Ashley Cain #3

[katty257]

How lovley that her friends ended up giving her a lift that was nice of them,can’t say the same for Ashley’s mum or sister surely they could have got her on their way.
Also Ashley hasn’t featured in any of her stories since she arrived they have 100% been arguing from the other day when she said she had an awful day ect and spent them days by herself.That interview they did for the bbc is so sad to watch they are both breaking down in tears and they don’t even touch each other,their spark in the relationship has been lost and I don’t think they will get it back.In my opinion a split is imminent.I’m not sure how Saf will get through that on top of everything else I just hope she has people to support her.

 

[getmeoutofhere]

Safiyya has spent a week asking how does she get to John O Groats but his mum and sister suddenly pop up with Ashley and the team!? That’s not a spur of the moment travel. Surely they would have told Saf their plan and picked her up? How are they allowed to be there yesterday but Saf never is?

As horrible as it is he only wanted her for the baby imo.

The praise for his mum and sister being there. What about the praise for the mother of your child and JOINT owner of the foundation who was doing interviews and the ‘business’ side of things.

wether they are still together or not he should still love her as the mother of his child and speak highly of her. There’s really no excuse either way.

 

[justheretoread99]

A year 9 is 14/15 year old. When I was that age I was more concerned about making my profile look pretty on Bebo and chatting to boys on MSN, Not obsessing over people in the public eye. Especially grieving parents. Are their parents not mortified what their kids are doing online???

 

[mrslh]

Ashley needs to stop now . He needs to be with the mother of his child and partner and start supporting her more . She’s alone on her own in a town she doesn’t know and she’s sat in her room in floods of tears on social media . He needs to be with her and stop being selfish !!!!

I work in mental health I treat patients with many different forms of mental illnesses and I can say right now she is about to have a breakdown . She needs support and help and her boyfriend . It’s beyond cruel what he’s doing the foundation can wait for now if people want to donate they will they don’t need to meet him his ego loves it but he fails to see how his own girlfriend is feeling she’s lost her baby ffs

 

[Olivemaks]

AND SOMEONE JUST ASKED TO BE HER CHIEF BRIDESMAID

 

[username123!]

When is this bloody ridiculous spectacle of Ashley being the only person who exists for this foundation over? It’s just uncomfortable to see and this poor poor woman

 

[Skyflier6727]

I’m glad I stumbled across this thread. Ashley has always come across as completely disingenuous to me. It was always HIS daughter and HIS grief snd no empathy or love for Saf. I feel so much for both of them losing their child and I know they must be heartbroken but his posts make me cringe so much so I unfollowed him (as I can’t stand “let’s go champ)! I donated to the go fund me and I have no opinion on that or their financial status. There is just something slightly off with the whole shebang

 

[gigilouxx]

Would I shit let my daughter go and read a story at a babies graveside. Absolutely not. That mums a fucking weirdo

 

[SunshineRae]

You lot are gonna think I’m on every single ones of Saff’s lives. I’m not but I do tune in quite a bit even if it’s 5 mins here and there. The other evening when she was getting people on with her, they were telling her what they were doing to raise money in Azaylia’s name (and I assume then giving the money to the foundation??). One girl said she was getting her friend to be her PT to get her in shape so she could complete the three peaks challenge. Saff didn’t seem to have a clue what this was and the girl gave a brief explanation and said she really wanted to be able to complete it in the 24 hours. Saff was like “wow.”

I have just now finally finished listening to the Happy Place pod (recorded weeks ago) and at the end Ashley is telling Ferne about this current challenge and then says that once it’s completed they are then doing the THREE PEAKS challenge but rather than driving between locations they will be cycling!! Is Saff not even involved in the plans for these challenges, even if she doesn’t want to/not allowed to partake?? She definitely did not even know what the three peaks was the other day.

He also said he’ll then be cycling from his house to Paris, trek the Sahara Desert and bike India. When is he going to have time to support Saf? Be at home (which I accept must be hard)? Spend quality time together? Get professional help? Therapy etc? I get therapy isn’t for everyone, but he can’t run from his grief forever. I’m not sure how healthy this mentality is that he has to physically “earn” his place in heaven to one day be with Azaylia. It’s all very concerning. I’m just not sure where Saf fits in to all these/his plans? Also surely his brother can’t do all these? He has a baby the same age as A at home and a wife/gf and presumably a job?
Given their situation and my previous dislike of Ash, I am trying to be fair and having said all that, he did give her a shout out. I just hope it was from his heart and “I thought that was important to say” isn’t from a PR point of view.
Sorry for my long rambling posts

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Subtle as ever

 

[LaurieLaurie]

How can he make money? He’s a washed up reality star. At least Saf can continue with her own business or go back into dental nursing of she needs to.

