived out there
cococookie
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Wish I did better at school but I’m just so crap when it comes to exams, I’m awful at maths 
Rodneytrotter
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-Not breaking free from my toxic parents earlier.
- Moving to the area I live now.
- Giving up my career to bring up my children as I cant get back in.
- Not losing weight sooner.
- Moving to the area I live now.
- Giving up my career to bring up my children as I cant get back in.
- Not losing weight sooner.
1001 others
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I wish I'd taken more notice of my gut feelings and not just settled for some things and people, worrying that was as good as I was going to get.
I am hugely grateful for a couple of amazing things in my life which I'm confident still would've come along if I hadn't had to go through all the hard stuff first ... I often find myself ruminating over the past a fair bit, wishing I hadn't gone down a few of the paths that I did (nothing dangerous or crime-related, just that I had relationships with a couple of men from which there were red flags from the outset and caused a heck of a lot of heartache, and trusted the wrong people).
I am hugely grateful for a couple of amazing things in my life which I'm confident still would've come along if I hadn't had to go through all the hard stuff first ... I often find myself ruminating over the past a fair bit, wishing I hadn't gone down a few of the paths that I did (nothing dangerous or crime-related, just that I had relationships with a couple of men from which there were red flags from the outset and caused a heck of a lot of heartache, and trusted the wrong people).
Gossgirl12
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I regret wasting the majority of my 20's and the first few years of my 30's with an abusive, narcissistic pig. Allowing him to be my baby's dad.
I regret trusting someone who I called my best friend for 12 years, who was more like a sister who then ditched me and her god son completely when she entered a new relationship.
I regret not always being savvy with my money when I was younger, I'm luckily a lot better with it now and love to save.
I regret not looking after my health more and allowing myself to be consumed by food the majority of my life.
I regret trusting someone who I called my best friend for 12 years, who was more like a sister who then ditched me and her god son completely when she entered a new relationship.
I regret not always being savvy with my money when I was younger, I'm luckily a lot better with it now and love to save.
I regret not looking after my health more and allowing myself to be consumed by food the majority of my life.
Turning down some guy I now think would have been really great for me. I was with someone else, and convinced myself I needed to try and make that work. turned out the guy I was with had a whole other secret life that I only discovered after we'd been together 18 months. By then the other guy had met someone else. Nicest, funniest, sweetest, smartest bloke in the world and now really loaded too. I curse my decision every day!