Ashley Cain #2

[xxexposethemallxx]

if You can’t see the problems everyone else is seeing then I really don’t know what to say. It’s blindingly obvious! As I’ve said in another message, my boyfriend at times acts towards me as Ashley does with saf. And numerous of my friends have noticed it from the “snippets”I post online. But they’re right, because he is dismissive of me sometimes. But that’s another story.
When they were on Lorraine or whatever they were on, or maybe the podcast - she broke down in tears and he just sat there. Not even so much as a reassuring hand on leg or shoulder. Nothing. He IS dismissive of her, it’s blindingly obvious.

THANKYOU

 

[MrSoHmYgOsH]

I really hope that wasn’t a stall selling azaylia memorabilia to the public.

 

[xxexposethemallxx]

I do feel for Saff she seems like the most innocent harmless girl. It’s heartbreaking to watch. I do think Ashley comes across as disinterested and I wish sometimes he would just grab her and hug. But like others have said we don’t know if this goes on behind closed doors.

I am by no means comparing my situation to theirs in any way. I hope never to have to go through what they have. Ive had several miscarriages - 10 in total. And my husband and I have both dealt with them completely differently. We have 4 children and are beyond grateful but each loss has been difficult nonetheless. My husband isn’t a talker. He shuts off and shuts down. He goes into protection mode and looks after me in other ways. He is tactile and will always pull me in and hug me etc but after one of my early miscarriages he said to me don’t talk to me I can’t deal with it if you need to talk I’m sorry you’ll have to find someone else. It was hurtful but that’s just the way he deals with things. However to anyone looking in they probably thought how amazing he was because he was cooking and cleaning and really looking after me.

I guess what I’m trying to say is everyone deals with grief and loss differently and we only see a snapshot of their life. Regardless of what I think of Ashley I do hope behind closed doors they’re able to support and comfort each other.

So sorry for your losses

 

[cb81]

So sorry for your losses

Thank you! I honestly didn’t say for that (I’ve never mentioned before and still considering deleting lol) just that I hope (but doubt) he is supporting her behind closed doors!

 

[Blue raspberry slush pupp]

I really feel for Saf….all these videos she’s posting and she just looks cut off from everything. He doesn’t even acknowledge her and she’s wandering around like a lost soul on the outskirts of it all . Azaylia was her baby too!! and she’s left looking like a lonely bystander on the outside looking in . It’s breaking my heart to think she’s probably drowning on the inside and with the exception of her brother she has no one there to rescue her

 

[xxexposethemallxx]

I really feel for Saf….all these videos she’s posting and she just looks cut off from everything. He doesn’t even acknowledge her and she’s wandering around like a lost soul on the outskirts of it all . Azaylia was her baby too!! and she’s left looking like a lonely bystander on the outside looking in . It’s breaking my heart to think she’s probably drowning on the inside and with the exception of her brother she has no one there to rescue her

this this this ! I love your username also.

 

[katty257]

aww man watching Safs stories and it’s like Ashley and his family are the ones that have lost their baby and doing all the fundraising it’s like she’s just a random woman that happens to be there,but it was her baby she carried her for nine months,but watching the stories it seems they kind of taken over and even some of his family seem a little dismissive of her and it’s all about Ashley poor Saf she needs to say something Azaylia was her baby too

 

[Book]

I really hope that wasn’t a stall selling azaylia memorabilia to the public.

Yep I saw that it definitely was!not sure if it’s for profit or at least hopefully for charity

 

[Noonoosanne2]

I really hope that wasn’t a stall selling azaylia memorabilia to the public.

Looks that way I’m out of here 🥲

 

[Doodlebug71]

I had never heard of Ashley cain until near the end of baby A, and one day he said oh she is more famous than me which didnt sit right with me, he thinks a bit too much of himself
Ps I still dont know who he is

 

[Blue raspberry slush pupp]

Looks that way I’m out of here 🥲

Wow….I have no words

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Yep I saw that it definitely was!not sure if it’s for profit or at least hopefully for charity

I’d rather put £5 in a bucket than buy one of them photos it’s just not right 🥲🥲

 

[cb81]

Looks that way I’m out of here 🥲

WTF….

I’d rather put £5 in a bucket than buy one of them photos it’s just not right 🥲🥲

Ditto!

 

[Book]

I’d rather put £5 in a bucket than buy one of them photos it’s just not right 🥲🥲

I know just want would you do with it.

I know just want would you do with it.

What*

 

[Notredamn]

I sometimes notice it when people say Ash "isn't interested" in Saf, but then I think these tiny video clips are literally seconds out of a 24 hr day so its ridiculous to assume anything. Like yesterday people moaned that he doesn't hug Saf, then when he does hug her at the finish line they say it wasn't a good enough hug I thought the hug was lovely, it was really intense and emotional! Just because he didn't wrap his arms around her doesnt mean it didnt wasn't a beautiful moment between them.

Exactly!

 

[cb81]

Sorry but I think the cards with the face on is just weird. Don’t hate me!

I get they’re trying to raise money but ffs that’s YOUR very poorly child’s face being sold to sit in someone else’s home it’s odd. Just walk round with buckets like your doing. Even sell orange helium balloons to the kids. I don’t know I just don’t get the picture thing. Sorry

 

[Peakyblinders]

that's so sad for you. Maybe you're projecting a bit? Or maybe, since you have chosen to stay with your bf, you recognise he's just not demonstrative for social media? I don't know - that's your relationship

I actually think they came across strong and fine both on Lorraine and the podcast with GF. He knows what she needs. If he had reached across she might have crumbled. They are united in a way most thankfully aren't.

considering the fact I’d say approx 90% of the people on this thread are seeing and saying the exact same thing as me. I don’t think so I’m afraid. You’re definitely in the minority thinking it looks like a normal loving relationship.

 

[xxexposethemallxx]

I’d rather put £5 in a bucket than buy one of them photos it’s just not right 🥲🥲

Just disgraceful

that's so sad for you. Maybe you're projecting a bit? Or maybe, since you have chosen to stay with your bf, you recognise he's just not demonstrative for social media? I don't know - that's your relationship

I actually think they came across strong and fine both on Lorraine and the podcast with GF. He knows what she needs. If he had reached across she might have crumbled. They are united in a way most thankfully aren't.

you need to open your eyes

 

[Notredamn]

considering the fact I’d say approx 90% of the people on this thread are seeing and saying the exact same thing as me. I don’t think so I’m afraid. You’re definitely in the minority thinking it looks like a normal loving relationship.

Yours, mine and the others are just opinions I'm afraid.
And I didn't say that. I said I don't see anything near as problematic as some are claiming. Their interactions show no red flags to me as they are snippets and it goes without saying they are together so feel no need to show intimacy, and also their baby daughter just died.

Just disgraceful



you need to open your eyes

They are open. They just don't look for things which aren't there or can be explained very easily

 

[Lurkymclurkinson1]

I watched the Happy Mum, Happy Baby youtube video and before I even read this thread I thought wow they don't act like a united couple at all. I understand grief is different for everyone, but he almost seems cold towards Safiyya. At one point she is crying talking about being in Labour etc an he just sits looking at her an I thought wow I'd expect my other half to at least reassuringly hold my hand. I can't see them lasting unfortunately, I think all they have in common is their love and grief for their daughter which is incredibly sad! She is very different from who he's been with in the past.