Annoying things your work colleagues do all the time? #3

[Anne1448]

Has anyone had a bad experience when handing in notice? I am doing it tomorrow and expecting the worst....snide/nasty comments etc.

If your manager always respected you then nothing should change.

However, if they never did, get ready for a lot of passive aggressiveness.

At my last job my manager told me that I was "the most incompetent person she'd ever seen". I ended up working for Google as an Engineer less than a month later

 

[JustmeKC]

Has anyone had a bad experience when handing in notice? I am doing it tomorrow and expecting the worst....snide/nasty comments etc.

Yes I have but it just solidified the reasons I resigned. At least you will only have to put up with it for your notice period & if you’re lucky they might put you on gardening leave.

generally, just be to the point “I’ve asked to see you to let you know I’m resigning and give you my notice”. Have your letter ready, and follow up the conversation by email asking them to confirm your last day as being xx date. Don’t go into detail if you don’t want to about the reasons why etc and if there’s snideness just tell them you’re sorry they feel that way and move on, good luck!

 

[Heidi88]

Thanks for the advice. It went better than expected and my boss even offered to make some structural changes to get me to stay and even gave me a compliment (there is a first for everything)! They said they are disappointed it didnt work out whilst not realising they are at least 75% of the reason I am going. I kept it very cordial and didnt go into reasons for leaving other than I want a change and the role isnt right for me. I have a call with HR tomorrow (at their request).

I'm officially on the countdown to getting out of there.

 

[Hollie Day]

Colleagues who try and force their home made baking on you. If it aint m&s or lidl I don't wanna know

 

[If you say so...]

Colleagues who try and force their home made baking on you. If it aint m&s or lidl I don't wanna know

We used to have a force feeder…. “tiger bread?” “No thanks.” *colleague walks back to canteen* *comes with a wedge of bread about 7cms thick with an equal amount of butter and drops it on your desk*

uhm just no.

 

[mags27]

Literally just had to join because of this thread! Got a whole load of annoying things that my colleagues do!

Being given unsolicited advice constantly by a guy in my team who's the same grade as me! What's worse is that he does it in front of others! Most people our age in the wider team (in their mid-20s) tell him to stop it but that behaviour's started rubbing off on an apprentice in our team (I think she's 18/19) and now she's giving me unsolicited advice. I give her the benefit of the doubt because she's young and on the sensitive side but my god, it's even more annoying than when the guy does it now because she's giving advice about personal issues

 

[Run 101]

Colleagues who try and force their home made baking on you. If it aint m&s or lidl I don't wanna know

I used to work in an office and they`d have a buffet for the opening of an envelope, and it walways sauage rolls crips and other crap i didnt like - and would make such a big deal over it

 

[mags27]

When your boss openly favours other colleagues - they don't even attempt to hide it Anyone have any advice on that? I don't want to confront my boss so I just avoid him as much as I can.

 

[Rxt156]

When your boss openly favours other colleagues - they don't even attempt to hide it Anyone have any advice on that? I don't want to confront my boss so I just avoid him as much as I can.

I’ve been on the outside of the favourites bubble for years. It’s quite embarrassing that managers do this actually. So unprofessional.
Eventually the person doing it left their job. Much better now

 

[Onthehop]

When your office celebrate everything with nights out. I hate it and generally have an excuse. I don’t want to socialise with my colleagues. I’m not able to get out of the Christmas party. Dreading it.

 

[Some People!]

When your office celebrate everything with nights out. I hate it and generally have an excuse. I don’t want to socialise with my colleagues. I’m not able to get out of the Christmas party. Dreading it.

This so much!!!!11

Our Xmas day is mandatory () and there's an evening element that all the cool kids go to until the wee small hours. Hate going, hate seeing SLT doing bleeping skits, hate everyone getting wasted as soon as the bar opens, hate eating with them all. I bleeping hate mandatory fun.
Some of them really, really look forward to this all year and I feel like that's a bit sad? Imagine looking forward to getting dressed up to hang out with work people who have to be there and getting wrecked in front of them all and being subject to gossip and banter forever more.... No ta. I'd literally rather be working.

 

[Heidi88]

When your boss openly favours other colleagues - they don't even attempt to hide it Anyone have any advice on that? I don't want to confront my boss so I just avoid him as much as I can.

I had this and actually brought it up along with other issues and it didnt make even the smallest difference. In fact it made things worse. The only advice I can give is to leave.

 

[shadowcat5]

This so much!!!!11

Our Xmas day is mandatory () and there's an evening element that all the cool kids go to until the wee small hours. Hate going, hate seeing SLT doing bleeping skits, hate everyone getting wasted as soon as the bar opens, hate eating with them all. I bleeping hate mandatory fun.
Some of them really, really look forward to this all year and I feel like that's a bit sad? Imagine looking forward to getting dressed up to hang out with work people who have to be there and getting wrecked in front of them all and being subject to gossip and banter forever more.... No ta. I'd literally rather be working.

exactly!! My colleagues are like this but they will look forward to the stupidest tit. My work does a summer competition for all departments. I say no, cue everyone “omg why? it’s so much fun”

uh… because I can’t think of anything worse than spending my evening (non work hours btw!) in heat that resembles the devils ball sack doing sports day like I’m in year 4

 

[mags27]

I had this and actually brought it up along with other issues and it didnt make even the smallest difference. In fact it made things worse. The only advice I can give is to leave.

