Annoying things your work colleagues do all the time? #4

[anonesk223]

Perfect place to rant about my OLD boss!!!

I work in healthcare, a very small company. My boss and I were the only workers, but she works part time and I was the only full time worker. Essentially I made all the money and she did f all.

I called in sick one day, the next day she called a meeting and said “okay I’m getting straight to the point, this isn’t working out”. Her reasons were not only ridiculous, but she never even discussed these with me prior.

• she said the thing that made her decide was that “I was off sick”. And I “let her know too late by email and didn’t even call”. She literally told me before that email was fine. And it was only a little later in the morning because I tried to come in, but still told her before my shift. And I had a doctors note.
• She said it’s not just this though, but other things:
• She said “you moan that you have too much work on, and no time to do anything, but you really don’t have that much on”. She saw 2-3 clients a day when she’s in. I saw 5-6 and have to do notes/report/admin/answering the phone.
• She told me I need to communicate with her that I’m struggling, so one morning I did call her saying I had struggled to find the time to prepare for a session. She said it was ridiculous, and that I “can’t be ringing her at all hours for fun” (it was 9:30am).
• I told her my housemate had covid. She said I need to pay for my own tests if I want to test as I don’t have symptoms. A few days later I came in coughing my guts out. She didn’t ask if I was ok, no concern, nothing. So I had to pay for my own tests even though I work in healthcare. She said it’s “because I didn’t come to her and ask”. She said she didn’t ask if I was ok because “I was running a team meeting at the time, and I’m currently moving house, it wasn’t on my mind”. I told her I had a problem with that and she said “yeah whatever”.
• She said I’m “not very good at winging my sessions”. Basically telling me I don’t need time to prepare - as long as I’m earning her money I shouldn’t be putting time to prepare or plan good sessions. She said she puts her family first.

AND IT GOT WORSE.

I go to write a note on the work phone, and there’s a note about all the things I’ve done wrong for me to find. This is SO unprofessional. But also there’s LOADS of things she’s never even brought up with me. Such as

• “leaving covid tests all over the table” I left one used test on one occasion by accident while I was in a session
• “Leaving the cabinet keys too close to the cabinet” fine, but she never told me this. And I came in the other day and SHE’D LEFT THEM IN THERE
• “Requesting she works from home one day while I was away” I literally should not be getting sacked for asking this??? The answer was no and I said okay fine??
• “Looking scruffy at work” again NEVER mentioned this and I know I do not look scruffy at work ever. Sometimes I don’t wear make up??
• “Heating at full blast” never told me to turn it down, and the office is freezing???
• “Not responding to clients emails” one time when I was off sick.
• “Not replying to my email asking if she was returning to work” she had emailed me at 7pm when I was sick, and I replied early the next morning???

I couldn’t be happier to be out of there!!

 

[petitspois]

Perfect place to rant about my OLD boss!!!

I work in healthcare, a very small company. My boss and I were the only workers, but she works part time and I was the only full time worker. Essentially I made all the money and she did f all.

I called in sick one day, the next day she called a meeting and said “okay I’m getting straight to the point, this isn’t working out”. Her reasons were not only ridiculous, but she never even discussed these with me prior.

• she said the thing that made her decide was that “I was off sick”. And I “let her know too late by email and didn’t even call”. She literally told me before that email was fine. And it was only a little later in the morning because I tried to come in, but still told her before my shift. And I had a doctors note.
• She said it’s not just this though, but other things:
• She said “you moan that you have too much work on, and no time to do anything, but you really don’t have that much on”. She saw 2-3 clients a day when she’s in. I saw 5-6 and have to do notes/report/admin/answering the phone.
• She told me I need to communicate with her that I’m struggling, so one morning I did call her saying I had struggled to find the time to prepare for a session. She said it was ridiculous, and that I “can’t be ringing her at all hours for fun” (it was 9:30am).
• I told her my housemate had covid. She said I need to pay for my own tests if I want to test as I don’t have symptoms. A few days later I came in coughing my guts out. She didn’t ask if I was ok, no concern, nothing. So I had to pay for my own tests even though I work in healthcare. She said it’s “because I didn’t come to her and ask”. She said she didn’t ask if I was ok because “I was running a team meeting at the time, and I’m currently moving house, it wasn’t on my mind”. I told her I had a problem with that and she said “yeah whatever”.
• She said I’m “not very good at winging my sessions”. Basically telling me I don’t need time to prepare - as long as I’m earning her money I shouldn’t be putting time to prepare or plan good sessions. She said she puts her family first.

