maytoseptember
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Hi @peachhes
I have been in your shoes and I remember it well. All the soul-seaching about autistic traits. Worrying when you realise that your child has a bunch of traits, but also thinking "well he doesn't have these other traits so maybe I'm worrying for nothing!" and just feeling so conflicted about it all. It's such a scary time. And I can tell you know, I delayed getting advice for such a long time: (1) because I was scared and (2) because people used to reassure me by saying "ah don't you worry, he'll wake up one day and he'll be talking in complete sentences!" I wanted to believe that so I kept waiting and waiting...
Ignore that bollocks you hear about "early intervention" and how important it is. I hate the term "early intervention". To be frank, if you child is autistic they are autistic, and no intervention is going to mould the autism out of them.
Also, don't be afraid of autism. If anything, I recommend that you check out some accounts on social media that are about real families living real lives and not all that dry, doom-and-gloom articles full of medical language that only concentrate on the deficits of autism. My advice is do try to get into the system and get your child seen by a paediatrician. These things take a long time so there's no point waiting. Also, ignore any rubbish you hear about "labels" and worrying that your child will have a "label" forced upon them. It's so offensive.
My son is autistic. He was diagnosed just after he turned 5 but I had been pretty sure he was autistic for a good 9-12 months prior to that. He doesn't stop talking. He is incredibly clever. He has a brilliant sense of humour. He tells me he loves me every day. He really does make me so proud. Yes, he struggles socially and with anxiety, I'm not going to pretend that life is perfect, but that's true for any family.
The hardest thing about raising an autistic child is other people He is brilliant and I wouldn't change him, but I would change the world FOR him, if that makes sense.
I have been in your shoes and I remember it well. All the soul-seaching about autistic traits. Worrying when you realise that your child has a bunch of traits, but also thinking "well he doesn't have these other traits so maybe I'm worrying for nothing!" and just feeling so conflicted about it all. It's such a scary time. And I can tell you know, I delayed getting advice for such a long time: (1) because I was scared and (2) because people used to reassure me by saying "ah don't you worry, he'll wake up one day and he'll be talking in complete sentences!" I wanted to believe that so I kept waiting and waiting...
Ignore that bollocks you hear about "early intervention" and how important it is. I hate the term "early intervention". To be frank, if you child is autistic they are autistic, and no intervention is going to mould the autism out of them.
Also, don't be afraid of autism. If anything, I recommend that you check out some accounts on social media that are about real families living real lives and not all that dry, doom-and-gloom articles full of medical language that only concentrate on the deficits of autism. My advice is do try to get into the system and get your child seen by a paediatrician. These things take a long time so there's no point waiting. Also, ignore any rubbish you hear about "labels" and worrying that your child will have a "label" forced upon them. It's so offensive.
My son is autistic. He was diagnosed just after he turned 5 but I had been pretty sure he was autistic for a good 9-12 months prior to that. He doesn't stop talking. He is incredibly clever. He has a brilliant sense of humour. He tells me he loves me every day. He really does make me so proud. Yes, he struggles socially and with anxiety, I'm not going to pretend that life is perfect, but that's true for any family.
The hardest thing about raising an autistic child is other people He is brilliant and I wouldn't change him, but I would change the world FOR him, if that makes sense.