i've decided to take one for the team, i've wasted my brain cell and watched the video.
MY THOUGHTS (in a nutshell): Anna took buzzwords and psychological stuff from Dr. Internet and projected her own problems to create this half hour of brain rot
Anna starts by complaining that "HaLf oF wOmEn oVeR 30 aRe sInGLe aNd ChiLdLesS" which there is nothing wrong with. And aren't you, dear mango Anna, in that SAME CATEGORY? hypocrite. Also, why is this a "problem" that needs "fixing"???? let people live.
Our next complaint is that most people are wearing headphones, glued to phones and because of that we can't flirt in a waiting room or a gym????? I don't know about you, but I personally would not want someone flirting with me while I work out, so I'll keep my headphones on thanks. I agree that yes we are very reliant on technology, but that's nothing new.
Anna talks about dating apps and admits to using them herself. *GASP* but isn't the eleghunt thing to do is meet people in the gym??? or the grocery store??? already a minute in and this is missing circus music. I agree on her point that there are many creeps on dating apps though.
Now this is where things get interesting: she goes on about needing to go through/be "customer service" to find matches on these apps. confusing, but we move on
She talks about how women judge men based on loyalty, humor, etc, and then it cuts to "maybe his bank account" instead of his looks. Projecting (?)
Ah, and of course "women can take hours to get ready for a date." no comment, and followed by more complaining about toxicity on dating apps (this is valid)
Her memes and the cut to ariana grande, antonio garza style edits of her and pretending the 4 seasons (other hotel maybe????) is her home is really cringeworthy.
She says more garbage and then starts her next point about "both genders, including women" (would saying "both genders" not already include women????), and then more words about being "on his level"
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She says so many words and they all mean nothing, and then says that settling is a mature choice. No Anna, no it's not. A mature choice would be graciously walking away if something is not right for you. It also goes very much against what she previously taught, which is to never settle. Her whole brand was built on not settling and finding a high value man, so why the switch?? also, delulu land? really?
Now calling society emotionally underdeveloped, then saying how her going to therapy made her self aware of her emotions. If we were so emotionally underdeveloped, in theory we would not be having conversations around mental health, trauma, healing, and general mental wellness. Sure, we have a very long way to go, but Anna is the furthest thing from self aware and SHE in fact has a mansion over in delulu land.
Things Anna "did" in therapy:
1. remove insecurities (yet bashes other people, acts holier than thou, lies pathologically-very secure)
2. Grow self esteem (so this is basically just the first point)
3. Grow confidence (just repeating the second point, also she is very confident to wear some of these heinous outfits and blue chanellas in the forest)
Aaaaaaand, we discovered Anna is a Freudian, because she believes that people with childhood trauma select partners who reflect their problematic parents. Don't know about you guys, but I personally don't feel like dating my parents, or like dating anyone similar to those who caused me trauma.
We also have a "pandemic of single people" apparently. Anna, there's actual pandemics in this world. We also as a Western society have poor mental health (true, we are stressed because the world is a mess), and we are individualistic.
More of Anna editing her face on things. And apparently men and women are out of sync and still goes on about these generalized modern values and modern "climate" and talks about the old days where we were on the same page but "enslaved to the kitchen" (oh lordy, I can't handle the brain rot anymore)
She rambles on and on and on about "disbalance" and is basically going all "woe is me"
Now, how do we "fix" this:
1. accept it for what it is, do copy paste (what????)
2. treat online dating as a numbers game, avoid being customer service, be detached
3. make it effective for you
4. "natural" dating
5. don't be glued to your phone, engage in the world, be interested without being creepy (funny coming from you)
6. detach from the outcome, or you'll give up
Anna's advice: get out of metropolitan cities because the people there are busy (wait, so if it's a numbers game like you said, why would I not want a larger selection???)
7. do not put your eggs in one basket, date multiple people at the same time (she clarifies it's not a pass to sleep around though)
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Next video: why are we dressing so sloppy (she already did this)
last thing I recall from Banana was that island trip to her friend's "wedding", not that weird to catch something in that context tbh.