AND IT GOT WORSE.

I go to write a note on the work phone, and there’s a note about all the things I’ve done wrong for me to find. This is SO unprofessional. But also there’s LOADS of things she’s never even brought up with me. Such as

• “leaving covid tests all over the table” I left one used test on one occasion by accident while I was in a session
• “Leaving the cabinet keys too close to the cabinet” fine, but she never told me this. And I came in the other day and SHE’D LEFT THEM IN THERE
• “Requesting she works from home one day while I was away” I literally should not be getting sacked for asking this??? The answer was no and I said okay fine??
• “Looking scruffy at work” again NEVER mentioned this and I know I do not look scruffy at work ever. Sometimes I don’t wear make up??
• “Heating at full blast” never told me to turn it down, and the office is freezing???
• “Not responding to clients emails” one time when I was off sick.
• “Not replying to my email asking if she was returning to work” she had emailed me at 7pm when I was sick, and I replied early the next morning???

I couldn’t be happier to be out of there!!

I hope you gave her a massive duck YOU when you left?

 

[Ensay]

People who never finish things annoy me. A colleague loves taking on new work, but doesn't always finish things. She's recently picked up another item of work and is handing over one of her current projects to me.

However, despite the fact she's still in handover mode for another week, she's become Miss slopey shoulders. So anytime someone emails her about that project - she just replies with "this is Ensay's responsibility now". I wouldn't mind if she'd given me a proper handover, but she hasn't because she's all excited by her new project and only cares about that now.

Revenge will be mine though, as she's asked me for some feedback.

 

[Kinderbelle]

Perfect place to rant about my OLD boss!!!

I work in healthcare, a very small company. My boss and I were the only workers, but she works part time and I was the only full time worker. Essentially I made all the money and she did f all.

I called in sick one day, the next day she called a meeting and said “okay I’m getting straight to the point, this isn’t working out”. Her reasons were not only ridiculous, but she never even discussed these with me prior.

• she said the thing that made her decide was that “I was off sick”. And I “let her know too late by email and didn’t even call”. She literally told me before that email was fine. And it was only a little later in the morning because I tried to come in, but still told her before my shift. And I had a doctors note.
• She said it’s not just this though, but other things:
• She said “you moan that you have too much work on, and no time to do anything, but you really don’t have that much on”. She saw 2-3 clients a day when she’s in. I saw 5-6 and have to do notes/report/admin/answering the phone.
• She told me I need to communicate with her that I’m struggling, so one morning I did call her saying I had struggled to find the time to prepare for a session. She said it was ridiculous, and that I “can’t be ringing her at all hours for fun” (it was 9:30am).
• I told her my housemate had covid. She said I need to pay for my own tests if I want to test as I don’t have symptoms. A few days later I came in coughing my guts out. She didn’t ask if I was ok, no concern, nothing. So I had to pay for my own tests even though I work in healthcare. She said it’s “because I didn’t come to her and ask”. She said she didn’t ask if I was ok because “I was running a team meeting at the time, and I’m currently moving house, it wasn’t on my mind”. I told her I had a problem with that and she said “yeah whatever”.
• She said I’m “not very good at winging my sessions”. Basically telling me I don’t need time to prepare - as long as I’m earning her money I shouldn’t be putting time to prepare or plan good sessions. She said she puts her family first.

AND IT GOT WORSE.

I go to write a note on the work phone, and there’s a note about all the things I’ve done wrong for me to find. This is SO unprofessional. But also there’s LOADS of things she’s never even brought up with me. Such as

• “leaving covid tests all over the table” I left one used test on one occasion by accident while I was in a session
• “Leaving the cabinet keys too close to the cabinet” fine, but she never told me this. And I came in the other day and SHE’D LEFT THEM IN THERE
• “Requesting she works from home one day while I was away” I literally should not be getting sacked for asking this??? The answer was no and I said okay fine??
• “Looking scruffy at work” again NEVER mentioned this and I know I do not look scruffy at work ever. Sometimes I don’t wear make up??
• “Heating at full blast” never told me to turn it down, and the office is freezing???
• “Not responding to clients emails” one time when I was off sick.
• “Not replying to my email asking if she was returning to work” she had emailed me at 7pm when I was sick, and I replied early the next morning???

