Anti Christmas thread for those who need it 💗

[Saddlesoap]

Just wanted to create this thread for those not into Christmas to chat about anything you like. Especially if you are alone this year, or find this time of year particularly difficult, for whatever reason.

I'm pretty meh about it this year, although my mood will probably improve as the day goes on.

I'll keep popping in.

Sending you all love today.

 

[rainbowlemon]

I didn't think being alone would bug me, but it did in the morning.

I could have gone back to London but I didn't see the point.

I found a corner shop still open. Bought pizza and chocolate!

Thinking of my old friend who passed away and his family.

 

[NeverEnough]

Christmas does tend to warp time and reality. I swear I’ve been sitting in this house watching UK TV Gold for 16 hours. Just double checked the clock and it’s only moved 2.

And yes I have had enough to eat, I’d had enough ten minutes ago the last time you asked me.

And I’m looking at my phone because I’m waiting for an important work email not because I’m on Tattle bitching about how much I hate Christmas at the in-laws. Honestly.

 

[emerald]

I'm just finding it really boring now. I'm lucky enough to have a family to spend it with but it's small and we see eachother fairly frequently so the conversation is dry. I hate a roast dinner so that's no good for me. There's fuck all on the telly. I'm just waiting for my relatives to go home so I can watch Netflix in peace now

 

[shadowcat5]

this is probably a bit pathetic but not a single one of my friends has text to wish me merry Christmas. One of them lives abroad so won’t be awake yet so that’s fair enough and 2 have got kids so they are probably manic but the rest of them I’ve not heard anything. It’s now almost 6 o clock.
I’m on my own for Christmas because I don’t really get on with my family but it just goes to show how little people actually care. My own family haven’t text me despite that they know I’m up here on my own poorly. I’m always the one to make the effort at the best of times but it hurts they can’t even send a quick “merry Christmas” text.
the only people I’ve heard from are my mum and dad who I barely get on with. Am I really only stuck with those two in this world?

Eta: I like to think I’m a fair person and I know people are busy but I refuse to believe that people haven’t looked at their phone today.

 

[prozacprincess]

Even though it was pouring with rain I still went to the beach for a walk. Nobody else in sight, just me, the sea and a few sea birds. Sat in the car afterwards just reading my book, and then went for a drive down the coast road in the rain as I couldn’t face going home.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Sorry if this isn’t the right thread for it. I do like Christmas and the build up etc and have enjoyed today mainly for my toddler

But i have BPD, and when i have a really good day, at the end of it i always get a terrible feeling of lowness and depression. I get it awful every christmas. I’ve had a really good day but i’m sat on my own now and i just feel really down and feel like crying. i’ve had the most awful year of my life and i’ve just spent last half an hour reflecting on that. i’m not looking forward to 2023 cos i’ve got a load of health issues i’m going through and i just feel bleh. It’s like i get a really bad crash after a good day it is odd. Always the worst on Christmas Day i find.

 

[NeverEnough]

Is there anymore accurate definition of hell than Christmas tea at the in Laws. With a fixed rictus grin in place and the MIL asking “are you enjoying yourself” every five minutes.

 

[Bobby Chariot]

I can relate to a lot on this thread.
Never had a close family, mother left when I was about 13, so have no relationship with her at all, see my dad often, brother lives 300 mile away, he never sends a card or anything anyway.
My wife's father is dead & she has no relationship with her mother, who is pretty nasty, either.
Thankfully 2 of my wife's sisters are lovely & they all get on well, we sometimes visit & they visit us.
Used to do the in-laws 1 year, my dad the next type Xmas thing but we knocked it on the head years ago & just spend it at home, the 2 of us.
Every year I watch in amazement, the clown across the road putting lights on everything outside his house, on like the 20th November, then as night follows day a few others festoon bushes etc with shitty flashing lights.
I can guarantee tomorrow he'll take everything down, what is Christmassy about that?
Used to be 12 days before you put a tree up & 12 days after you take it all down.
My wife had major surgery this year & our dog sadly died, so will just be glad to see this year end.

 

[Asshats]

Thank you. I’m feeling a bit meh too, but plastering on a smile for our son. Thinking of anybody who finds today difficult for whatever reason.

