Ashley Cain

[Apple In My Pie]

That poor little girl, she looks so ill, and to have known illness and pain for her entire little life so far, it doesn’t bear thinking about. I really hope with all my heart and soul they get her to Singapore.

I think some people think, not aimed at anyone here and not what I myself think but the vibe I get, is that some who have donated feel they are now ‘entitled’ to see Azaylia and because the family have now gone quiet that’s where the ‘oh he’s run off with the money’ comments come from. Which is wrong, because she’s not some sort of commodity she’s an ill little girl ffs, and I’m sure her family have more on their minds than updating social media constantly. Again that’s not aimed at anyone though. I’m just musing out loud.

Also, I could be really wrong here but I thought that when you signed up to Go Fund Me, you don’t get the entire donation amount? I swear I’ve read somewhere that GFM takes a hefty chunk out of the cash pool (depending on how much is raised) as a fee for ‘allowing’ you to have a donation pool on their website or something like that, so out of the amount that was raised by the general public the actual family might get a great deal less, so that’s where, privately, Ashley and his family have to get the extra cash (as well as cash for living in Singapore, food, paying bills at home etc etc). I can understand where the ‘ah he’s a millionaire why isn’t he stumping up the cash’ comments come from but the likelihood is that he’s having to pay a hefty chunk of the money anyway

 

[Lollypop29]

I understand why Kerry’s comment got peoples back up but really, this guy has perpetuated a millionaires lifestyle for years. Are we really to believe he hasn’t a penny of his own to his name to contribute towards it? Why is it unfair to ask these questions when so many have donated? What has he donated from his own money? It’s such a public affair that asking the question is perfectly reasonable (albeit maybe not the right time to do so at the moment)

I also think with so many people invested in the little girls future both emotionally and financially they could have asked a family member to update everyone on their behalf (I know one of the mums posted but a proper update)

Really? most logical people know the way people portray their lives on Instagram isn’t real. Even if he is worth a million that doesn’t mean he has a million. He will earn money through ads and swipe ups etc on Instagram, he isn’t doing that at the moment which means they’ll be no money coming in.

 

[To cat lady]

Really? most logical people know the way people portray their lives on Instagram isn’t real. Even if he is worth a million that doesn’t mean he has a million. He will earn money through ads and swipe ups etc on Instagram, he isn’t doing that at the moment which means they’ll be no money coming in.

yes thank you I think we are all aware Instagram isn’t real.

People have the right to ask for transparency in their situation when they are asking for donations

 

[MunHun]

yes thank you I think we are all aware Instagram isn’t real.

People have the right to ask for transparency in their situation when they are asking for donations

Nobody was forced to donate and if you do so, feeling it entitles you to certain information than you shouldn’t donate. This child is gravely ill possibly terminally ill the fundraising was a last ditch attempt to save her. Hopefully they will update saying they are in Singapore or in the process of getting her there. But maybe they aren’t and for that reason we need to respect their rights to privacy

 

[ebsx]

The anniversary just passed since I lost my grandad to cancer, I won’t go into detail cos I’m not after sympathy but we tried chemo and the cancer was too fast to catch. I remember dreading what the consultants were gonna tell us next, sleeping on hospital chairs so he didn’t wake up alone in the middle of the night, waking up and ringing the ward at 2-3am because even if I wasn’t at hospital I couldn’t sleep and get it off my mind, I remember the feeling when they told us we were running out of options on what to do. But most of all I remember the helpless feeling and the heartbreak from not being able to save someone you love because if you could, you would do absolutely anything. That’s all Ash and Saff are doing, just trying to save their baby. Anyone in that position would do the same in a heartbeat. I really hope they get to Singapore and get the treatment, but if they aren’t the last thing they’ll be thinking of doing is telling Instagram. I’m sure when the time is right they will.

 

[To cat lady]

Nobody was forced to donate and if you do so, feeling it entitles you to certain information than you shouldn’t donate. This child is gravely ill possibly terminally ill the fundraising was a last ditch attempt to save her. Hopefully they will update saying they are in Singapore or in the process of getting her there. But maybe they aren’t and for that reason we need to respect their rights to privacy

respect their right to privacy? You know you are on a tattle thread talking about them right?

yes we know it’s tragic and sad about the lovely little girl, nobody is questioning this.

You can’t ask the public for a million pounds then ask for privacy. You do realise if they get to Singapore (we all hope) that they will need to provide rental receipts, shopping receipts, medical receipts etc? Every penny of that money will need to be accounted for.

