Plus Val in an obnoxious know it all! No one would be able to stand her! She has screwed up all her kids and I for one would not want to take any advice from her!As Pokermom said... No Jessica.
Val seems to be going back to her blog " roots" where it's all about her, " THE CAREGIVER "
Which would be fine if she actually had something helpful to contribute to caregivers....but she doesnt.
It's more of a lazy diary of her life..or lack thereof.
I'm fortunate that in my area I have a wonderful group of caregivers who I associate with, lean on during tough times, learn with by others experiences and we do gather on zoom calls once a week, and do a dinner once a month.
Of course Val only has Val....
You have to wonder why ....why she has zero outreach programs, no friends, no other autism families or support groups in her life.
But we know why..... Because she's a fraud and hides Jessica away because Val can't hide the truth from real autism caregivers.
We see you Val.
I'm sorry but Hannah looks like she could use about an hour in the showerSome screen shots to follow up on pokermom's post!
Look at how dirty Vals faded shirt is with stains! Good grief put it in the rag bag!
And the grease and oil in that recipe is disgusting but according to HH it made it luxurious! Learn the right words college girl.
And pokermom was right no Jess but you could hear her in the background being very loud! Why don't they just close her door!
One last thing did you see how easy it was for Val to use her right hand to move that heavy cast-iron pan with batter in it??? What do you bet we will see the splint on it again within the week! Val there is nothing wrong with your wrist just like there is nothing wrong with Hypochondriac Hannah's ankle. But those bring more sympathy right ladies!!!!
What I don’t get as well is all the time Campbell spends doing CrossFit why not clean up his yard . Look at how gaudy it looked at his front walkway from the failed garden. That stuff was still out there at Thanksgiving. It would have taken a day to clean it up and add new mulch. And why put the tacky garden in the front yard when he has a huge backyard. And that friggin college frack pool table in the living room if that isn’t as tacky as it comes. When they were painting that area it would have been the first thing to go to the dump. But they can’t do that because it hides all the hoard of boxes. Then they take his exercise room and kick him out to the cold garage and try to compensate by buying him a portable heater for his birthday present. Now wouldn’t it made sense to get rid of the pool table and set up a desk type sitting room in that location ? But instead they all stay in there bedrooms to so call edit content when what they are really doing is hiding from the monster they created.I’ve commented many times on how ugly that house is. It has very nice windows, imo nothing else, what’s with that railing enclosure around the “pool table” room. What’s with that shelf directly behind the stove, a real grease collector and not very accessible, what’s its purpose. A sunken living room for a blind person..makes no sense. Idiots!
She wouldn’t survive in a support group because she couldn’t handle the truth. People there would tell her to stand up to Jessica and not let her manipulate and run her household. Oh let’s not forget if it was local she has to deal with the dark secrets of Madison isn’t a doctor but a porn freak. I couldn’t even imagine how that has to feel as a mother to walk around your hometown knowing when people see you that they are whispering about your son bringing such dirt into their community. I personally wouldn’t let that happen to my neighborhood I would be out there everyday picketing and drawing attention to the media and politicians demanding change.Plus Val in an obnoxious know it all! No one would be able to stand her! She has screwed up all her kids and I for one would not want to take any advice from her!
I admire her she’s clearly does everything in her power to give her son the best life and she’s even planning for his future knowing when she’s gone he will be ok. And she let her other son know that Cody isn’t his responsibility now or in the future. Now that’s what you call good parenting. I think if you ever put her in a room with Val she would tell her like it is and not hold back. No other bloggers are even supportive of her page and want no part of inviting her to join them either. No mom with a child or adult with autism would ever look to her for advice. Now they could use her as an example as what not to do and how her choices lead to Jessica’s failures. My heart and support does go out to all moms raising kids or adults with special needs but Val I just can’t get behind. I spent my whole working career either caring for seniors or caring for individuals with special needs. So I get all of the struggles but what Val does is just criminally abusive. Karma is catching up to Val and it’s not to far from saying games over .Leesa is an example of a real autism mom, who advocates for the best for her child. Val could learn from her.