 

[Rodneytrotter]

Ive always hated Christmas since I was a child. I'm not sure if it's the change of routine or the expectation to be happy, but I always felt relief when it was over. This year I've started to compare myself to friends who have loads of family visiting (my family are either dead or I'm not in contact). I have kids and a hubby so I'm pretending to be happy for them. Oh well it will all be over soon

 

[Sweatybetty]

Sending love to everyone that’s finding today hard for whatever reason

 

[NeverEnough]

I'm just finding it really boring now. I'm lucky enough to have a family to spend it with but it's small and we see eachother fairly frequently so the conversation is dry. I hate a roast dinner so that's no good for me. There's fuck all on the telly. I'm just waiting for my relatives to go home so I can watch Netflix in peace now

Both my parents are dead and my sister lives 150 miles away. So every year I troop over to the in-laws with wife and kids. And the best thing you can say about that is I diplomatically tolerate the in laws. I just want to get home, climb into a snuddie push back the recliner and start reading the interesting book I got as a present. Instead I'm stuck here watching Home Alone 2 on terrestrial TV. Christmas just isn't about me though so I guess I've just to to endure. This is the absolute definition of a first world problem. There is just nothing to say that hasn't been said 1000s of times before. Nothing interesting happening, even my girls look bored shitless. I honestly don't recognise the happy clappy Hollywood Christmas I'm supposed to be having when compared with this fucking misery.

I know exactly how it will end as well. As usual she's catered for a small army and will insist on "doggy bagging" shit loads of sandwiches and cold chicken legs, which my wife will pressure me into taking so as not to upset her mum. Which means we will have a fridge full of manky food, which we don't need, to dispose of after tomorrow when the "favour" is returned and they will visit us to, "see the girls presents". I suppose at least at our place we have 21st century TV so I can at least watch what I want whilst fake smiling.

 

[StatusWoe]

Thanks for creating this thread.

I normally like Christmas, but this year it's tough because of mental health stuff. Increased meds are making me feel spaced out. I'm trying to stay as outwardly cheerful as possible for my mum, but am currently having a panic attack break in my bedroom lol. This is also the first year of Christmas without any grandparents. My grandmother died last year and every old movie is reminding me of grandad who died during lockdown. Normally we have family get-togethers but everyone's scattered across the country so it's very quiet.

I'm trying to focus on the small, enjoyable things (mainly food tbh!) and getting through it that way. I hope everyone on this thread is coping. If not, remember it'll be over soon enough and things will hopefully get easier.

 

[Saddlesoap]

Off to the on laws. Send calming thoughts

 

[NeverEnough]

Is it considered bad form to take a large sledgehammer to someone's "hilarious" novelty light up singing Santa Claus?

Asking for a friend

 

[Shimmering]

I don't enjoy Christmas. I was relieved to read other people on this thread saying that even as a child they disliked it.

I remember as a child feeling immense pressure to put on a performance of being happy and grateful. My dad is also a bit of a histrionic narc at times so Christmas in our house always involved him having some sort of screaming meltdown. I found it all so stressful and overstimulating.

Now I try to keep it as low key as possible but it still brings up all these negative emotions for me. We had lunch with my family and it was relaxed and enjoyable, but when I got home in the evening I was low and very tearful. I think it's the pressure and the feelings of inadequacy that I wasn't good enough in some way, or I failed or let someone down. I would love to be released from all that. Even typing this post I'm harshly judging myself because I should be so grateful for my lovely family and lovely day. I'm also one of these people that tries to spend their emotions. So resisting buying tonnes of shit in the run up is also very draining.

I will be so relieved when it's all over.

 

[iieee]

My kids are with their dad this year so it always feels like just another day. Not even had a text off them so far.

 

[candyland_]

I have been dreading it and blocking it out as much as possible but it hasn’t been bad so far. I’m completely ignoring the people that have dragged me down and focusing on my family.

I’ve posted on another thread to say how much pressure my daughter puts on me to have the perfect Christmas.. She hadn’t even went downstairs this morning before she said ‘It’s my birthday next!’ It’s not until August ffs She’s 13 too! She acts so spoilt.
Take note and don’t make a rod for your back like I have

 

[Mermer89]

I have ADHD, medicated now but Christmas is still just too much. I don’t mind the run-up but the actual day makes me feel sick and overwhelmed. Far too many visitors and noise etc. plus we got a puppy last weekend and have all been ill with the fire breathing chest infection. My youngest is ADHD/ASD and OH undiagnosed ASD.

Must add that puppy is brilliant and found new puppy life easier than we thought, but obviously a puppy.