Ashley James

[Admiralbow]

As long as your baby is fed, I don’t think it matters where the milk comes from. Having a baby is hard enough,without dickheads like her

I honestly don’t get it, I didn’t get it before I become a parent and I still don’t get it now that I am a parent. The absolute shame to be made to feel for formula feeding your baby and not EXCLUSIVELY BREASTFEEDING is ridiculous... especially from people like that twit. I can hand on heart say in my 30 years of existence I have never asked someone if they had been breastfed or bottle fed as a baby... or met another parent and said “oh did you BF your child” cos no one actually cares! She’s that happy to be “exclusively breastfeeding” that she’s dying for Alf to take a bottle as long as your baby is fed, happy and mum is happy then that’s all that matters, mums already feel tit enough if they can’t succeed with BF for many various reasons, stop making them feel worse Ashley with your constant boring bragging.
Sorry for the rant

 

[loolabelle]

I honestly don’t get it, I didn’t get it before I become a parent and I still don’t get it now that I am a parent. The absolute shame to be made to feel for formula feeding your baby and not EXCLUSIVELY BREASTFEEDING is ridiculous... especially from people like that twit. I can hand on heart say in my 30 years of existence I have never asked someone if they had been breastfed or bottle fed as a baby... or met another parent and said “oh did you BF your child” cos no one actually cares! She’s that happy to be “exclusively breastfeeding” that she’s dying for Alf to take a bottle as long as your baby is fed, happy and mum is happy then that’s all that matters, mums already feel tit enough if they can’t succeed with BF for many various reasons, stop making them feel worse Ashley with your constant boring bragging.
Sorry for the rant

I’m not a parent, I have no intention of becoming one, but I mean, like you said, has anyone ever asked how your child was fed in any setting other than a related one? “Oh Hiya Sheila, did you breastfeed?” In Tesco’s to your elderly neighbour!

my view is literally happy mum, happy baby... it doesn’t matter how you get to both, or what other people think.

 

[thecatspyjamas1977]

I’m not a parent, I have no intention of becoming one, but I mean, like you said, has anyone ever asked how your child was fed in any setting other than a related one? “Oh Hiya Sheila, did you breastfeed?” In Tesco’s to your elderly neighbour!

my view is literally happy mum, happy baby... it doesn’t matter how you get to both, or what other people think.

Well... as a new first time mum to a now 12 week old, I can tell you pretty much everyone has asked if I’m breastfeeding (who knew my boobs were so important to so many people )

It’s such a weird question to ask especially from random neighbours that I don’t know from Adam, friends of mother in law (MiL asked on their behalf and then was going to report back), colleagues I know but am not particularly close to etc. I’m not offended by but it seems such an odd thing to ask. What are they going to do with the info once they know? Why not just ask how we’re doing and be done with it?


Btw, my boy is EXCLUSIVELY formula fed and thriving

 

[Chablis1]

She’s really droning on today. Imagine having to live with it tho

 

[Nutmeg]

Same here!! My babe is 5 months now but I did get asked a lot. Baffles me why people get so passionate about how other people feed their babies. Why do they care?!

EXCLUSIVELY formula feeding here too however I did try incredibly hard to breastfeed which didn’t work out for various reasons out of my control, probs why Ashley annoys me so much going on about her bits all day every day.

Well... as a new first time mum to a now 12 week old, I can tell you pretty much everyone has asked if I’m breastfeeding (who knew my boobs were so important to so many people )

It’s such a weird question to ask especially from random neighbours that I don’t know from Adam, friends of mother in law (MiL asked on their behalf and then was going to report back), colleagues I know but am not particularly close to etc. I’m not offended by but it seems such an odd thing to ask. What are they going to do with the info once they know? Why not just ask how we’re doing and be done with it?


Btw, my boy is EXCLUSIVELY formula fed and thriving

 

[thecatspyjamas1977]

EXCLUSIVELY formula feeding here too however I did try incredibly hard to breastfeed which didn’t work out for various reasons out of my control, probs why Ashley annoys me so much going on about her bits all day every day.

Yep, same here I did try BF but had serious medical issues so my milk didn’t come in properly, lots of pain etc.

 

[Admiralbow]

Well... as a new first time mum to a now 12 week old, I can tell you pretty much everyone has asked if I’m breastfeeding (who knew my boobs were so important to so many people )

It’s such a weird question to ask especially from random neighbours that I don’t know from Adam, friends of mother in law (MiL asked on their behalf and then was going to report back), colleagues I know but am not particularly close to etc. I’m not offended by but it seems such an odd thing to ask. What are they going to do with the info once they know? Why not just ask how we’re doing and be done with it?


Btw, my boy is EXCLUSIVELY formula fed and thriving

I completely agree with what you are saying, it’s always one of the first questions you get asked when people see you with a baby, and I’m not sure why people need to know, that’s what I was trying to say. What I said before was that I personally have never asked another mum how she feeds her baby as in my eyes - a fed baby is a happy baby and that equals a happy mum and I didn’t really need to know.

Carry on doing an amazing job with your thriving baby... you’re doing fab!

 

[Raa]

Yep it’s weird why people feel the need to ask/comment. I will never forget taking my baby into work to show my colleagues and I got ‘are you breastfeeding?’ from various women and when I said ‘no’ I got, ‘that’s why you look good then because you’re not bf’ and a loud conversation across the office from a group of women who said ‘I used to enjoy bf, people don’t try hard enough these days’. Felt like saying hang on I feel as knackered sore emotional as a bf mum and am still getting up every night to feed and they didn’t know my circumstances about why I wasn’t (I chose to stop for my own sanity which again is wrong in many peoples minds, as you are expected to battle on at the detriment of the mother’s physical (pain/blood/sore nipples) and emotional health) . It’s terrible how they felt it was acceptable to make comments like that to a first time mum (I was only 22 aswell). Whilst I will remember those comments, years down the line and another couple of children I’m confident in my decision and empathetic to people whichever way they choose to feed as we’re all in the same damn boat!