Thank you so muchIt's Glenn Vaughn
I see that pool table is still right in the middle of the living room.Like everything else Val starts....no follow through! I guess painting the living room a getting a new table constitutes in their warped little minds a renovation!
Val said she got her that dinnerware because of the lips on the sides….to help Jessica scoop (shovel). Here’s a picture of some they had a couple of years ago that served the same purpose, were light weight and would not get as hot. Their kitchen is full of absolutely nothing but needless junk. And while I’m at it, what family of four needs 2 refrigerators? Not and extra freezer, 2 refrigerators? A family that has to feed one person exactly what she wants and store a buttload of cheese for one that is lactose intolerant.Another example of Jess not wanting to do something. Goes to the pantry to get out grits and Val says do you remember how to turn on the light. And Jess replied I don't think so as she is reaching for it and turning it on!!! And why does she have to keep putting her nose in everything she prepares????
She is so obsessed with salt it's terrible! Didn't think she got enough this morning, which she didn't but Val must be pretending for the camera that she is worried about her salt intake.
You could tell neither Jess nor Val was happy today. Very little talk about dogs and no squealing. But st the end she was talking to her bowl of grits in granny's voice so she must still be on the dead Granny kick! She needs help badly! Programs, outings, therapy, peers....something to keep her focused. But we know that will never happen as Val has broken her!
And like someone said yesterday those stupid dishes get way to hot!!! And yes I agree with them that these dishes should have been a plastic or melmac material. Or even Corningware...I have had that for years and it's light, does not get terribly hot and they don't break!
I remember one of Vals videos when she talked about discipline and that no she does not discipline Jess because she is a grown woman!!!!! In what universe Val??? Even now discipline and consequences would help even though Jess would get angry and pitch a hissy fit! But take the damn phone away at night so she can't call Val and say good doggie bad doggie because she is awake! Don't you wonder who else she call in the middle of the night????Typical morning of Jessica ruling the roost... first its " to much water! " And OBSESSING over her TWO packs of grits and salt... " it's not enough" " it's not enough"....
Obsessing because she needs to have everything HER way.
This morning is a perfect example of 36 years of Val not parenting but giving into Jessicas constant demands no matter what.
No rules no consequences no teaching Jessica .....anything. All Jessica s teaching was done at school never at home...Which increasingly effected Jessicas behaviour at school and on the bus....Which is why she was asked to not return.
Bottom line Val moves mountains, lies, pretends, gives in, refuses to teach or give Jessica any consequences because Jessica is a ticking time bomb..And will snap in a second...She gets loud, screams, whips her head around and hits...she's violent and every one knows it.
Someone mentioned Cody Speaks....I have watched Leeza...Codys mom for a few years...She has grown tremendously. She has a small group of people that all connect and share struggles and experiences with.... I've learned many coping tactics from books she has recommended... Our parenting styles differ a bit because she has a young man.. Bigger than her..I have a daughter..our " fears" are a bit different in some areas.
But.. Leeza...is a firm believer in consequences ...Which I also believe is crucial in teaching. She has Cody active in the community, library, therapy, adult classes... Cody is corrected lovingly , has manners, and is also nonverbal...and you can see the work.
Leeza is a great inspiration ....
I don't think she's ever been disciplined in her life and it showsI remember one of Vals videos when she talked about discipline and that no she does not discipline Jess because she is a grown woman!!!!! In what universe Val??? Even now discipline and consequences would help even though Jess would get angry and pitch a hissy fit! But take the damn phone away at night so she can't call Val and say good doggie bad doggie because she is awake! Don't you wonder who else she call in the middle of the night????
I would hope that anyone on her call list would block her number. One call at 4 am to me and I would. Her phone should be shut off at 6 pm.I remember one of Vals videos when she talked about discipline and that no she does not discipline Jess because she is a grown woman!!!!! In what universe Val??? Even now discipline and consequences would help even though Jess would get angry and pitch a hissy fit! But take the damn phone away at night so she can't call Val and say good doggie bad doggie because she is awake! Don't you wonder who else she call in the middle of the night????
