Anna Mathur

[Rosie878]

I have to agree that the juxtaposition of personal and advertised posts, alongside selling personal development and therapist courses is leaving a really nasty taste in my mouth. I’m not sure she realises how bad it looks.
If you advertise yourself as a therapist you are going to attract some vulnerable people. Stop selling them tit they don’t need!!

 

[Ohflogoff]

Has anyone spoken to the Bacp about this in the past?

 

[OneLineResponse]

What parent, in their right mind, would delete anything to do with school and the needs of your child .... even if it was about dress up day. The lies for a story are unreal.

 

[Lilinpops83]

What parent, in their right mind, would delete anything to do with school and the needs of your child .... even if it was about dress up day. The lies for a story are unreal.

The idea that Anna deletes anything of importance is absurd. She would rather starve herself / hack off a limb than threaten the position / brand / reputation and advancement of her own family. Her bum (anal retentiveness) is so tightly clenched. Everything is about the aesthetic - she is 2021’s Hyacinth Bouquet with a different - insta/top end of of John Lewis - backdrop. The predictability of her Surrey dullness means the kids will be sent to a better school at aged 8 and they will acquire a 4 by 4.

 

[Lilinpops83]

The idea that Anna deletes anything of importance is absurd. She would rather starve herself / hack off a limb than threaten the position / brand / reputation and advancement of her own family. Her bum (anal retentiveness) is so tightly clenched. Everything is about the aesthetic - she is 2021’s Hyacinth Bouquet with a different - insta/top end of of John Lewis - backdrop. The predictability of her Surrey dullness means the kids will be sent to a better school at aged 8 and they will acquire a 4 by 4.

I mean 2020 as opposed to 2021!

Meanwhile - Hyacinth Bouquets (Bucket’s) comedic character was based on
the notion of a compensatory narcissist. In other words, someone who is driven by a relentless and resentful need to be the envy of others. They create a public image of superiority, status, and competence, driving their children towards achievement, never being happy with their husband’s efforts to prop them up.

But in Anna’s case, she has taken it to another level. As she wants to confuse us by pretending she hasn’t really got it all under control, that she doesn’t really want to be superior. Because she is real, and relatable.

I think on this thread, we have established that Anna is focussed on trying to one-up on everyone else and be seen by others to have-it-all. Most people on here can see she has to compensate for a deep seated inferiority - by trying to prove her superiority.

But why does Anna behave like this? Possibly because she has a deep feeling of being defective, inferior, or invalid in important respects; or that she could be exposed for the inadequate person that she is. She therefore wants to gain the admiration and recognition of others. Her sense of esteem is dependent primarily on the reactions of others rather than on her own natural confidence. There is therefore an overemphasis on status, appearance, social acceptance, money, or achievement -- as means of gaining approval, admiration, or attention.

 

[Italy2]

I mean 2020 as opposed to 2021!

Meanwhile - Hyacinth Bouquets (Bucket’s) comedic character was based on
the notion of a compensatory narcissist. In other words, someone who is driven by a relentless and resentful need to be the envy of others. They create a public image of superiority, status, and competence, driving their children towards achievement, never being happy with their husband’s efforts to prop them up.

But in Anna’s case, she has taken it to another level. As she wants to confuse us by pretending she hasn’t really got it all under control, that she doesn’t really want to be superior. Because she is real, and relatable.

I think on this thread, we have established that Anna is focussed on trying to one-up on everyone else and be seen by others to have-it-all. Most people on here can see she has to compensate for a deep seated inferiority - by trying to prove her superiority.

But why does Anna behave like this? Possibly because she has a deep feeling of being defective, inferior, or invalid in important respects; or that she could be exposed for the inadequate person that she is. She therefore wants to gain the admiration and recognition of others. Her sense of esteem is dependent primarily on the reactions of others rather than on her own natural confidence. There is therefore an overemphasis on status, appearance, social acceptance, money, or achievement -- as means of gaining approval, admiration, or attention.

Completely agree with the above. I think you are completely right. She is also deeply in love with herself. She records herself everyday. Even today she recorded herself with the right angle, makeup and lightning being fed by Florence and pretending not to look at the camera then you can see her checking herself out from the side eye. It's really creepy.

I also think that her inferiority stems from her emotionally negligent relationship with her parents. I feel that she is very insecure because she didn't get attention from her parents as a child. She is desperately gagging for attention constantly. Her relationship with her dad is not very good and that has probably aided her self esteem issues.

She is a wick though because she has a good husband, house and kids but is as ungrateful as she can be. Constant meltdowns, tantrums and whinging.

She wants constant adoration and love. Watch her replies to the comments on her posts. She acts as if she is a hero and saving the mankind. Her job is to make people feel good about themselves not make herself feel and look good to others.

Is she a middle child??

