oliviasoon1
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This is another demographic of the group - not the naive, young girls with no experience, but the disappointed girlfriends and wives. You have to look amazing, stay fit, take care of the home, work full time and excel in your career, cook and clean, not complain when you receive no help while your SO plays video games on the couch (or whatever he likes to do). It's sad, it's shattering. After a few years of such a relationship, a girl will feel bad because she 'nags and emasculates her boo', according to him. Meanwhile, her career is skyrocketing and she manages to double her income - no wonder he's feeling emasculated. So the clever ones leave, the emotionally vulnerable ones get used. I have countless stories from other women - always the same narrative, only the details vary. That's why SOA is so appealing to some. This is when a man is lazy and inconsiderate. The ones who want to leave a kind and great partner labeling them 'average' because he has no luxurious aspirations are being brainwashed.It brought them out the home, and inside the home, men still think in their cavemen ways. This isn't true in the Scandinavian countries where Anna grew up, but it's definitely a reality in America. Women are expected to go 50/50 on the bills, on dates, but give 100 on the housework, child rearing, and sex. No wonder they want to buy this dream that a Prince Charming will save them from the drudgery.
For the vast majority of the middle class, however, it's very difficult to survive on one income. Added to that the harsh truth is that if you make more than your man he will feel emasculated. Unless he is a user, in which case he'll be happy to take your money. It's a complicated issue.
Women who follow their natural instinct to find a provider man are shamed. Modern wisdom says we are supposed to look for potential, or personality. Conversely, men are allowed to look at shallow things like attractiveness and bring nothing to the table but their penises. So a cute loser who sits on our couch while we work our butts off.
I think I understand her student demographic now. Put yourself in the place of a woman who has spent her youth pursuing career and education, and now finds she has effectively "priced herself out of the market". The men that are her peers are in less successful jobs. These men want younger, more attractive, but less accomplished, women. Anna represents false hope that they will get their happily ever after moment.
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