 

[What's your point]

Feel so awful for them and any of other family dealing with child cancer at the moment. I was a teen when my young cousin died from AML and from diagnosis to her passing away was really very quick (months) because of the limited treatment options at that time.

My mum gave up her job to care for my aunts other two children whilst my aunt was at the hospital 24/7 and the despair, worry and loss of control over the situation was awful because a parents instinct is to protect their little one and you cant so you are literally having to trust a complete stranger with that little life.

I suspect life is very bleak for not just this family but many others in the same situation and people can question why Ashley is asking for this money (well he clearly doesnt have it himself or I am sure he would have used it) but I dont begrudge his daughter a single penny of it.

I do however wish other children in the same situation were in a position to have the same treatment but the governement are to blame for that not a guy off Instagram who is pretty much fighting for his daughters life. He is doing what anyone of us in that situation would do.

respect their right to privacy? You know you are on a tattle thread talking about them right?

yes we know it’s tragic and sad about the lovely little girl, nobody is questioning this.

You can’t ask the public for a million pounds then ask for privacy. You do realise if they get to Singapore (we all hope) that they will need to provide rental receipts, shopping receipts, medical receipts etc? Every penny of that money will need to be accounted for.

They have not got there yet, yes when they go there will have to be transparency on how funds are spent but they don't owe anyone updates on how their daughter is on a day to day basis, especially if the situation is as bleak as it is sounding like it may be.

 

[geeforthetea]

I think the perception he has a millionaires lifestyle just shows that instagram really is a show, it's a front, most of these people showing that lifestyle don't even have a enough for a deposit for a house or have wracked up so much debt to portray living a millionaires lifestyle on little to no income.
He's also been caring for his daughter for months which limits how much he can work, along with everyone else who is self employed during the pandemic right now. I donated but did so because I genuinely believe they are just a normal family, on the back of his reality stints he's maybe managed to get a few freebie holidays and a loan of some nice cars to drive about in but that does not equal having money in the bank. If other people believe otherwise then that is their decision to donate or not. They do not owe me an explanation, I did it for the reasons above, I believe they needed the financial help quickly. They will also still have a mortgage/rent/bills and general day to day living expenses to pay for that they will now need to do while not working full time, so any money of their own that they have I'd imagine is going on these things. They have raised awareness and money to save her life, they have done it publicly but it's obvious that right now whatever they are going through is too painful for them to share, I do not expect an update from this poor family right now just because I donated a few quid. I totally understand everyone on here who is voicing their concern privately, but the comment above that a family member should update everyone....that's not right, no matter how public her journey has been no one owes anyone anything especially when a child is fighting for her life.

 

[MunHun]

respect their right to privacy? You know you are on a tattle thread talking about them right?

yes we know it’s tragic and sad about the lovely little girl, nobody is questioning this.

You can’t ask the public for a million pounds then ask for privacy. You do realise if they get to Singapore (we all hope) that they will need to provide rental receipts, shopping recipes, medical receipts etc? Every penny of that money will need to be accounted for.

I do get what your saying regarding the donation and how it is spent e.t.c I just feel like now is not the time for them to feel any additional pressure as they may have received some terrible news and just aren’t ready to deal with it on a public platform. I just really feel for them as parents and I don’t think they are the type of people to swindle anyone.

 

[Pagger]

I donated too, but I wouldn't want them to waste a single second with their little girl to take the time to update instagram.

 

[geeforthetea]

Nobody was forced to donate and if you do so, feeling it entitles you to certain information than you shouldn’t donate. This child is gravely ill possibly terminally ill the fundraising was a last ditch attempt to save her. Hopefully they will update saying they are in Singapore or in the process of getting her there. But maybe they aren’t and for that reason we need to respect their rights to privacy

Couldn't agree more, the feeling of entitlement some people have, and I don't mean people on here just voicing concern, but others who think the family owe us an update. Regardless of how public her journey has been, right now it's private and just because you donated a couple of quid does not mean you get to be part of every bit of their lives.