 

[Lilinpops83]

Completely agree with the above. I think you are completely right. She is also deeply in love with herself. She records herself everyday. Even today she recorded herself with the right angle, makeup and lightning being fed by Florence and pretending not to look at the camera then you can see her checking herself out from the side eye. It's really creepy.

I also think that her inferiority stems from her emotionally negligent relationship with her parents. I feel that she is very insecure because she didn't get attention from her parents as a child. She is desperately gagging for attention constantly. Her relationship with her dad is not very good and that has probably aided her self esteem issues.

She is a wick though because she has a good husband, house and kids but is as ungrateful as she can be. Constant meltdowns, tantrums and whinging.

She wants constant adoration and love. Watch her replies to the comments on her posts. She acts as if she is a hero and saving the mankind. Her job is to make people feel good about themselves not make herself feel and look good to others.

Is she a middle child??

The preening /checking herself out on camera has reached new heights. She is unashamedly vain and her followers drink it up like liquid gold.

It is bizarre and almost cult like.

 

[Basicbasic]

She does it because it's made her very very rich very quickly. I don't doubt that she's self obsessed and that's part of the reason she shares so much crap but the main reason is that she's realised how easy it is to fleece vulnerable mums.

She is really despicable.

 

[Lilinpops83]

She does it because it's made her very very rich very quickly. I don't doubt that she's self obsessed and that's part of the reason she shares so much crap but the main reason is that she's realised how easy it is to fleece vulnerable mums.

She is really despicable.

I am sure you are right. But the underlying personality/character is that of a narcissist.

Most narcissists present as very confident, and the smarter they are, the more likely they are to tie you up in a web of coercive control.
I am sure we could unpack what she is doing and find the coercive control here; let me empathise with how small, vulnerable and weak you are.

And then let me gas light you by pretending to be on your side, when in fact, I am working in my own interests, and not yours.

Having said all that, her narcissism is solving for a deep rooted insecurity. Not that we should feel sorry for her, as you say - she is making a rich living from all of this manipulation.

Which is of course the problem with narcissists - they take advantage of others, for their own gain.

 

[Italy2]

Florence is crying in 2 of her stories today on 2 separate occasions but she continues to record herself. Maybe you are having meltdowns because you are not paying attention to your kids. She is constantly recording herself and no wonder the kids are feeling left out and crying.... Why would she even think of recording herself when she is in the park with the kids...

What is the point of this story?!? What good is it doing to anyone? Just sort your kids out. You can hear Florence crying and having a tantrum in the background...

 

[Lilinpops83]

Anna whitens her teeth because of an accident she had when she was ten.

Anna - love - you whiten your teeth because you are obsessed with what you look like.

And you want to be flawless.

Tell the truth.

Oh no, you can’t tell the truth can you. Because you are not the truth and never will be.

 

[sunnysideup]

She does it because it's made her very very rich very quickly. I don't doubt that she's self obsessed and that's part of the reason she shares so much crap but the main reason is that she's realised how easy it is to fleece vulnerable mums.

She is really despicable.

It’s completely unethical.

 

[bringingdownthebs]

See she’s finally admitted to the nanny!!

 

[Basicbasic]

See she’s finally admitted to the nanny!!

She had no choice, tattlers noticed ages ago. Bet she'll put a self care spin on it.

 

[bringingdownthebs]

She had no choice, tattlers noticed ages ago. Bet she'll put a self care spin on it.

So the nanny is live in, according to her stories tonight?! No wonder she has time for baths and yoga!!

 

[Clare]

So the nanny is live in, according to her stories tonight?! No wonder she has time for baths and yoga!!

wow! How relatable Anna - makes her ridiculous breakdowns seem even more disingenuous

 

[Italy2]

She has a live in nanny!! Wowww! She is such a liar! I'm still in shock...

 

[bringingdownthebs]

wow! How relatable Anna - makes her ridiculous breakdowns seem even more disingenuous

agreed! I always followed her because I thought she was like me - struggling to juggle everything in her life because her husband works long hours so she’s solo parenting most of the time! Now I know she doesn’t it’s really pissed me off!! I’d manage and cope way better if I had a live in Nanny! Then I definitely could practice this “self care” that she so often promotes!!

 

[Basicbasic]

I wonder what made her finally come clean? It won't have been her choice to do so that's for sure. It doesn't fit with her narrative that she's just like other vulnerable, busy, stressed mums (the ones she likes to exploit the most). Let's hope this is the beginning of the end of her charade.

 

[Kema]

I wonder what made her finally come clean? It won't have been her choice to do so that's for sure. It doesn't fit with her narrative that she's just like other vulnerable, busy, stressed mums (the ones she likes to exploit the most). Let's hope this is the beginning of the end of her charade.

Tattlers calling her out, advertised for a nanny on fb