Ashley Cain

[plasticbarbie]

Ashley is allowed to deal with his grief however he wants. In my opinion if focusing on something like his fitness is keeping is mind healthy and helping him then its a good thing. When people lose people they can also go the whole other way. Ive seen people
Turn to drugs and drink and really self destruct. Losing a baby, your child i can image rips your souls apart. Im not sure how i would love my husband if i ever went through that pain. I feel i would be very cold as well and i would be in a world of anger. I would not want love from anyone. I agree saf is dealing with it different but the thing is grief is a solo journey. Im glad she has other family around her and that he does too. I think they are both finding ways to live through each day and it must be agony

 

[smithybean329]

The party at the cemetery was disrespectful.. but then (and I know I’ll get slated for this as well) when their poor baby was in her final days she was struggling to open her eyes looking so so poorly and suffering and needed rest but they were throwing parties dancing around the living room with her at midnight with the whole family. That didn’t sit right with me either.

 

[Bringthetea!]

Ashley posted this on Safs Birthday -

"Happy Birthday to this strong, amazing lady. You have been my rock during our relationship and especially this last year. Along with being the bestest mommy a little girl could wish for. We love you saf, happy birthday! Love from Ashley & Azaylia Ps Azaylia is proud of you every single day, keep being incredible! #HappyBirthday"

If he was so detached from her, would he honestly write that about her?

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Yes he would. “We”- note that he never says “I”, it’s always “we”.

 

[Heretoread19]

Ashley is allowed to deal with his grief however he wants. In my opinion if focusing on something like his fitness is keeping is mind healthy and helping him then its a good thing. When people lose people they can also go the whole other way. Ive seen people
Turn to drugs and drink and really self destruct. Losing a baby, your child i can image rips your souls apart. Im not sure how i would love my husband if i ever went through that pain. I feel i would be very cold as well and i would be in a world of anger. I would not want love from anyone. I agree saf is dealing with it different but the thing is grief is a solo journey. Im glad she has other family around her and that he does too. I think they are both finding ways to live through each day and it must be agony

Sorry but until you have lost a child you can never understand what it's like.
I have a 3 year old son and lost my second child last December. I sent my son to nursery and would sit on the sofa numbly watching tv. I didn't start to feel anything until 6 months later (even with counselling). I literally had no feelings.
We had no choice but to get up but there were definitely days I could have stayed in bed.
They need to be able to relax and take time for themselves. Believe me, I know it's hard but you can't heal if you don't.
They also need therapy or counselling. Otherwise they will never work through it.

 

[Allmyownopinion]

I don’t understand this either, and all those London trips are so uncomfortable to watch. It’s like let’s show off these £200 trainers this Nike bag my new outfit etc just why Him and his brother posing where is Saf it’s her daughters charity too

He’s said he’s dedicating himself to the charity so will this be his job now? So he’ll take an income from running it? If so, that’s really unfair to Saf, seems he’s pushing her out of having a say or having an active involvement & from what she says she wants to be all over it! So yes she should be at every meeting & named on the board if he is, never mind having a day out to London with your mate & posing on the train, take your partner & stand side by side with her!!!!! Get such bad vibes from him lately; bossy, selfish & yes grief does horrendous things to people but his ego is just out of control, it wasn’t just his little girl & it isn’t just all about him now she’s tragically passed

 

[Book]

He’s said he’s dedicating himself to the charity so will this be his job now? So he’ll take an income from running it? If so, that’s really unfair to Saf, seems he’s pushing her out of having a say or having an active involvement & from what she says she wants to be all over it! So yes she should be at every meeting & named on the board if he is, never mind having a day out to London with your mate & posing on the train, take your partner & stand side by side with her!!!!! Get such bad vibes from him lately; bossy, selfish & yes grief does horrendous things to people but his ego is just out of control, it wasn’t just his little girl & it isn’t just all about him now she’s tragically passed

Think he is just showing his true colours again! He has always had a massive massive ego! He has always wanted/needed to be in the limelight preferably fame celebrity status and the lifestyle that goes with it. He used to act out this lifestyle I’m guessing with credit cards etc? Now he is able to live that lifestyle. Not that for a second I don’t see how broken he is before anyone comes at me.

 

[UnkindFoot]

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Yes he would. “We”- note that he never says “I”, it’s always “we”.

He means 'we' as in Azaylia and himself, I don't see whats wrong with that?

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Think he is just showing his true colours again! He has always had a massive massive ego! He has always wanted/needed to be in the limelight preferably fame celebrity status and the lifestyle that goes with it. He used to act out this lifestyle I’m guessing with credit cards etc? Now he is able to live that lifestyle. Not that for a second I don’t see how broken he is before anyone comes at me.

I think people think you should tread on eggshells due to what he has been through but take what happened out of equation then how would people judge or see him, saf seems to be out there dragging herself out of bed doing her aesthetics business. Surely the foundation is a joint effort they should both be involved in both be attending meetings, however hard it is if it’s something they both want then they will both move hell and high water to have a say and involvement. Their grief is still so raw and one of them is going to break very soon

 

[Book]

I think people think you should tread on eggshells due to what he has been through but take what happened out of equation then how would people judge or see him, saf seems to be out there dragging herself out of bed doing her aesthetics business. Surely the foundation is a joint effort they should both be involved in both be attending meetings, however hard it is if it’s something they both want then they will both move hell and high water to have a say and involvement. Their grief is still so raw and one of them is going to break very soon

Exactly this.People’s opinions of him were I’m sure very different before this awful tragedy. He was/ is very very disrespectful towards women! And always flaunting his wealthy lifestyle be it real or not. That is what he wanted to be perceived as, a wealthy celebrity.