 

[sassmaster3000]

If you willingly give money to someone via a gofundme, then I think unfortunately that you need to take it with a pinch of salt as to where the money will go.
That page was set up with the goal of sending A off for treatment and then it very unfortunately became apparent that that wasn’t an option anymore. If people continued to donate after that, that’s on them.
i can’t knock ash and saf for going all out for the funeral, and whilst I agree that the money could be more useful if donated to research, at the end of the day, ash and saf had just lost the most important person in the world to them and they had every right to use the money available to them to give her a good farewell.
it’s been said on multiple threads before - if you donate to a gofundme page thst doesn’t have clear distinctions on where the money will go (such as once she couldn’t travel for lifesaving treatment), then unfortunately you cannot complain if the money gets spent elsewhere.
At the end of the day, you have made a donation, you have not paid for a service. In a very primitive parallel - you cannot give a homeless person a tenner and complain when they spend it on cigarettes. It’s nothing to do with you. You gave them the money and they are free to do what they want with it, even if you intended for it to be used for an overnight hostel.

 

[Olgivy]

Coming from a Caribbean culture, I understand that our funerals can look different to other cultures. Still felt a bit off watching Ashley breakdance and cheer on his mate doing back flips though. It was way OTT and Saf didn’t want to dance anyway. The whole thing has been OTT. A lot of what I’ve seen feels showy, and not genuine in my opinion. When I saw them documenting a child bleeding from the eyes, with bruises. And then, Saf singing into the camera “Whitney Houston’s, when you believe” not to mention the “filter” she put on the video too. I despised them BOTH. Making sure I had a filter on my IG video, and filming my child bleeding is the last fucking thing I’d want to do. It was so bizarre. But, I have since warmed to Saf; she is very naive though. And I can empathise with the way she is, because I know how being with an abusive man can really change you. You look back when you are out of it, and question why you were acting the way you did. Don’t need anyone to come after me about my opinion about Ashley. You can try it, but you won’t win . Too much evidence to say otherwise. He is a raging narcissist in plain sight, and nothing will change my opinion on that.

 

[Curiouslycurious]

Wow these 2 are just shocking, I saw part of safs lives last night, I feel sorry for her, she’s grieving alone by the looks of it but she’s not stupid she will be reading here and she will know how she is being portrayed and how ashley is too. The whole thing is for the camera.
Ashley and is god complex is just another level too, his attitude to saf is terrible. Both are narcissistic and love the attention.

This pair should not be together, saf needs help and someone who isn’t in love with himself. They both think they are celebrities, the begging is cringe too.

I absolutely cannot stand the whole circus act from both of them. These two and the nurse mum need to go away, find some respect for the children they lost and stop peddling their way to fame off the back of the deaths.

 

[justheretoread99]

I just joined the live and …..

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Can I ask out of interest have or do you donate to other go fund accounts. As obviously there are very many with children in just as much need as Azaylia was?

You’ve actually just made me question myself, I donated quite late on in the day with Azalyias go fund me as I was at work, well after the target was hit, why after seeing that they exceeded their target didn’t I donate to someone else’s child who was nowhere near target and who weren’t likely to be without a lot of sharing on social media by well known people I’m actually kicking myself for it now. Yes I know what I gave will eventually go to other children. Just shows the power of social media

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Who on Earth would buy one of these? Walking around with a T-shirt that has a picture of a dead child? It’s honestly turned my stomach

That’s awful I actually feel physically sick and this is the way all this with Azalyia will go I don’t walk around with photos of my own children on T-shirt’s why on earth would you walk around with someone else’s

 

[gigilouxx]

Oh that interview my stomach felt sick when Safiyya said she couldn't go in a supermarket because she'd see nappies. I couldn't live without my babies. How they do it I don't know. I always said if I lost my kids I'd go with them.

Agree, he's running from the inevitable, this "got to be strong" mentality must be torturing him mentally. It's so so unhealthy

 

[chocdip]

Where are all the Ashley fans on this thread ? I remember me and only 3 others seeing through his bullshit now it seems the whole thread is feeling the same Glad your all seeing through him now!

Let’s give Saf the love and support she so deserves, I get the begging is awful but on another note I wonder if she’s just doing it to pass her day ? To meet up with people. She’s not asking for items she’s asking for nails hair face massage to me it seems she wants to be needed

 

[gigilouxx]

Thenursemum needs to stay far fucking away from someone as vulnerable as Safiyya. She should be in jail.