She does not need a phone, period. She is the same as an immature 3 year old child and does Not have the capabilities to make decisions about a phone. She demands and expects the world to adjust to her demands. . . .JUST like Val does. Val has to be embarrassed by her own behavior AND Jess’I would hope that anyone on her call list would block her number. One call at 4 am to me and I would. Her phone should be shut off at 6 pm.
It is neglect, abuse and Val needs to be held responsibleI'm what world does Val believe Jessica can function?
Parents / caregivers of autistic children learn very early on that it's OUR responsibility to redirect, teach, reinforce good behaviours and have constant repercussions for not acceptable behaviours ....
The World... society is not going to stop to coddle people like Jessica simply because Val.demands the world to excuse her rage, rudeness, violence ,greed, and zero social skills. Lazy Val wants every teacher, every student, every server in a restaurant , hairdresser, doctor, therapist, stranger in the grocery store to STOP and permit Jessica to to be inappropriate, rude, ignore bounderies, rules, laws, and personal space..everyone according to Val must treat , speak and permit Jessica to do as she pleases... Because she's autistic.
In the real world ...that's NEVER going to happen period.
There's a big difference between autism awareness and simply encouraging and engaging in awful behaviours.
Again... This is why Jessica lives an isolated life sniffing her fingers in Her bedroom unshowered and talking to the voices.
Autism, mental illness, IDD, vision impairedness .....are not excuses to go into the world and do what ever you want and have no consequences to your actions.
ALL.children deserve to be taught personal responsibility, manners, kindness, sharing, and that there ARE rules at home, school, out in the world! And there ARE consequences for inappropriate behaviours and had choices, othetwise...you may as well live in a box.
I don't think Val knows how to be embarrassed! Look how she looks 95% of the time and look how she let's Jessica be on camera....like a bag lady!She does not need a phone, period. She is the same as an immature 3 year old child and does Not have the capabilities to make decisions about a phone. She demands and expects the world to adjust to her demands. . . .JUST like Val does. Val has to be embarrassed by her own behavior AND Jess’
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It is neglect, abuse and Val needs to be held responsible
She buys all these stupid gadgets for Jessica just to use for content and then after a few times of using them that’s it . Like everyone is saying the same content everyday of either making nuggets, crispies or eggs and sausage. Oh I forgot the brick biscuits for her milk gravy because the tablespoon of sausage they add is a joke . They just as well buy a huge can of it for $10 at Sam’s Club of 105 ounces. The way she inhales it she wouldn’t notice if it’s canned vs homemade.Another example of lazy parenting ...remember when Val bought Jessica her own knife and we saw her use it 2 or 3 times last year....then ....nothing typical Val zero follow through.
Had Val kept it up it would of become a habit for Jess and she would of been desensitized but.. No, just like stiring, using a spatula, brushing hair, and a hundred other things. Val only shows it for content then never follows through teaching Jessica.
As for breakfast ... " caregiver " Marlo laughing at Jessica is repulsive ...if someone I hired was laughing at my child....they'd be looking for another job.
Of course Jessica demanded ALL the potatoes...she's a pig.
Who doesn't eat three potatoes for breakfast !?!? Why not split it up for 2 and make an egg to go with it, some protein ...??
Greedy Guts wasn't sharing as usual.
The theatrics Jess showed .. " careful ouchhh!!!!! Careful!!! " what is she ouching at?? All manipulative drama to get her way...getting out of doing something she doesn't want to do.
Then giving her a spoon to eat the fried potatoes??? She ends up using her fingers like a feral monkey.
No one corrects her..... For fear she will cry out, whine, hit, scream throw her unbrushed grey hair around like a lunatic .....she eats like an animal ...
I have not seen one other autistic family filming their autistic child eating with their hands like a feral monkey.
Lazy, neglectful caregivers hard at work.
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