I couldn’t be happier to be out of there!!

Have you ever posted this elsewhere? I am sure I've read it before. If so, I am very glad you got out of that situation!

 

[TheDragonWithAFlagon]

Minor irritations of the week;


1. It's still not my role. And you still don't have the authority to reallocate your workload to me - or anybody else, for that matter.

2. Stop bullshitting. You might as well be quoting the spark plug diagnosis page of the Haynes Manual for a Y Reg Vauxhall Chevette for all the good pointing and shrieking at your googled 'source' would do to support your entirely erroneous assertions. Obviously, it would have been too difficult for you to ask the literal bleeping expert rather than make lofty assertions regarding your superior knowledge, but just stop before I have to confirm the position to you in public. It's all so, well, unnecessary.

3. When somebody is in my office who is never normally down this way and my door is shut, that means do not come in, as I'm doing the most confidential part of my role. And when you come in anyway and are asked nicely to leave, that actually means duck the duck out of my bleeping office and close the bleeping door behind you, not stop in the doorway and try to continue what you wanted to do. One day, you might appreciate this part of my role - especially when I tell somebody office speak for duck the duck out of my bleeping office and close my bleeping door behind you.

4. I'm known to be covering multiple roles on a long term basis. That means I am either doing something, planning something, thinking about something, staring into space waving my hands around trying to find something in my head, trying to bat ten things out of my short term memory to be able to find the thing lurking at the back connected to an image of a purple folder or suchlike - or I just need a few minutes in which to not have to think, do, remember or visualise something. Please don't add to this by following up by phoning everybody around me to check if I'm at my desk because I haven't answered your three calls within five minutes. My body may very well be - the bit that's doing the heavy lifting isn't.

 

[camotea]

Small team here and two people are leaving and not being replaced, I’ve heard rumours that two others are also leaving (and presumably won’t be replaced) and the SPOC for a big lump of process is on sick. All the work has been reallocated from Monday and I can’t see it going well. Out of 5 team leaders two are decent, one is unapproachable, the other is the sick SPOC and the most senior only cares about their other team. I’m beating myself up after finally getting an IT solution for the internal vacancies board but I cba to properly read and unravel it 🥹 Massive restructure trundling along and when it finally gets to my grade I’ll have to apply for the higher grade along with everyone else, most of whom have been there for years and are panicking. Or get on internal vacancies and throw myself into MORE CHANGE. I don’t mind change, I force myself not to, but I’m knackered and am struggling to locate my ambition. This is the Civil Service, if you hadn’t guessed
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Oh no, I’m in the wrong thread. This should be Does anyone else hate their job. Sorry!

 

[Codiaeum]

I've a coworker I'm sadly needing to work relatively closely with and he is sooooo cringe in everything he says or does. I honestly need to physically refrain from not visibly cringing at the camera in meetings.

And he's always using these bullshitting phrases that are supposed to make you sound - I don't even know what they're supposed to do - but I swear, if I hear him saying "Let's put together a document to practice our craft" I will go full on Samara and crawl through my camera and come out at his place just to never hear those words again


Also, coworkers who take. everything. so. seriously.
There's no need to tell me how you take notes listening to an effing podcast!!!

 

[mochibean]

Touch me. Even just a coworker of mine just puts his hand on my shoulder sometimes but it makes me really uncomfy bc he's old and a bit weird.

 

[cowtastrophe]

Touch me. Even just a coworker of mine just puts his hand on my shoulder sometimes but it makes me really uncomfy bc he's old and a bit weird.

Eurgh! I would hate that. I used to be a PA to a guy about 30 years older than me and he kept touching my shoulders, my arms. I’m one of those people whose feelings don’t need to be said and he must have picked up on my revulsion because one day he said to me, ‘I hope you don’t mind me touching you, but I’m just a touchy feely kinda guy!’ and compounded the horror by doing a sort of Fonz motion with his arms. I’ve never wanted to kill anyone so much.

I hate how tricky this kind of tit can be as a woman. I bet you want to say ‘stop touching me’ but know he‘ll get offended and make it seem like you’re the one being unreasonable. I always try and stand back from people and emit a ‘don’t touch’ demeanour.

