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He is seriously taking the mick now.
I was in a meeting and he pinged me at 10am saying āHi, can you please respond to my query?ā
Like I have to go digging into my archives and itās clear from his query he is trying to basically tell someone itās not his job to do X and looking for evidence from me to support that.
I donāt appreciate this pestering at all and particularly his tone from yesterday. The day is not finished and heās onto me at 10am.
I said āIām swamped at the moment and will dig into my archives laterā.
I was in a meeting and he pinged me at 10am saying āHi, can you please respond to my query?ā
Like I have to go digging into my archives and itās clear from his query he is trying to basically tell someone itās not his job to do X and looking for evidence from me to support that.
I donāt appreciate this pestering at all and particularly his tone from yesterday. The day is not finished and heās onto me at 10am.
I said āIām swamped at the moment and will dig into my archives laterā.
I thought you said you don't work for him anymore? So why are you engaging with him. Why not ignore him?
Whatās your current manager saying about it?
Has anyone had a colleague - further down the hierarchy - say, "I reckon I could do your job"? How did you deal with it?
It's an interesting one. A friend has to put up with comments along these lines from someone in another team (they sit opposite each other) all the time and she's getting a bit paranoid because this person always makes a beeline for my friend's manager when he heads into the kitchen.
The first time it happened, she brushed it off; but another time when she'd forgotten to add something important in a slide - and her manager came and chatted with her about it - this stirrer tut-tutted and asked her if her heart is in it.
If it was me, I'd pull that person aside and tell her to pull her head in; I'd also request a desk move ... my friend doesn't want to do either, to bring attention to it.
It's an interesting one. A friend has to put up with comments along these lines from someone in another team (they sit opposite each other) all the time and she's getting a bit paranoid because this person always makes a beeline for my friend's manager when he heads into the kitchen.
The first time it happened, she brushed it off; but another time when she'd forgotten to add something important in a slide - and her manager came and chatted with her about it - this stirrer tut-tutted and asked her if her heart is in it.
If it was me, I'd pull that person aside and tell her to pull her head in; I'd also request a desk move ... my friend doesn't want to do either, to bring attention to it.
We used to have hand cream, perfume etc in the womens loos and they stopped doing it because by EOD it would always be stolen/taken.
Once I saw a used tampon ON TOP of the sanitary bin. On a separate occasion there was a poo between the bin and the loo.
What I donāt get is isnāt the risk factor too high? Like, doing that is a fireable offense if your manager happened to enter the bathroom and used the same loo? How embarrassing anyway
Once I had a very glam, very scary manager. She was in a cubicle for like 15 mins and when she left it smelled of the most horrible poo. I was never in awe of her again and used to silently giggle when she tried to play sophisticated scary boss
It sounds like he is harrassing. I would be ignoring him/reporting him to be honest because he is interfering with the new role. That man should not have that power. Time to ignore.
Exactly. If Glossy had left the company rather than moving teams he wouldnāt be able to do this.
Mine is so petty but the bloke at work is the loudest eater I've ever heard. It gives me the rage when I hear him get his lunch out as I just know what's coming for the next 20 minutes. Slurping, crunching really loud, smashing his fork into it 200000 times. I've started leaving the room when he's eating as most of the time it's just me and him in the office and there's not enough background noise to cover it. He also shakes his leg constantly which rattles my desk so I've moved even further away from him, and don't even get me started on how noisy he is using the tape dispenser. Luckily I'm leaving soon
I sat opposite his twin. Not lunch but the morning scone and coffee, I almost required sedation to endure the slurping and slopping that went on for at least an hour, every morning.Mine is so petty but the bloke at work is the loudest eater I've ever heard. It gives me the rage when I hear him get his lunch out as I just know what's coming for the next 20 minutes. Slurping, crunching really loud, smashing his fork into it 200000 times. I've started leaving the room when he's eating as most of the time it's just me and him in the office and there's not enough background noise to cover it. He also shakes his leg constantly which rattles my desk so I've moved even further away from him, and don't even get me started on how noisy he is using the tape dispenser. Luckily I'm leaving soon
Sometimes I left my desk but couldn't leave for an hour at a time. Also that leg shaking thing, and pounding his keyboard with his fists - or at least that is what it sounded like!