Ah sorry to hear that. How did you go about bringing it up if you don't mind me asking? Although it probably won't make much difference in my case either - pretty sure I'll just get put in my place and treated like a kid

 

[Heidi88]

Ah sorry to hear that. How did you go about bringing it up if you don't mind me asking? Although it probably won't make much difference in my case either - pretty sure I'll just get put in my place and treated like a kid

We had a lot of problems regarding culture. I am a manager with 4 direct reports and mistakes my team made were always highlighted but not so much other teams mistakes. I brought it up in that context and mainly focussed on how my team felt as they had all given me feedback and I said it was important for retention of staff. I am glad I brought it up as I actually handed in my notice today and I feel at least I tried but there were definitely a lot of moments where I thought why did I do this.

 

[Some People!]

exactly!! My colleagues are like this but they will look forward to the stupidest tit. My work does a summer competition for all departments. I say no, cue everyone “omg why? it’s so much fun”

uh… because I can’t think of anything worse than spending my evening (non work hours btw!) in heat that resembles the devils ball sack doing sports day like I’m in year 4

Look, I don't want to bang on about this, but fuuuuck

One of the worst aspects of the whole thing is when I'm made out to be like an actual baddie villain for not wanting to get into the forced fun?! My organisation is painfully woke and respectful of people's wishes and choices in almost every other aspect, but they just can't wrap their minds around the fact that Xmas staff day isn't the social highlight of my year!

We have a summer staff day thing which is a cringey year 4 sports day as well. People are slightly more cynical about this one than the Xmas thing, but still.

 

[DA Stella]

A company I used to work for had a holiday shindig every year. The first year I worked there I went. Now, this company is very clique-ish and I was most definitely NOT a member of the cool crowd. So I got a nice dress, fixed my hair and makeup and drove to the venue. Only to be completely and totally ignored by everyone at the event. I had even set my handbag and sweater on a chair at a table where the other ladies were sitting and left to get myself a drink. When I got back someone had removed my things and set them on a planter. I guess I wasn't going to be sitting there! So I found a seat off by myself in another room and spent the evening alone. The ONLY people who talked to me were the friend of one of the "cool group" coworkers who had been unwillingly dragged to the party, and the nice girlfriend of another coworker. Otherwise I was completely ignored.
The next year the same "cool group" coworker (who, incidentally, was my supervisor) asked me if I was going. I said no. She asked "Why, didn't you have a good time last year?" And I replied simply "No". She seemed to think back and I think she realized I had zero reason to want to repeat that experience.
So no, not a fan of after hours holiday events.

 

[WeHadFunRight]

A company I used to work for had a holiday shindig every year. The first year I worked there I went. Now, this company is very clique-ish and I was most definitely NOT a member of the cool crowd. So I got a nice dress, fixed my hair and makeup and drove to the venue. Only to be completely and totally ignored by everyone at the event. I had even set my handbag and sweater on a chair at a table where the other ladies were sitting and left to get myself a drink. When I got back someone had removed my things and set them on a planter. I guess I wasn't going to be sitting there! So I found a seat off by myself in another room and spent the evening alone. The ONLY people who talked to me were the friend of one of the "cool group" coworkers who had been unwillingly dragged to the party, and the nice girlfriend of another coworker. Otherwise I was completely ignored.
The next year the same "cool group" coworker (who, incidentally, was my supervisor) asked me if I was going. I said no. She asked "Why, didn't you have a good time last year?" And I replied simply "No". She seemed to think back and I think she realized I had zero reason to want to repeat that experience.
So no, not a fan of after hours holiday events.

God that’s awful. I had a manager who would actively look THROUGH me at social events but nothing this extreme

 

[emmer_moans]

Just found out for our office Xmas do , it’s during work time, it’s a lunch at restaurant, and then we can have the afternoon off, i.e. go home early…but only if you go and eat! If you don’t want to go an eat, you have to work the full day in the office… when noone else is working. I really don’t like Xmas meals, I have allergies and preordering from a limited set menu blah blah blah it’s just not fun, plus the past few times I have been it’s been as exciting as a wet fart. I’ll be opting for working in the office, but I don’t understnad how you get rewarded with the afternoon off if you go and eat, but if you don’t go and eat, you have to work til 5pm… when noone else is working. Just give us all the afternoon off then!

 

[Some People!]

Just found out for our office Xmas do , it’s during work time, it’s a lunch at restaurant, and then we can have the afternoon off, i.e. go home early…but only if you go and eat! If you don’t want to go an eat, you have to work the full day in the office… when noone else is working. I really don’t like Xmas meals, I have allergies and preordering from a limited set menu blah blah blah it’s just not fun, plus the past few times I have been it’s been as exciting as a wet fart. I’ll be opting for working in the office, but I don’t understnad how you get rewarded with the afternoon off if you go and eat, but if you don’t go and eat, you have to work til 5pm… when noone else is working. Just give us all the afternoon off then!

It's the same where I am, only it's a full-day thing. I've never known anyone be 'allowed' to work though - it's essentially mandatory to go to the Xmas day out and AL isn't allowed.

FUN!!