They don’t tell her because they are idiots and don’t careWhy don't they tell her that saying bad dog to any dog has a negative effect on them?? She started it in this video too! I am dog sitting at my sister and brother in laws and if I said this to their dogs they would be crushed. The boys (what I call them) love positive talk! Their tails wag like crazy! It pisses me off when she starts that crap....
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They obviously bought vests for the dogs but we all know there has been no training AND consistent training by them to train or maintain. . . Another way they are lying and scammingPublic places like restaurants, church, movies, school..etc....are difficult for most families with spectrum kids...there's a lot of work, time, patience help from professionals and consistency using and working with your team to achieve goals and all work together with the same rules, boundaries and consequences ....over time outings , gatherings family dinners can become "easier" .
This is why ...we put in so much work when the kids are younger it becomes routine to them, it's better understood and easier when out in a restaurant if they have been taught over the years good behaviour and non acceptable behaviours...
But with that ....it means having to know and understand your child ,their stressors, their moods, their fears, watching for drivers and warning signs when going out for dinner to a restaurant ..and having a plan B in place. In the early years we often had to leave the restaurant get out good to go, or ask to be seated in a back room. Big family gatherings often one parent was the designated " emergency take home person" and we had many times we just declined the invitation to go out.
But this is why we put all the work in so our autistic children along with their family can go to a restaurant and can enjoy the experience together.
Stimming...and bad behaviour/ tantrums are very different ...stims we don't really stop ( any unsafe stims have already been worked on from the beginning our daughter is nonverbal so yelling or squeezing is not an issue for us )
Gentle hands is a big " behaviour " issue for us so... We always make sure boundaries are understood , gentle hands ( no grabbing, hitting , throwing ) all things we've worked on since she could walk..
Stimming usually happens when excited ,over stimulated or afraid ...this is where knowing the stressors are important.
Bottom line I am responsible for my child's behaviours in a restaurant ....I do expect a certain level of understanding ...but if I can't control of change the behaviours ..we leave.
I don't expect every other family to have to endure bad behaviours.
It's a balancing act..but it gets to much better the older they get IF you put the work in early.
Jessica has no bounderies...and acts just as feral in public as she does at home ...in some cases I've watched Val allow her to be worse in public.
Hunched over her plate hair in her food eating with both hands like an animal ...remember Val use to feed Jess desserts in public ...so she wouldn't make a mess...now Jessica's chin deep in her cake.
I'm all for Autism Awareness....and being respected in public , but I also have a responsibility to ensure my family isn't being a wrecking ball in everyone else's life in public like church, restaurants etc.... As well as my own daughters comfort .
Again this is why Jessica is isolated away from peers, work programs, classes her own community. Val keeps her at home, feeds her lies, and let's her run the roost till Val needs to tap out and call in Hannah and Marlow ....while Val hides in her room with a bottle of wine and HER dog.
Btw: remember when they went to the parade and put service dog vests on Daryl and Zoe?
Can you imagine Daryl a service dog???
girl went with them. Wonder how many of the perverted following (visiting the Park too) may have spotted them? Porn boy did not look happy as he was caught on camera by Val! That was great!!! And HH being her usual obnoxious self. She seems to try and act worldly when she is with her brother! Not working HH...
