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I had an appointment with my drs for a separate thing and I mentioned about the possibility of being ASD so I have an appointment at the end of the month
Sorry, I realise this is an old post I don’t think that’s entirely fair. A woman who has spent years considering the possibility that she might be autistic is far more likely to present for a private assessment than someone who is unsure. Because who would waste that kind of money is they weren’t absolutely convinced? Private clinics also screen people before taking their money and putting them forward for assessment, because that’s the only ethical way to do it. What’s to be gained from getting a diagnosis of autism when you know you’re not?Noooo not at all, just I’m aware people doctor shop until they get the answer they want… Also I think going in as a functioning white woman with other privileges saying I think I have x to the extent where I’m paying £1,900 to confirm that they’re more inclined to just agree with me than to thoroughly investigate the reality, as they would if it was NHS.
I remember doing a CPD course at work in my 20s and having to do some sort of role play “interview” or some nonsense (which is enough to make me want the ground to open up and swallow me whole as it is) and getting the feedback that I wasn’t making eye contact much I had no idea then! I used to just berate myself for being crap at life.Eye contact has always been a big issue with me. I can barely make eye contact with my own family. I get hugely embarrassed by it because I know people notice, and I do try to work on it.
I’ve never really thought about sensory overload before but I hate the tv or radio to be too loud, and I can’t bear when the tv is on and there’s a radio on in another room.
Someone mentioned earlier that people don’t warm to them. I’ve always felt like this, for as long as I can remember. I think no matter how hard I try, I come across as stand offish. Like I put up barriers without realising I’m doing it.
I honestly feel so relieved to have found this thread.
Have you ever looked into rejection sensitive dysphoria? It is the absolute worst, but understanding it and knowing how it makes you feel does take the edge offDoes anyone else struggle with what feels like a rejection? There was an incident in one my uni seminars earlier on today and I made an official complaint but now I'm wondering if it was a bit of an overreaction and sensitivity on my part. Spoke to my personal tutor and he said that it was perfectly valid but it's not like much could really be done anyway in regards to the students in the class. The lecturer can be sorted out
Holy shit, this very accurately describes what it was like living with my dad.That the screaming rows I had with my mum (who I now realise is also probably autistic) were an outlet of someone who didn't have a safe space. At school I masked, at home I was hyper on edge, ready to detect the slightest hint of meltdown from my mum. I can still forensically read a room full of people as soon as I walk in.
I have the same issue. So in work I'm not so anxious cause I feel like I know the "rules". I know customer service and I know professional relationships but I can't manage outside of work. I can't go on work nights out cause I don't know the rules then. I also find the environment of work a struggle. It's bright, it's noisy, the uniform is uncomfortable. At the end of the shift I feel like I cannot speak at all.Hi I am not diagnosed but it's something I looked into before being diagnosed with ADHD back in Feb. However it still plays on my mind so I might try and save for a private assessment.
I mainly have difficulties with social situations, I can just about cope at work but it feels forced and like I'm acting so it's quite exhausting
Idk how private works but with NHS you have to see your doctor, they refer you to the community psych nurse who then refers you to a psychiatrist and any one of those can say no so I don’t think it’s self fulfilling in that sense and for women and girls it’s a lot harder as they still use the old criteria used to diagnose boys way back in the day.Following with interest. I think me & one of my sisters are, our brother was officially diagnosed in school (amongst other things).
I’m reluctant to get a diagnosis as I strongly suspect it’s a self fulfilling thing & there must be doctors that would tell you you had 3 heads if you asked them to. Also not sure what value a diagnosis would give (for me, this is v situation dependent!) other than confirmation of something I suspect…?
This is me to a tee! Thinking back I always had (and still do have) issues with shoes rather than clothes. My feet are very sensitive and I can't bear anything tight or heeled.I feel like I could’ve written this.
I’ve always felt “different” for as long as I can remember. It wasn’t until I had my sons (both are diagnosed autistic) and learnt more about autism that I started to recognise traits in myself - especially when I think back to my childhood. I was always dismissed as being the shy girl but I knew it was more than that. I can’t ever remember a time when I wasn’t anxious. I struggle to make friends (I’ve had them, but I’ve never been great at keeping them and tend to only have acquaintances these days ).
I was a very picky eater as a child and teenager, and would only eat “safe” foods much like my sons just now. I hated the feel of certain materials/clothes but had little choice but to wear them as my mum said I was just being awkward. I couldn’t stand having my nails trimmed. I was a very early talker/reader/writer and never struggled in these areas. I was obsessed with imaginative play and quite rigid in my likes and dislikes. If I loved something I didn’t stop talking about it. I collect random facts too and have a very good long-term memory. I hate crowds and still get overwhelmed in shopping centres and busy supermarkets to the point of feeling dizzy and like I could scream. I hate loud, repetitive noises, they seem to rub me up the wrong way. I can come across quite blunt and cold without meaning to.
I was diagnosed with depression in my late teens/early 20’s but know it goes back much further than this. I’ve held down jobs and have a good work ethic but have also had a lot of anxiety over these and as mentioned before, I felt like I was playing at being someone else a lot of the time. I’m dreadful at small talk and struggle to keep a conversation going. I know that autism presents differently in girls than it does boys and basically I feel that I’ve been masking my entire life.
There’s no real point to this post as I don’t intend on seeking out a diagnosis - I don’t see how it’ll help me now, I’m in my 30’s, married, with children. I’ve managed to wing my way through life so far. It’s just interesting to read everyone’s posts as I feel I can relate to a lot of them. I also think that autism is genetic in my family.