 

[Romeo1]

I donated and personally I don't give 2 hoots if they spend the money on coffees staying awake to mind that beautiful baby or anything else they see fit at this time , I don't care. I donated . I fully trust the money will solely be used for their daughter and then any other children they can help. Also it's not the time for any of this. My heart is with them x

 

[Fayser]

I understand why Kerry’s comment got peoples back up but really, this guy has perpetuated a millionaires lifestyle for years. Are we really to believe he hasn’t a penny of his own to his name to contribute towards it? Why is it unfair to ask these questions when so many have donated? What has he donated from his own money? It’s such a public affair that asking the question is perfectly reasonable (albeit maybe not the right time to do so at the moment)

I also think with so many people invested in the little girls future both emotionally and financially they could have asked a family member to update everyone on their behalf (I know one of the mums posted but a proper update)

He has been financing them for the last 7 months paying for hotels and not working. You have no idea what he has contributed he obviously would spend everything he has but even very wealthy people would struggle to find 1 million in cash at short notice. I just find it odd to be honest anyone would even ask this, surely the only thing that matters is that little girl getting well.

You can hardly blame him they a lot got raised quickly, any parent would do the same.

Nobody was forced to donate and if you do so, feeling it entitles you to certain information than you shouldn’t donate. This child is gravely ill possibly terminally ill the fundraising was a last ditch attempt to save her. Hopefully they will update saying they are in Singapore or in the process of getting her there. But maybe they aren’t and for that reason we need to respect their rights to privacy

Well said I am truly shocked people would even have these thoughts.

 

[MunHun]

Couldn't agree more, the feeling of entitlement some people have, and I don't mean people on here just voicing concern, but others who think the family owe us an update. Regardless of how public her journey has been, right now it's private and just because you donated a couple of quid does not mean you get to be part of every bit of their lives.

It just saddens me to think that people will put a negative spin on anything and for what reason? This beautiful innocent baby deserves to live as does every sick baby and child in the world. If I could help save them all I would and I wouldn’t question it as I believe in the power of good.

 

[Prittyprinny]

It saddens me to see that people care about the fact of the money they have raised yes he may be have been on tv but that does not means he has millions in the bank i donated to them and couldn’t cafe what they do with the money the fact he already said any money left over after treatment they will donate .they have been at their daughters bed side for months not working gaining no income but spending how much on hotels petrol food etc. Also as for an update like anyone else I would love to know how she is and they normally update the good and the bad so the fact there’s been no update clearly things aren’t good atm they have been strong for so long maybe they need some privacy before they update social media they will update there family and close friends.we don’t know what they are having to go through at this moment in time

 

[Hello Kitty]

I cannot believe this thread, which may I add is a rave thread, has gone from genuine people sending love to this poor little girl and her family to people questioning the money that has been rasied.

They are both entitled to take a few days away from instagram if they want to. Their daughter is incredibly poorly and no one should be commenting on Ashley's lifestyle. If he had 'millions' I'm sure he'd fund the treatment himself.

 

[Fayser]

I cannot believe this thread, which may I add is a rave thread, has gone from genuine people sending love to this poor little girl and her family to people questioning the money that has been rasied.

They are both entitled to take a few days away from instagram if they want to. Their daughter is incredibly poorly and no one should be commenting on Ashley's lifestyle. If he had 'millions' I'm sure he'd fund the treatment himself.

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Completely agree was finding comfort in seeing others feel the same way but actually shocked to the core people would question this abs even mention receipts.

 

[username123!]

Donations were given by choice, no one was forced or coerced. Reality tv stars lives are hugely exaggerated online - wasn’t that part of why one from love island killed himself? It’s all show and they have to try and keep up. We can be pretty sure he’s earned a good living at some points but money goes very quickly as we all know.
None of us are owed anything from this family even if you donated, we don’t get to own people and I would hope no one would donate to have something back, not really the point.

I do hope everything’s okay but I too feel that’s unlikely. It weighs so heavy and I don’t know them at all. I’m so sorry for anyone going through this.

oh and don’t forget these people have given light to these issues and the donor register is up huge percentages because of them.

 

[Romeo1]

I cannot believe this thread, which may I add is a rave thread, has gone from genuine people sending love to this poor little girl and her family to people questioning the money that has been rasied.

They are both entitled to take a few days away from instagram if they want to. Their daughter is incredibly poorly and no one should be commenting on Ashley's lifestyle. If he had 'millions' I'm sure he'd fund the treatment himself.

I agree so let's just not speak anymore of that subject and ignore any idiots.

 

[Flossy2019]

Disgusted. Just because someone shows some cars once doesn’t mean he’s got millions.. do you think if he could afford it he would do it in a heart beat. A little girl is terrifyingly I’ll that’s what matters here nothing else