I was wondering if someone can help. Is there anyway of finding out exactly who is sending messages/emails to someone? Like possibly tracking them down with their IP address (this lie that influencers spread explained here) or if they have made a fake Facebook profile is there anyway of finding out who exactly it is.
Long story short and I’ll try and explain this the best way I can.
I work for a small business, my manager is having a fling with the hairdresser next door. They have been for the past year. I knew from day one, I was the first and only person to know from the beginning and was happy for them. I’ve been wanting them to be together from the get go. In our business we have another male who works for us, the managers best friend, he doesn’t agree with them being together (for several reasons I wont get into and he’s made it very clear on several occasions). I have to also mention this guy (the managers best friend) I used to work with him in my old job so I’ve actually known him a lot longer than my manager has and he’s changed as a person (in a bad way) from when I used to work with him in my previous job.
Anyway, for months they have both (my manager and hairdresser) have been receiving quite vile and abusive emails from a fake account but the emails are also being made out to look like I’ve sent them. Things that have been mentioned in the emails are only things that we have all spoken about together so nobody else would know (including the male - managers best friend too) but the way the email text is coming across they are using grammar which I would use and words that I would use to look like me. Specific words, texts, phrases that I say etc as if I’m sending the emails to put the blame on me. At first they genuinely thought I was sending the emails, I was oblivious to these emails until they asked me if I was me, I had no idea they were even receiving these emails until recently, I showed them I was innocent. I would never do such a thing. They didn’t expect it would be the other member of staff (his best friend) until we started piecing the evidence together.
Anyway, tonight, I’ve started now receiving messages but via Facebook because this person doesn’t have my personal email address. This person has made up a fake Facebook profile to send me messages which are very personal, abusive and disturbing. They have told me they watch my every move, they know everything about me, to watch my back because “you will find out in time what will happen to you, you think you’re smart but I’m smarter than you, just wait and see”. Etc etc… saying they are going to message my partner and make up lies saying I’m sleeping with other people etc! I did block the person and normally I wouldn’t bother but I have mental health problems and I can’t sleep from panicking. I know this is the person from my work because they have mentioned personal stuff that only my manager and he knows in my work and I know for a fact it’s him! But how do I prove it! I’m so angry. What does he want from me and why is he doing this to me and to my manager, his so called best friend! Baring in mind this guy is in his 40s. If it’s not him it’s his partner that’s doing it on his behalf.
I can’t afford to just pack up and leave my work but I can’t go to work dealing with this as it’s affecting my mental health badly. What would you do in this situation? I’m so tempted to set him up in a way to prove it’s him but I don’t know what to do. I know 100% it’s him who’s sending these emails and threatening me too. I don’t know why he is doing this.
Long story short and I’ll try and explain this the best way I can.
I work for a small business, my manager is having a fling with the hairdresser next door. They have been for the past year. I knew from day one, I was the first and only person to know from the beginning and was happy for them. I’ve been wanting them to be together from the get go. In our business we have another male who works for us, the managers best friend, he doesn’t agree with them being together (for several reasons I wont get into and he’s made it very clear on several occasions). I have to also mention this guy (the managers best friend) I used to work with him in my old job so I’ve actually known him a lot longer than my manager has and he’s changed as a person (in a bad way) from when I used to work with him in my previous job.
Anyway, for months they have both (my manager and hairdresser) have been receiving quite vile and abusive emails from a fake account but the emails are also being made out to look like I’ve sent them. Things that have been mentioned in the emails are only things that we have all spoken about together so nobody else would know (including the male - managers best friend too) but the way the email text is coming across they are using grammar which I would use and words that I would use to look like me. Specific words, texts, phrases that I say etc as if I’m sending the emails to put the blame on me. At first they genuinely thought I was sending the emails, I was oblivious to these emails until they asked me if I was me, I had no idea they were even receiving these emails until recently, I showed them I was innocent. I would never do such a thing. They didn’t expect it would be the other member of staff (his best friend) until we started piecing the evidence together.
Anyway, tonight, I’ve started now receiving messages but via Facebook because this person doesn’t have my personal email address. This person has made up a fake Facebook profile to send me messages which are very personal, abusive and disturbing. They have told me they watch my every move, they know everything about me, to watch my back because “you will find out in time what will happen to you, you think you’re smart but I’m smarter than you, just wait and see”. Etc etc… saying they are going to message my partner and make up lies saying I’m sleeping with other people etc! I did block the person and normally I wouldn’t bother but I have mental health problems and I can’t sleep from panicking. I know this is the person from my work because they have mentioned personal stuff that only my manager and he knows in my work and I know for a fact it’s him! But how do I prove it! I’m so angry. What does he want from me and why is he doing this to me and to my manager, his so called best friend! Baring in mind this guy is in his 40s. If it’s not him it’s his partner that’s doing it on his behalf.
I can’t afford to just pack up and leave my work but I can’t go to work dealing with this as it’s affecting my mental health badly. What would you do in this situation? I’m so tempted to set him up in a way to prove it’s him but I don’t know what to do. I know 100% it’s him who’s sending these emails and threatening me too. I don’t know why he is doing this.