I find it annoying when my colleagues message me on Teams on my day off. My out of office is on, I am absolutely not going to respond to you until I'm back in tomorrow. Go away.
I always wonder if they know how loud they are and just don't care, or if they genuinely don't realise? Nobody else here eats like that. Surely when he's chomping his crisps like a hippo eating a lettuce he must realise that it's not normal and nobody else is that loudI sat opposite his twin. Not lunch but the morning scone and coffee, I almost required sedation to endure the slurping and slopping that went on for at least an hour, every morning.
This guy was unaware but also didn't care, I think.
He was a fifty something year old manchild who thought he was hilarious, in general.
I would say he imagined himself to be a lovable eccentric or something.
duck me where did you work as I think he works here now
No, this guy has to be retired by nowduck me where did you work as I think he works here now
! Might be his brother, lol.
I worked with a leg jiggler and often they donāt know theyāre doing it. I stopped them by just saying my desk keeps shaking/vibrating would you mind stopping and it does work. Better to say something than suffer in silence
Iām an unintentional leg jiggler, always stop when I realise. I wouldnāt mind if someone asked me to stop.I worked with a leg jiggler and often they donāt know theyāre doing it. I stopped them by just saying my desk keeps shaking/vibrating would you mind stopping and it does work. Better to say something than suffer in silence
Follow up on my above situation:
As Iād mentioned before, he got rude on my first day back from OOO demanding that the archive digging exercise be done by the following day (āit has to be tomorrowā). I worked until 7pm that day to close off a deliverable in my current team, so he wasnāt on my priority list at all. Following morning, he chased me I explained I was swamped.
At that point, I had enough an escalated to my manager because how dare he be demanding a short turnaround and chasing me repeatedly when I just got back from leave and donāt work for him no more.
My manager then reached out to him and told him that moving forward any work queries be routed through them first because thatās protocol for internal hires. He spoke to me rudely when I said I couldnāt deliver right then and there, so he honestly had it coming. I had to tolerate his rudeness while under his management but not anymore.
The undue negativity and pressure I experienced on Monday was unacceptable. I left that team with the intent of leaving that toxicity behind, not have it follow me into this new team. I had to nip this in the bud because I knew this would open a floodgate of ridiculous queries (especially as they havenāt replaced me).
To be clear: He was my manager, so I had to be āniceā to him and professional. Iām not his friend.
As Iād mentioned before, he got rude on my first day back from OOO demanding that the archive digging exercise be done by the following day (āit has to be tomorrowā). I worked until 7pm that day to close off a deliverable in my current team, so he wasnāt on my priority list at all. Following morning, he chased me I explained I was swamped.
At that point, I had enough an escalated to my manager because how dare he be demanding a short turnaround and chasing me repeatedly when I just got back from leave and donāt work for him no more.
My manager then reached out to him and told him that moving forward any work queries be routed through them first because thatās protocol for internal hires. He spoke to me rudely when I said I couldnāt deliver right then and there, so he honestly had it coming. I had to tolerate his rudeness while under his management but not anymore.
The undue negativity and pressure I experienced on Monday was unacceptable. I left that team with the intent of leaving that toxicity behind, not have it follow me into this new team. I had to nip this in the bud because I knew this would open a floodgate of ridiculous queries (especially as they havenāt replaced me).
To be clear: He was my manager, so I had to be āniceā to him and professional. Iām not his friend.
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Well done on getting your new manager to tell him to route requests properly. Hopefully with time that will stop him contacting you.
Well done @TheGlossy !
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