I think the affair was probably the most exciting thing to happen and now she probably realises that he’s a lazy slob and what was once exciting and forbidden has resulted in her being a step mum to 3 kids, with a bloke that doesn’t really give a shit. It isn’t about money either, when me and my husband were together the first few years were financially tough but we always made birthdays special (mixed tapes, fav foods, homemade birthday banners). Things are massively different now and were financially better off but my fav part of my birthday last year was the playlist of all my fav songs that he made for us to listen to while we had a lockdown party (just us 4!)