 

[thecatspyjamas1977]

I completely agree with what you are saying, it’s always one of the first questions you get asked when people see you with a baby, and I’m not sure why people need to know, that’s what I was trying to say. What I said before was that I personally have never asked another mum how she feeds her baby as in my eyes - a fed baby is a happy baby and that equals a happy mum and I didn’t really need to know.

Carry on doing an amazing job with your thriving baby... you’re doing fab!

Thank you.

It would have never have occurred to me that anyone would care or ask about BF and like you, I know I certainly wouldn’t ask.

I have realised that once you have a baby, it’s open season for questions/ opinions. What a strange world we live in!

 

[grumpy-nosy-cow]

Well... as a new first time mum to a now 12 week old, I can tell you pretty much everyone has asked if I’m breastfeeding (who knew my boobs were so important to so many people )

It’s such a weird question to ask especially from random neighbours that I don’t know from Adam, friends of mother in law (MiL asked on their behalf and then was going to report back), colleagues I know but am not particularly close to etc. I’m not offended by but it seems such an odd thing to ask. What are they going to do with the info once they know? Why not just ask how we’re doing and be done with it?


Btw, my boy is EXCLUSIVELY formula fed and thriving

its so wierd isn't it?
Before i had children it would never have crossed my mind to ask someone I knew let alone a complete stranger how they were feeding their baby! but when i.had my two random people thought they could ask ..i even had the builder who was working at our house and checkout woman in supermarket ask me this with my second!
I tried BF with my first but it was a stressful and painful time as my milk didn't come in..i was getting in a state ..luckily i had a really great midwife who said to switch to formula no pressure either! Both my daughters were bottle fed and are perfectly healthy !
People like Ashley do nothing to help encourage Breast Feeding imo all that swanning around naked or boobs out making out they have no time to dress but the time to upload IG stories constantly..
Fed baby and a happy Mum is best !! x

 

[loolabelle]

Well... as a new first time mum to a now 12 week old, I can tell you pretty much everyone has asked if I’m breastfeeding (who knew my boobs were so important to so many people )

It’s such a weird question to ask especially from random neighbours that I don’t know from Adam, friends of mother in law (MiL asked on their behalf and then was going to report back), colleagues I know but am not particularly close to etc. I’m not offended by but it seems such an odd thing to ask. What are they going to do with the info once they know? Why not just ask how we’re doing and be done with it?


Btw, my boy is EXCLUSIVELY formula fed and thriving

how odd? Why would you even ask? Like people who ask how the delivery went and want details?! Exactly ‘are you ok?’ Would be a better question!

 

[thecatspyjamas1977]

how odd? Why would you even ask? Like people who ask how the delivery went and want details?! Exactly ‘are you ok?’ Would be a better question!

I had a few people ask about the delivery too so they got a blow by blow account... Don’t ask such nosey questions if you don’t really want to know the answer.

Maybe I just know lots of inappropriately nosey people

 

[loolabelle]

I had a few people ask about the delivery too so they got a blow by blow account... Don’t ask such nosey questions if you don’t really want to know the answer.

Maybe I just know lots of inappropriately nosey people

I’d never ask, partly because I don’t want to know the gory details and partly because it’s non of my business!

 

[DaisyDaisy87]

I had a few people ask about the delivery too so they got a blow by blow account... Don’t ask such nosey questions if you don’t really want to know the answer.

Maybe I just know lots of inappropriately nosey people

Hahaha I did this the other day when someone asked me if we’d been trying (I’m pregnant). They got a whole load more than they bargained for on graphic ovulation symptoms

 

[thecatspyjamas1977]

Hahaha I did this the other day when someone asked me if we’d been trying (I’m pregnant). They got a whole load more than they bargained for on graphic ovulation symptoms

Serves them right

 

[JustMetotoday]

The whole nursery thing is clearly a paid ad. If they’re cosleeping for majority of the night, there’s really no need for a separate nursery. I have friends who wasted so much money on nursery items only to end up co sleeping for years (but she’s obvs not paid for it so doesn’t make any difference). Would have made more sense to keep the double bed, IMO. Also, didn’t she say they’re moving or did I make that up?

Always knew having a nursery and spare room in one was a bad idea. Guess she wouldn’t be told #ignorantfirsttimer #babywontchangehowilive

 

[Lurker121]

It annoys me how one minute she knows nothing about a situation usually to do with the baby, and is asking her followers for info and then the next minute she thinks she’s an expert on the topic and knows enough to lecture everyone on it. She’s always doing it - osteopath, baby swimming, jabs, teething etc.

 

[Chablis1]

It annoys me how one minute she knows nothing about a situation usually to do with the baby, and is asking her followers for info and then the next minute she thinks she’s an expert on the topic and knows enough to lecture everyone on it. She’s always doing it - osteopath, baby swimming, jabs, teething etc.

Exactly! She keeps contradicting herself.

 

[quinzel]

offering unsolicited advice goes both ways Ashley!

 

[Katiewoo101]

So she’s now jumped on the maternal mental health band wagon. Don’t get me wrong, a hugely important topic. But she has spouted since day one that because she ate her placenta or some tit like that, she hasn’t had any blues, no down days, no struggles with mental health. At the time I was afew weeks post partum and felt so guilty I wasn’t feeling like she was. And now this! Why can’t these people use their platforms properly? She is just unbearable.