I worked with someone who used to do that and it’s so boring isn’t it. The stories are never remotely interesting.I work with a woman who never stops talking about herself. It’s gotten to the stage where we just do a polite nod at the end of one of her stories but if she feels that she doesn’t get a big enough reaction, she just repeats the exact same story again, immediately. It’s getting ridiculous, the other week I heard her tell the same mundane anecdote three times in a row
I worked with someone who used to do that and it’s so boring isn’t it. The stories are never remotely interesting.
She stopped with me when I used to say oh you’ve told me that before and then walking off and saying I’m off for a coffee. It’s quite rude but they seem to be so oblivious to taking up your time that it ended up being the only way to shut it down.
Had a manager like that.I work with a woman who never stops talking about herself. It’s gotten to the stage where we just do a polite nod at the end of one of her stories but if she feels that she doesn’t get a big enough reaction, she just repeats the exact same story again, immediately. It’s getting ridiculous, the other week I heard her tell the same mundane anecdote three times in a row
Urgh she sounds vindictive! She obviously doesn't have much going on in her life to be that bothered about someone leaving. Sounds like she's mulled it over loads and taken everything personally.Had my resignation meeting at work to discuss the formalities with my manager. She has seemed fine generally, good enough manager, but had a habit of contradicting herself (promising things and then pretending she had never even mentioned them when the team would ask her getting the arse if people were off sick because it left us extremely short instead of hiring the appropriate level of resource) and it raised a few red flags for me when a colleague of mine left purely because the job wasn't for them and she appeared to take it personally, bragging over dinner about how she ticked the "would not hire again" box on their reference.
Well, she sat with a face like a smacked arse the whole time and I had to literally bite my inner cheek to stop myself from laughing at how utterly ridiculously she behaved. She launched straight in accusing me of "galivanting around" having interviews while I was off sick with stress (not true, I'd been offered the job a while back and it has taken ages to process) and accused me of lying in a prior meeting about being happy in the job - which I was for the most part. Once I'd nipped that in the bud she abruptly moved right into formalities and I was then given the "options" of leaving that day and getting my A/L paid at month end or leaving at month end but being onA/L until then. No opportunity to handover to my lovely direct colleagues, no being able to say goodbye to them and the wider team, no "congratulations, what's the new job?". When I then said I am sad to be leaving (which I am, but only because I did like the job and my direct colleagues are lovely) she snapped "well you just do what's best for you and the company will do what's best for it....like the company had any choice
Cannot wait for my exit interview with HR because I won't be holding back. All she had to do was be fucking nice.
That's what I got from it. She seemed to take it as a carefully planned out slight against specifically her. Someone else did say to me I should be flattered, she clearly valued me and wanted to keep me around way more than she ever showed the whole time I was there XDUrgh she sounds vindictive! She obviously doesn't have much going on in her life to be that bothered about someone leaving. Sounds like she's mulled it over loads and taken everything personally.
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A colleague I barely know is asking me to schedule a Zoom call to plan her Europe trip itinerary (personal vacation) this summer.
I barely had time to think about what to do on a random weekend. I don’t have time to plan someone else’s whole summer. I’ll do it because I want to be nice, but there are a lot of websites out there for this specific purpose.
IKWYM.Does anyone else find it really aggravating when someone gives you a task to do but are gleeful about it being shit or tedious?
I was given something to do which basically involves finding about 80 reports from an old system and transferring them to a new one. It’s a bit boring but ultimately it’s not like the scourge of humanity. But both the people who asked me to do it were a bit smug about giving it to me to do which got my back up a bit. They’re not even normally like that which makes it even more annoying.
I‘m like ‘just ask me to do the task like it’s a normal piece of work rather than behaving as though you’ve told me to ring bind 7000 reports on a Friday afternoon while you go down the pub ffs’.
That is awful. Given this person who left the positive feedback is more senior and your manager is questioning this feedback could you report your manager to HR for undermining your work? How did you find out about your manager questioning the validity of the feedback?When I thought my manager couldn’t sink any lower with her pettiness.
A more senior stakeholder I worked with every single day for months left me an excellent good feedback which was directly related to my manager. My manager apparently asked this person they left this good feedback for me because they ‘don’t see what this person is seeing’.
I don’t work directly with my manager, so they don’t have a lot of visibility on my work or how I interact with people work-wise. The fact they had the audacity to question the good feedback I got is beyond disrespectful.
This person is going to ruin my entire career. She’s probably going to screw up my year review and leave me unable to move internally or alternatively, tick the ‘do not rehire’ box if I move externally.
This is mad.
Do you mind unquoting please? I might want to remove my post later. Thanks.That is awful. Given this person who left the positive feedback is more senior and your manager is questioning this feedback could you report your manager to HR for undermining your work? How did you find out about your manager questioning the validity of the feedback?
Yes, exactly. I can put my headphones in and crack on with it. But when it’s presented to me in the manner of ‘hee hee hee, here’s this crap job for you to do, sorreeeeee!’ it makes me resent doing it.IKWYM.
And from time to time, I actually don't mind a tedious task, if all truth be known.
Something I can do almost on autopilot.
Oh I completely agree.Yes, exactly. I can put my headphones in and crack on with it. But when it’s presented to me in the manner of ‘hee hee hee, here’s this crap job for you to do, sorreeeeee!’ it makes me resent doing it.
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