Eating out with Jessica ..same ole, same ole.
There's something I found interesting ....maybe not visable to everyone because it's really a simple normal thing.
I noticed when Hannah was reading the menu and she was reading off desserts... She mentioned brownie bites....then named a few other items, talked to Jessica and at the very end mentioned two more chocolate desserts... Which one was cake and got the seal clap of approval then Hannah mentioned pies....and read that list off...
Then Jessica was elated about the chocolate desserts! She said the chocolate brownies AND chocolate cake...then remembered quickly there was THREE....she remembered that and was able to add that to the two other desserts....again it's watching how her mind works , doing math in her head, remembering items read to her 4-5 minutes prior. ( but she can't remember how to stir? Use the toilet? Wash her hands with soap? Dry her hands with a towel not her boobs? Wipe herself?) She's not interested in those things do she refuses to do them.
This shows that Jessica does think things through....it also shows how extremely involved she can be when it's about something she's interested in...she was present and 100% involved...not the whiney distant ..... I cant, I'm not allowed that, moaning..talking slowly...looking away dismissing everyone, because she was not getting her way.
This again shows me, as a mother of an autistic 26 yr. Old,that many , many of Jessica's behaviours are deliberate , especially when she's not getting her way.... We see her intentionally lying, making up excuses to let everyone know she's not having it. That's deliberate. Just like watching her tonight very articulate, involved, seal clapping, showing she's excited when ALL of HER favourites are being offered....Food, cards,cds, dead dogs and or people, and more food...those are all Jessica's interested in.
Val loves to blame autism, textile difficulties, food sensory, blindness, the direction of the sun etc..
When in reality the only people that buy those excuses are the uneducated kool aid drinkers sending baby pool toys and cotton candy in hopes they are acknowledged online like celebrities ...these people have no clue on autism period.
Jessica is far more capable of doing many things including eating better, picking up after herself, washing herself , using manners and not eating like a feral racoon in a dumpster...she chooses not to.
She behaves like a violent , miserable, manipulative ornary brat.... Because Val refused to teach her and work with her.... Jessica KNOWS exactly what to say, do and behave to drive Val nuts and get her way.
Val simply tolerates it in hopes it will not rock the boat, Jessica will shut up and Val doesn't have to put any work in. If Jessica is happy then everrrrrrryone is happy.
What kind of mother gives up on taking their child to therapists help? Dentists for oral hygiene ? Doctors appointments for paps, female health ?? What kind of mother doesn't teach her child proper toileting ? How to use A fork in PUBLIC!? A mother who just doesn't care.
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As long as they allow her poor diet she is going to have a hard time healing. I will never understand why they don’t fix healthy meals and call her to eat. If she pitches a fit just tell her this or nothing. I garuntee she will eat before 24 hours has passed. There is no excuse for the poor diet.
That would require Val to have to sit there with Jessica, listening to her be whiney, verbally abusive and throw a tantrum ....that's far too much work for Val....who simply wants peace and quiet while she cuddles on her bed in Campbell's house with Zoe watching movies on Netflix.
Val is abusively neglectful .....she knows the poor diet,lack of exercise , the lack of dental hygiene etc... will be extremely bad for Jessica .....and she still does not care. I'm sure her life insurance policy on jessica is quite substantial.