 

[Kazzie20]

I am also in the small minority of people who had to unfollow on social media. I have never lost a child, im not sure how id carry on If I did. Personally, wether Id lost a child or not, a lot of it didnt sit right with me, they both literally posted a picture of them holding a dead baby. that made me feel really uneasy, and its something I don’t personally agree with when people post dead babies on social media.
Ashley is dead. you can just see it right thru him. Poor Saff, a grieving mother who is grieving very differently from her partner. Mum to Mum, I wish I could give her a hug.

Her mother should be absolutely ashamed of herself. you dont do that to your grandchild, especially one who was quite clearly in her final days.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

I am also in the small minority of people who had to unfollow on social media. I have never lost a child, im not sure how id carry on If I did. Personally, wether Id lost a child or not, a lot of it didnt sit right with me, they both literally posted a picture of them holding a dead baby. that made me feel really uneasy, and its something I don’t personally agree with when people post dead babies on social media.
Ashley is dead. you can just see it right thru him. Poor Saff, a grieving mother who is grieving very differently from her partner. Mum to Mum, I wish I could give her a hug.

Her mother should be absolutely ashamed of herself. you dont do that to your grandchild, especially one who was quite clearly in her final days.

Her mum posts things on her Instagram about narcissistic personalities now I don’t know if she means herself or someone else. Obviously a lot has gone on behind closed doors between them. The photos were very very hard to look at and I don’t think people realise that Azalyia had actually passed in them. I know a leopard can change its spots and he says his exercising for his mental health but to be honest I hear anger & aggression in his voice every time he speaks, what good is he going to be when he seems angry with himself there’s one thing keeping yourself fit it’s another exhausting and killing yourself. I doubt very much he would listen to anyone though and those closest to him must see it. His very angry with the world which is understandable I would be to but his going to crash and burn massively there’s only so much your body can take. I’ve never lost a child but I’ve lost people very very close to me including a brother who was a child so I’ve saw my parents grieve they grieved together as they were the only ones who understood what each were going through. My mum ended up in a psyc hospital due & dad visited every single day but he got her through it,
Sorry for derailing

 

[Kazzie20]

Her mum posts things on her Instagram about narcissistic personalities now I don’t know if she means herself or someone else. Obviously a lot has gone on behind closed doors between them. The photos were very very hard to look at and I don’t think people realise that Azalyia had actually passed in them. I know a leopard can change its spots and he says his exercising for his mental health but to be honest I hear anger & aggression in his voice every time he speaks, what good is he going to be when he seems angry with himself there’s one thing keeping yourself fit it’s another exhausting and killing yourself. I doubt very much he would listen to anyone though and those closest to him must see it. His very angry with the world which is understandable I would be to but his going to crash and burn massively there’s only so much your body can take. I’ve never lost a child but I’ve lost people very very close to me including a brother who was a child so I’ve saw my parents grieve they grieved together as they were the only ones who understood what each were going through. My mum ended up in a psyc hospital due & dad visited every single day but he got her through it,
Sorry for derailing

It took me a few times looking at the photo, but when I noticed it it was so clear. People grieve all differently, so I suppose my opinion is just an opinion.

sending my love to you X

 

[chocdip]

It took me a few times looking at the photo, but when I noticed it it was so clear. People grieve all differently, so I suppose my opinion is just an opinion.

sending my love to you X

I never even knew the name photos posted she had passed that’s so terribly sad she deserved some dignity

 

[lockdown sux]

@Noonoosanne2 sorry for your loss. Hope you are all doing ok.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

@Noonoosanne2 sorry for your loss. Hope you are all doing ok.

It was a long time ago but you still remember these things, mum and dad are good, birthdays and anniversaries hard but we cope together as family. I’m glad all those years ago there was no such thing as social media

 

[Penguin12]

The photos were very very hard to look at and I don’t think people realise that Azalyia had actually passed in them.

This. I found this very sad to see.You could see by the way her body was held and the colour of her skin. Bless her soul.

 

[Tobodee]

The more is said about Ashley, the more I dislike him. What’s happened to him is horrendous and I’m not taking that away. It must be devastating to lose your child, I just couldn’t imagine but I don’t like the way he’s treating Saf. It’s like he’s purposely leaving her out. He should be holding her, supporting her, wiping her tears. And he clearly doesn’t do that as if he did he’d video it for his SM!

 

[Cdinvoice]

I don’t understand this either, and all those London trips are so uncomfortable to watch. It’s like let’s show off these £200 trainers this Nike bag my new outfit etc just why Him and his brother posing where is Saf it’s her daughters charity too

Exactly,,, she started the go fund me and I believe it was in her name. ??? I think it may give her something to focus on. I’m very worried for her mental health. She needs professional help, it’s just so so sad. Too many goals, targets, personal bests, it’s absurd actually

 

[littlelunches]

It took me a few times looking at the photo, but when I noticed it it was so clear. People grieve all differently, so I suppose my opinion is just an opinion.

sending my love to you X

Which pictures are these? That is so awful if true.

 

[Book]

Which pictures are these? That is so awful if true.

It’s true and not sure how I feel about it. I believe the pics are still on both his and Safs Instagram.

So from his recent post it looks like ash will be taking part in Celebrity SAS or something. So clearly still chasing that celebrity life he was so desperate to live.