ElectricDreams
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I strongly suspect that I have ASD. I had a relatively uneventful time at primary school, I had friends, however I had to go home for my lunch every day because looking back I couldn't cope with the social side of lunch time and I was a very poor eater.
I found secondary school very hard. It was a big school and I really struggled to make friends outside of the few I had from primary. My social skills weren't great, I was quite anxious and fixated on certain subjects. I was diagnosed with depression at 13 and referred to the children's mental health team. I had a brilliant teacher who mentored me for 3 years and is pretty much the reason I was able to stay in school and finish my GCSEs.
It wasn't until I was doing my foundation degree when I was in my late 20s that I came across a book called "Martian in the playground" as part of a module on SEN in children and everything just seemed to fall into place. It basically described my feelings and experiences as a child. I would love to know if ASD was ever suspected in me, but it was the mid to late 90s so I suspect not. I think the depression stemmed from me not understanding why I felt the way I did in school and social situations.
I'm now almost 40. I've never pursued a diagnosis because I don't know how it would benefit me now. I felt like once I realised that I might have ASD, I found a kind of peace within myself. I have had periods of depression over the years but nothing bad enough to warrant medication since I was in my 20s.
I still struggle in social situations. I don't have many friends, mainly acquaintances and when I know I'm going to see them, I try to rehearse the small talk I think I might need. I find social situations exhausting and stressful so I try to avoid things like parties unless I have someone with me to help me. I get fixated on things whether it be a new hobby or a craft which I master then do to death before moving on, or learning every little fact about a TV show. I also struggle with work. I've been self employed for 10 years which has suited me better than being an employee. I find it exhausting though, like I'm performing as someone else when I'm at work, being confident and in control when really I feel the exact opposite. In in the process of giving this up to try something a bit less stressful.
I still live with my parents which is a huge bugbear but I don't know if I'd cope living alone. I'm in a long term relationship with someone who I suspect has ASD too, though he doesn't seem to struggle as much as me.
I found secondary school very hard. It was a big school and I really struggled to make friends outside of the few I had from primary. My social skills weren't great, I was quite anxious and fixated on certain subjects. I was diagnosed with depression at 13 and referred to the children's mental health team. I had a brilliant teacher who mentored me for 3 years and is pretty much the reason I was able to stay in school and finish my GCSEs.
It wasn't until I was doing my foundation degree when I was in my late 20s that I came across a book called "Martian in the playground" as part of a module on SEN in children and everything just seemed to fall into place. It basically described my feelings and experiences as a child. I would love to know if ASD was ever suspected in me, but it was the mid to late 90s so I suspect not. I think the depression stemmed from me not understanding why I felt the way I did in school and social situations.
I'm now almost 40. I've never pursued a diagnosis because I don't know how it would benefit me now. I felt like once I realised that I might have ASD, I found a kind of peace within myself. I have had periods of depression over the years but nothing bad enough to warrant medication since I was in my 20s.
I still struggle in social situations. I don't have many friends, mainly acquaintances and when I know I'm going to see them, I try to rehearse the small talk I think I might need. I find social situations exhausting and stressful so I try to avoid things like parties unless I have someone with me to help me. I get fixated on things whether it be a new hobby or a craft which I master then do to death before moving on, or learning every little fact about a TV show. I also struggle with work. I've been self employed for 10 years which has suited me better than being an employee. I find it exhausting though, like I'm performing as someone else when I'm at work, being confident and in control when really I feel the exact opposite. In in the process of giving this up to try something a bit less stressful.
I still live with my parents which is a huge bugbear but I don't know if I'd cope living alone. I'm in a long term relationship with someone who I suspect has ASD too, though he doesn't seem to struggle as much as me.