 

[mochibean]

Eurgh! I would hate that. I used to be a PA to a guy about 30 years older than me and he kept touching my shoulders, my arms. I’m one of those people whose feelings don’t need to be said and he must have picked up on my revulsion because one day he said to me, ‘I hope you don’t mind me touching you, but I’m just a touchy feely kinda guy!’ and compounded the horror by doing a sort of Fonz motion with his arms. I’ve never wanted to kill anyone so much.

I hate how tricky this kind of tit can be as a woman. I bet you want to say ‘stop touching me’ but know he‘ll get offended and make it seem like you’re the one being unreasonable. I always try and stand back from people and emit a ‘don’t touch’ demeanour.

This is EXACTLY word for word how I feel. It just gives me the biggest physical ick I literally recoil in disgust. Like I get it's harmless but I just don't want people touching me. Glad he picked up on it but yikes I hate anyone who uses being a 'touchy feely' person as an excuse to cross boundaries like that. Like I haven't set a boundary but for me, it comes naturally not to touch my coworkers.

 

[DA Stella]

I've attended training where we are told in no uncertain terms to NEVER touch a coworker or an employee. Never. Ever. Except for a handshake.

 

[mochibean]

I've attended training where we are told in no uncertain terms to NEVER touch a coworker or an employee. Never. Ever. Except for a handshake.

I thought it was just common sense tbh. He looms over me as well when I'm talking it's so creepy.

 

[petitspois]

Yeah, there's absolutely no need to touch anyone in work. He can control his urges if he wanted to. I accidentally touched my bosses forearm once when we both reached for the same thing. It was really uncomfortable.

 

[blahblahboring]

Absolutely no need to lay your hand on anyone at work! I would have thought than men would be more aware of this sort of thing since Me Too, considering how many of them complained about it and how confusing it was for them to not know what they were and weren’t allowed to do anymore. Just keep your hands to yourself!

 

[OmgObsessed]

I wouldn't risk leaving any feedback. My old old old years ago job had "anonymous" feedback. Yet it was being recorded. There are usually keyloggers or recording the screen. They're going to know.

 

[TheGlossy]

I have a female coworker who thought it was appropriate to give me a random hug when we went to fix some IT issue with my PC. Personal space much?

 

[Popcornshovel]

I wouldn't risk leaving any feedback. My old old old years ago job had "anonymous" feedback. Yet it was being recorded. There are usually keyloggers or recording the screen. They're going to know.

I always think with feedback that it's sticking your neck out to provide it. And I won't risk that for someone else's development, especially if the root cause is their lack of self awareness.

In my work there's a big culture of '360 feedback' where everyone has to request feedback from everyone they've worked with during the appraisal year. I usually just don't fill it in.

 

[JustmeKC]

I always think with feedback that it's sticking your neck out to provide it. And I won't risk that for someone else's development, especially if the root cause is their lack of self awareness.

In my work there's a big culture of '360 feedback' where everyone has to request feedback from everyone they've worked with during the appraisal year. I usually just don't fill it in.

Same in my place - it’s such a cop out for management.

 

[TheGlossy]

Well, 100% I’m not going to give feedback.

She always said feedbacks have to be a verbal ‘discussion’ before submitting on our HR portal. She asked me for verbal feedback about her during some of our 1-1, but it was too early for me as I’d only been in the role 3 months.

Consequently, in light of her own rule, I reached out to her asking if we should set some time aside to have a conversation on her feedback request before I submit in writing in our HR portal and her response was ‘Feedback for me??’.

Clearly, she thinks she’s above this. Yet, she’s the one who asked for formal feedback on our HR portal. The worst is I was only going to give her the positives and disregard the negatives.

I’m not putting in any effort with her because she clearly has her own narrative in her head.

If she chases, I’ll be like ‘I’ll fill it in in due course’.

 

[Black.bird]

I had a bit of a weird and scary experience when shaking someone's hand a few years back that's stayed with me, so now I just hold my hand to my heart and say how nice it is to meet/see the person. The only good thing to come out of Covid was that I could use that as an excuse for a while!

The scary thing was, I attended an interview with two men. The first man shook my hand; I reciprocated; fine. The second man held out his hand; I reciprocated and he bloody crushed my hand so hard I was trying not to flinch. He knew what he was doing. He continued to act like a prick throughout the interview as well. My hand was sore for days after.

I have no qualms in asking colleagues or management to stand back if they're in my personal space - it's just gross.